Myself, no I don’t, I AM FREE from you over and over!
My go to was and still is N.O.P.E.~ Not One Puff Ever ~ N.M.W ~ No Matter What was what I used to yell in my early days and weeks of quitting smoking that I don't smoke anymore I'd yell it over and over that I don't do that anymore it worked for me but it took time to relearn life without the smokes, I'm glad there was no one around when I was doing the yelling lol!
Love this! Yes, as you know day 9 now for me but oh have I done some yelling! And crying! But I have started saying the NOPE. Thank you!
dsprague It is rare I ever have this want anymore, but in the early days, I would talk to myself and say “keep busy and tomorrow will be better” now if it happens, I say, “you don’t do that anymore”....~ Colleen
Oh so many things I would tell myself. "Get over it." "You CAN do this." "Attitude Stupid." "Buck up." "Think of it as a challenge. What am I SUPPOSED TO LEARN FROM THIS MISERABLE EXPERIENCE!" "I WILL NOT give in." "La la la la la!" 'JUST GO AWAY!!" I said that a lot to my nicodemon. JUST GO AWAY AND LEAVE ME ALONE! Some say you should't personalize it as a separate entity or "demon." It worked for me to do so. I think of it as the lesser of myself (or worst of myself) fighting against that Best of myself. That Best of me knows what's good for me. And knows what I should do to make that happen. The worst of me is the weaker part, the desperately needy part, the part that has no self-discipline. The worst of me chooses the easy way out. The Best of me knows that it's the easy way out but that ultimately sticking with a commitment produces the results I actually want. And that Best of me knows that if I DO stick to my commitments, I'll feel better about myself, be more empowered and happier ultimately.
These days, after almost a 15 year quit I tell myself - "yeah yeah, been there, done that, don't like the craving hope it goes away soon and I know it will but what a pain in the butt until it does." But at this point there is no way I am going to smoke. Because I really REALLY don't want to go back to where I was. I mean seriously. When I have a craving now it's just such a pain in the butt. I'm no longer surprised by them but they're just an annoyance. There is no serious thought of putting a cigarette in my mouth. I may like the smell but... the cost (on so many levels) of putting a cigarette in my mouth at this point is - out of the realm of logical, sane thinking for me. So what do you do? You take it as given that you're just going to have a craving now and again and put up with it and get over it.
NOPE, works for me.
I Don't Do That Anymore
Since I don't DO that anymore, what else can I do?
STOP IT was another of my tools to stop arguing with myself about smoking.
No, not today---and that was 7.25 years ago!!! Whatever works!
I use what I was taught here “I don’t do that anymore!” And I pray “Lord, help me!”
What a great question! Here are some of my favorite self-talks from the tough moments:
"OK, let's not rush into this. Why don't you tell me why you think it's a good idea to start smoking again . . . after all we've been through."
"OK, you got me. You're more powerful than me. I surrender. Obviously, I didn't realize how powerful you were. So, now what do we do?"
"You know this is truly amazing. You come in here like some kind of apparition from another planet, I have no idea what's going on, don't know if this is a withdrawal symptom or not, but after searching my mind it's the only explanation I can think of. So, what now? Oh, OK, you've decided to leave. See you next time."
"Please, don't hurt me. I'll do anything you want . . . except get dressed, grab my wallet, head down to the car, and drive to the nearest convenience store to buy cigarettes. That's too much."
NOPE no matter what. No, I do not want a cigarette.
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