HELP. Day 10 woke up great.. then downhill... ugh...

Discussion created by Linn2331 on Jan 11, 2021
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Day 10. I woke up excited because I didn’t feel agitated or have cravings. Then my family had put things on fb I responded kindly to, niece and nephew were rude. My sister was laughing about it and I was nearly in tears. She has been so aggressive since I quit (she smokes) and then i get out of bed, nose is bleeding. Does not happen with me. Now I am almost in tears, angry and ready to say screw it. My heart palpitates, I feel like my BP is up. I do not want to fall apart because I am quitting. I mean day 10! ALMOST TWO weeks.

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dsprague Jan 11, 2021 2:03 PM
Please don’t give up you have come to far for that, let what say in one ear and out the other. Don’t lower yourself to that level. Some people get jealous because we can make things happen. Stay strong we are here for you.
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- Linn2331 @ dsprague on Jan 11, 2021 2:41 PM
  Thank you! I didn’t cave but man I came close but came here and just started reading then tried a walk. It is hard when it is family but this is my new ex smokers family and I appreciate all of you so much! Thank you!
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Youngatheart.7.4.12 Jan 11, 2021 2:17 PM
RIGHT N0W! Do this breathing exercise. Raise your arms out in front of your shoulders with the inhale, let them fall back to your sides with the exhale:
Nothing that has happened will be impacted by smoking. It ALL will still have happened, and the impact will be GREATER if you lose your quit over it.

THEN - march in place, or go for a walk, or call a friend.

Just don't smoke, ya' HEAR?!!!

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- Linn2331 @ Youngatheart.7.4.12 on Jan 11, 2021 2:45 PM
  Thank you! You are so right. I didn’t cave. Came here and read, then tried some exercise. Then cried. Do not have any physical friends but have some here. I did NOT cave. So glad. Thank you again so much! I also did the breathing! I just found badges! How do we follow?
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Cousin-Itt Jan 11, 2021 2:39 PM
You're doing great at 10 days. You are accomplishing what most smokers dream of doing
The chart bellow may help you. Know what to expect can make things
Just stay strong You'll do fine

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- Linn2331 @ Cousin-Itt on Jan 11, 2021 2:48 PM
  Thank you! I appreciate it so much!!!! I just found badges. Yours showed me a place to follow but did not see it but one other time. How do we follow?
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  - Youngatheart.7.4.12 @ Linn2331 on Jan 11, 2021 2:50 PM
    Linn2331
    Go to the page of the person you want to follow by clicking on their avatar. In the current format (sometimes it changes!) there is a box under the large banner on the far right to "Follow."
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    - Linn2331 @ Youngatheart.7.4.12 on Jan 11, 2021 2:53 PM
      Thank you!
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    - Linn2331 @ Youngatheart.7.4.12 on Jan 11, 2021 11:17 PM
      Youngatheart.7.4.12. I found mentions! Rachy2283, elvan indingrl.01.06.2011 Youngatheart.7.4.12 JACKIE1-25-15 Barbscloud dsprague vol876 Cousin-Itt Thesegoto11! Now if I can remember to do this when answering! Thank you all so much!
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      - elvan @ Linn2331 on Jan 11, 2021 11:21 PM
        SEE Linn2331 you DID IT, all of those @ mentions, good job.
        Ellen
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Barbscloud Jan 11, 2021 2:48 PM
It may seem like you're getting back at them, but remember if you smoke, you're only hurting yourself. Stay busy. Got for a walk if you can.
Barb
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indingrl.01.06.2011 Jan 11, 2021 3:30 PM
Thanks for sharing and CONGRATS on 10 DOF - your doing really good by blogging and sharing
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- Linn2331 @ indingrl.01.06.2011 on Jan 11, 2021 10:26 PM
  Thank you! I hope Ambe it can someone else know we are not alone. These waters are rough! Lol. Thanks so much for the encouragement!
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sweetplt Jan 11, 2021 3:42 PM
Hon...Linn2331 social media can be so awful...and not for the sensitive and those first quitting ... maybe limit your time on it. You did coming here...don’t give in because of family ... Gotcha in my thoughts...hang in there and don’t smoke...it will only make you feel worse...You got this...~ Colleen 770 DOF
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elvan Jan 11, 2021 3:52 PM
Oh man, l am so sorry you are struggling, l can tell you that it will get better. It takes time & no one can tell you exactly how much time, keep coming here, cry when you need to, stomp your feet, exercise. ANYTHING but smoking! You are doing so well, seriously, you are doing everything right!
Ellen
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DavesTime Jan 12, 2021 10:30 AM
Right now, with Covid and politics, friends and family are saying things that they never would have said previously. We are all stressed. Put quitting smoking (a GOOD thing!) on top of it, and it is hard. Social media is conducive to brutal behavior. I think your sister (the smoker) is probably envious of you succeeding in something she doesn't have the courage to do. But you are DOING it! Congratulations on choosing life and health and freedom! You can get past this. Glad you are here!
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Marilyn.H.July.14.14. Jan 12, 2021 10:42 AM
You've got this quit firmly in your grasp deep breaths and believe in yourself because we believe in you and we're rooting you on, You are doing super fantastic with your awesome quit journey Congratulations on entering the DDC Double Digit Club YAY for 10 splendiferous Smokefree days and counting WTG YAY for each and every Day WON with many more to come......
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Thesegoto11 Jan 12, 2021 11:19 AM
Two weeks into my Quit, got into a heated argument with a sibling whom I suspected of pilfering things out of our aging parent's house. Sitting in my car in the drive, when I got off the phone was hit with an overwhelming desire for a smoke. One of the strongest I'd felt since quitting. Thankfully there were none in the car. As strong as my original decision to quit was, not sure I could survived that one.

Got out and walked around the drive to cool off and think about the strength of the urge. Reminded myself I still had the drive home so could always stop and buy cigarettes if the feeling were still there. Fortunately, I also reminded myself that quitting is a relearning process. You have to go through all the situations where you used to smoke before, but not smoke now. Thankfully the drive home took my mind off the incident so I stayed smoke-free.

You've demonstrated commitment, which means if you relapse now, you'll just start another Quit later. Think of your 10 days as an investment. If you throw it away now, you'll just start over. Best of luck.
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marciem Jan 12, 2021 1:30 PM

You're doing GREAT, Linn2331... and all these emotional swings are SOOOO normal. Remember you're still in Heck week.

Suggestion: if FB postings are bothering you or not supportive of your quit ... don't go there. Just for a while, not forever. Just like giving up alcohol in the early weeks, just for a while, is a good idea, so is disconnecting from negative feedback. I know its hard.

Your new quit is just like a newborn baby that needs to be coddled and nurtured and PROTECTED at all costs. It will get stronger so that you can get back to some of your normal routines (without smoking) but this quit is right now your #1 priority and needs to stay that way. Don't take it around COVID carriers and don't take it around negative energy!

Keep on doing what you're doing, follow the advices you've gotten above (I didn't read them all but I know the posters and I know they give good advice! ), and make it easy on yourself in every way possible.

Great job coming here and ranting and venting and reading and posting instead of lighting up!! Each time you do this, YOU and your quit get stronger!!!
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- Linn2331 @ marciem on Jan 12, 2021 2:39 PM
  marciem thank you so much! I did just what you said to get away from the negativity. I am so glad to have found all of you and the support means so very much and heck yeah! Those mood swings are crazy!
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