I slipped big time and smoked last night and today I didn't ask for help from the community I'll pick up and start my quit tommorrow
I'm sorry you smoked instead of coming here and talking it out, kuzoosandbigaboosFeb.19mine ... it might have saved your quit.
BUT, on the upside, good for you for getting right back on the wagon!!
There is no law that says you have to smoke any more today, you know? My quit started at 5 p.m. when I finally said "no more". I know, everyone feels like if they wake up in the morning and don't smoke, they're a few hours ahead of the game with the numbers. But hey, for as long as we smoked, we woke up every morning with those same hours ahead of the game, and did we quit? No. So there ya go.
Just suggesting and explaining why I feel that way. I also feel that you don't need to finish a pack ... some/most feel that they would be 'wasting' the money spent on those cigarettes, but in my opinion the $$ was wasted when the cigarettes were bought and paid for, whether they go up in smoke or down the toilet it is no more of a waste. The further waste is smoking them and ruining your health that much more.
OK, I'll shuttup . Just wanted to let you know I'm glad you're getting right back to it. It doesn't get easier down the line. Stay close!
kuzoosandbigaboosFeb.19mine I'm glad you're restarting your quit. I hope you learned from your mistake. To where you know what avoid. On the first site I was on they preached, post when you need help and wait for 3 responses before deciding. Also I don't know if you pledge everyday but in my case it helped me to the point that I still try to pledge every morning
The best to you
Welcome to the community!
You might spend a couple of minutes ascertaining the thought process that led you to smoke, and make a plan what you can do differently this time! Glad you are right back at it ! Here's where you can join other community members to pledge not to smoke each day: The Daily Pledge March 2020 A lot of folks find it very helpful for accountability.
The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This easy and entertaining read provided a world of good information about nicotine addiction, most of which I was not aware. I credit it in large part with my success at quitting. You can search for it online or at your local library.
You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract. I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them.. For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum. For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, 3) it maintains the addiction to nicotine, and 4) they are proving to be unsafe.
It will be informative if you do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. As you track each cigarette smoked, note its importance, and what you might do instead. Put each one off just a little to prove that you don't NEED a cigarette just because you think you do.
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced. Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T. You need to distract yourself through any craves. You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game. Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits. Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas: https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instead-of-smoke
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?" Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
Toss those darned things! Make your start easier on yourself, the sooner the better.
pmt 20 DOF
> smoked last night and today
Remember how you feel now, the next time you want to light-up. Not a "failure" but "learning". It does not feel good 15 minutes after you snub-out.
Some people can just stop. I have, twice, 30 years apart.
Some people have to "stutter". A friend 'quit' 5 years ago, but every few months he buys a pack, smokes three, feels horrible about it, and throws the pack away. I think he has found his path. 12 a year beats heck out of 7665 a year.
Yes, throw the leftovers AWAY!! When I quit, both times, I had plenty. This time I had about 212 butts (a full carton and a part-pack). I built a fire, then threw each pack in the flames, stirred the ashes. (I thought I might get nicotine OD; actually with boxes and filters it was too rank to stand near.) I knew if I put them aside I would find them again; if I drowned them in water a few days later I would be drying them in the sun (yuk). I certainly won't go in the smoke-shop. I don't go in the quickie-mart without a buddy.
Hello and Welcome to Ex’s...kuzoosandbigaboosFeb.19mine
I found this time with my quit...what helped was a plan, knowledge and hard work....May I suggest, you read at My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX where you will make a quit date and plan for that day like no other. Then, you need to read everything you can about quitting smoking, addiction and the blogs here at this site...the night before your quit throw all smoking paraphernalia away. Then come here for any and all support and to encourage others on this journey. You can do this and we are here for you...preparation can make all the difference...and a mind set of choosing each moment not to smoke...we are here for you...now get working...Gotcha in my thoughts ~ Colleen 462 DOF
Sorry to hear that. Glad you're starting right over--that means your committed. Please ask for help if this happens again. These folks saved my early quit several times. That's what we're here for, so reach out. Support can result in a successful quit.
Glad that you are here, please stay close to the site. At least you are here NOW. Welcome back.
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