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Gracedbylove
Member

Tomorrow I quit

This is probably my 50th time quitting. I have smoked for 25 years. I have the strong fear and desire to stop if that makes sense. I have a good support system. Just rambling at this point but if I can be a year sober from alcohol and substances I can do this. 

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maryfreecig
Member

Yes you can do this one day at a time. Welcome to Ex. Please stick around--as a community of quitters we get the weirdness of quitting and are ready to listen. Blog, comment, read, learn as you wish.

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/newbie-quitters/blog/2019/01/27/one-of-the-greatest-tools-... by Jackie

/blogs/oldbones-larry/2019/07/01/the-smithy by Larry (Larry wrote this for quitters approaching No Man's Land--but I think it applies just as well to the very first step taken on a quit journey.)

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Gracedbylove
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Thank you so much! I just downloaded those resources and I will be here as much as possible to receive support. 

maryfreecig
Member

Great to hear Gracedbylove.  One step, then another.

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AnnetteMM
Member

Of course you can. You know you can.

So what's so special about tomorrow?

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Barbscloud
Member

Weclome to the Ex Gracedbylove Congrats on decision to quit.   Today is a great day to celebrate your  journey to freedom. 

 Spend time on the site educating yourself about nicotine addiction and creating a quit plan.  My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX  Knowledge and preparation lead to success.   Most of us have had many attempts to quit.  I smoked for 50 years and just celebrated 2 years smoke free yesterday.   The people on this site are great examples that you can do it too.  The support here is fabulous.   I know how much it contributed to my success.  We're here to support you any time you need encouragement or just want to share your journey.  

 

 Taking the Daily Pledge not to smoke each day it a great way to begin your day smoke free.

Barb 

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YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to the community!

 

Congratulations on your decision to quit smoking.  It is one you will never regret!

 

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This easy and entertaining read provided a world of good information about nicotine addiction, most of which I was not aware.  I credit it in large part with my success at quitting.   You can search for it online or at your local library.


 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.

 

You didn't mention if you have decided to use a quit aid,  If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract.   I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them..  For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum.  For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for currently obvious reasons:

 

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...


The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.


Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

Gracedbylove
Member

thank you Nancy!

Youre so right about switching the thought in my head. The fact is, smoking will No longer be an option. I ge so anxious thinking about not having THAT anymore and then i remind myself that no one is making me do this. I am choosing to stop. It is almost as if I am battling myself.

sweetplt
Member

Great advice above me...do the work and keep close to this support site.  We are here to help you...In the meantime...Welcome to Ex’s...Gracedbylove ... Colleen 493 DOF