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Metalhead1998
Member

Trying this website for advice on quitting 4/6/2020

I started smoking in August of 2019, I am 21 and I am trying to stop smoking but it seems like I can never make it past the 1-2 week mark. Stress is my usual trigger, because I have piles of schoolwork that gives me anxiety. I dont really have much support because most of my friends smoke marijuana and I feel like they look down on me for smoking cigarettes or vaping but its kind of hypocritical. I do not want to tell my parents because they are another trigger for me if they fight or annoy me. I have no romantic interest at the moment and struggle with depression since I have stopped smoking a week ago and the onset of the isolation social distancing standard set in NJ. I am scared because I see that if you smoke you are at a higher risk to have serious problems with breathing if you contract Corona. I usually look up pictures of cigarrete and vape lungs but when I am stressed out I am still craving the nicotine. I would run but I am not motivated and I just want any advice anyone can give because before joining the site I plugged my juul in to charge and I am doing this to get my mind off of my cravings. I do not want to drive to 7-11 but I am proud of myself for making it this far. Stress, anxiety, and depression are reasons for my repeated relapse after 1-2 weeks. I will go text my friend that hates that I smoke so maybe he will help me out in the short term. 

8 Replies
maryfreecig
Member

Welcome to Ex! Now you have a community to visit everyday as often as you wish. And a community to talk to. We're here 365. Congratulations on the quit you have already achieved on your own. Please stick around, keep reading and learning...keep talking. Quitting is a one day at a time job. We don't get over the addiction in 10 minutes or a week. It takes time to walk out of it and gain perspective. All doable one day at a time. Some reading below that is very helpful--written by Exers. Hope you take the time to read.

Quit Kit aka Tool Box by Giulia

Dopamine - the Double Edged Blade by Thomas

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/newbie-quitters/blog/2019/01/27/one-of-the-greatest-tools-... by Jackie

MarilynH
Member

Welcome to the community Metalhead1998,  you can do this quit believe it deep breaths and know that we're all here to help you in any way we can please read everything you can because there's a wealth of information right here on this site to strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb permanently it's not easy by any stretch of the imagination in those early days and weeks of quitting smoking BUT boy oh boy it's so worth it to be Free, be willing determined and totally committed to succeed then there's no you will fail stick with N.O.P.E and vigilance N.M.W because it works when applied on a daily basis......

indingrl
Member

Welcome deep breathing helps - in-house exercises utube OR bite a lemon when YOU crave OR call YOUR friend for support OR BLOG again just to VENT stressed and WHATEVER emotions to share - congrats on STAYING a NON SMOKER

sweetplt
Member

HI and Welcome to Ex’s Metalhead1998 

Glad you found our site.  We are all in this journey together and here to help you out.  May I recommend you read at My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX  there you will prepare for your quit, become somewhat knowledgable in quitting nicotine and learn about your triggers.  Remember we all have used every reason why we could ‘t quit...but in time you will realize what we did and that is they are all excuses.  In the beginning, it’s about keeping the quit and what healthy activity you will do in place of smoking.  (Ie., take a walk, take a shower, meditate, pray, etc.,)...This is not easy, but it is doable and takes hard work.  Keep close to the support site to get help and to encourage others on this journey.  Make Day 1 ... Day won....~ Colleen 490 DOF 

Be safe and Be well...

Maki
Member

Well I'm impressed with you . Good job deciding to quit smoking . You are smart . You've looked for support , you've found it . You want to quit it's going to be up to the choices you make . Don't light up , post . Don't buy , bum , beg or borrow . Say nope .. I don't do that anymore and do something different . Make up an indoor excersise program when craves hit , do push-ups lol , just joking but it might actually work . I sing , but I took up playing guitar when I quit .. great fun .  It's a great de stressor . These are just ideas , you know you best . Maybe you like writing or drawing , or shooting baskets ... 

Read people profiles blogs things like that , the mayo blog , best of ex , it will help to know about how addiction keeps us hooked ... it's cool btw to be a non smoker ... glad you are quitting . 

Sootie
Member

Welcome to our Community.....we are all here for each other.

Here are the facts:

>FAN-DAMN-TASTIC that you are quitting so young and with not much time as a smoker. This lessens the damage you have done to your lungs and over all health than those of us who smoked for many,many years.

>1-2 week mark is a typical time for all quitters to relapse. It's because the excitement of the first quit days are over. And you begin to realize, this may take awhile.....you have to establish a new normal

>It may be worse for you because you ARE young and young people tend to have an "I'll live forever" attitude. Which is great....it's part of being young. But, when trying to beat an addiction, it can be a deadly attitude. For some members in the EXCommunity, their doctors were telling them...quit or you will die.

>You sound like you have a plan and you are determined. This attitude will really help you through. You CAN do this....we all did and we are no different than you.

Stay Strong and stay in touch with the site.....the support is so helpful in success.

YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to the community!

Congratulations on your decision to quit at such a young age.  Your body will have plenty of time to heal itself from any damage done!

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This easy and entertaining read provided a world of good information about nicotine addiction, most of which I was not aware.  I credit it in large part with my success at quitting. You can search for it online or at your local library.

You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract.   I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them.. For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum.  For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, 3) it maintains the addiction to nicotine, and 4) they are proving to be unsafe.

It will be informative if you do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. As you track each cigarette smoked, note its importance, and what you might do instead. Put each one off just a little to prove that you don't NEED a cigarette just because you think you do.

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.

You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!

 Nancy

Barbscloud
Member

Just wanted to add my welcome.  Be proud that you've decided to quit so young.  You're avoiding so many health issues from years of smoking/vaping.  Stay close.  We're here to support you.

Barb