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alissastump
Member

Hello

Hello everyone.  Newbie here,  working on 5 DOF.  I'm really excited to have found this site.  I have been browsing through the blogs and I really enjoy reading about everyone's successes.  I also have found relief in reading of the struggles too.  Reminds me that I'm human and I am not alone in this. 

Everyone on here seems to be so close.  I am so proud to be joining the EXer community.

I am quitting for my second (quit previously for 4 years) and last time.  I am a mother of 4 beautiful/crazy/wild kids.

I work full time, take care of my kids and manage my house pretty much all on my own.  But I'm not complaining,  just sayin'.. if I can be Superwoman daily,  I know I have this smoking thing down. 

But not to overestimate my self or my strength in this-  There is strength in numbers.  Any advice or encouragement that any of you have is more than welcomed.  I hope to make many new friendships here!

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YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to the community!

Congratulations on your decision to quit smoking and your first 5 days!  It is a decision you will NEVER regret!  Please take the time to do the reading, and take what you can use from the tips I will give you.  You didn't say if you are using a quit aid, so I am giving you my thoughts on them. 

 

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This easy and entertaining read provided a world of good information about nicotine addiction, most of which I was not aware.  I credit it in large part with my success at quitting.   You can search for it online or at your local library.


 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.

 

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract.   I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them..  For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum.  For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion,  3) it maintains the addiction to nicotine, and 4) they are proving to be unsafe.

 

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...


The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.


Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

alissastump
Member

Hi Nancy,  I am using Chantix as an aid.  Thanks for all the tips.  I have noticed a lot of people suggesting the same book.  I plan to check it out.  Thanks for all the tips,  looks like I have a bit of homework to do!

maryfreecig
Member

Welcome to Ex. Thanks for sharing your quit progress over the past 5 days. As soon as you joined, you now have a quit family 365. Congratulations on quitting, and what a great outlook you have. Keep it coming.

sweetplt
Member

Hello and Welcome to Ex’s...alissastump 

You have received some great advice above me...be sure to keep close to the support site for help and to encourage others in this journey.  You can do this, we are all here for you...~ Colleen 436 DOF 

elvan
Member

I think this site saved my quit and therefore my life.  Any mother of four who works full time and manages a household is already super human.  Quitting does not require being super human, what it DOES require is education about the addiction, support from others who have been where you are and your own commitment not to smoke, NMW, No Matter What.  My mantra when I quit was NOPE, Not One Puff Ever and I said it over and over and over again.  I stayed very close to this site and read blogs, commented, asked for advice and took it when it was offered.  It has been an amazing journey that is over six years old now.  You can do this and remember that it gets easier.

Welcome to EX.

Ellen

Sootie
Member

Congrats on 5 days! You are almost through your first week and then on to the rest of your life.

We are happy to have you join our community. I credit this place with 95% of my success in quitting.....5% was me

I've been here 10 years and the people who first welcomed me and supported me have become life long friends. I like your positive attitude....it will see you through the rough times.

Welcome to EX....we are all here for each other!

Barbscloud
Member

Welcome to the Ex and congrats on your 5 days.  You've already gotten great advice.  If you need support, just reach out.  We're here for you.

Barb

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