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Sje
Member

Another try

I quit smoking for 5 months, started again and have been stopped and started several times since, which was now 7months ago. I will stop again tomorrow. Thank you for all you write here—I hover and read when it pops up in my email (whoever is responsible for that algorithm—thank you for not deleting me for not posting or even clicking to the site very often—you have helped me keep remembering to get back in the fight).
One good thing is that in those 7 months, I have never stopped thinking about quitting. Before my 5 month quit, I had only thought seriously about it once and quit for 3 days —after 40 years of smoking. Here goes...if you pray, please pray for me. Thank you for your encouragement—your stories inspire me. 

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YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to the community!

Good to see you!  Congratulations on your decision to quit.  I don't know how you prepared for your previous quit attempts, but I do know that the definition of insanity (by Einstein) is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result,  I hope you will learn, plan and prepare differently this time.  I am so sorry you lost a five month quit...I would also recommend that you think about what caused you to make that decision to smoke and plan ahead of time how you will handle that emotion/situation differently this time.

 

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This easy and entertaining read provided a world of good information about nicotine addiction, most of which I was not aware.  I credit it in large part with my success at quitting.   You can search for it online or at your local library.


 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.

 

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract.   I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them..  For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum.  For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion,  3) it maintains the addiction to nicotine, and 4) they are proving to be unsafe.

 

It will be informative if you do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. As you track each cigarette smoked, note its importance, and what you might do instead. Put each one off just a little to prove that you don't NEED a cigarette just because you think you do.
 

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...


The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.


Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

Sje
Member

Thank you, Nancy. I have read Allen Carr and have watched videos like they were oxygen! to WhyQuit.com. My first quit was cold turkey, I started again in grief. But, it was a decision - I “let myself” smoke because I felt everything was taken from me. The addiction’s voice is a “drama queen”—starting could’ve been for any reason. 

The mood swings are pretty unbearable for those around me. This time I will use the patch and the nicotine inhaler. I tried these once before and found the combination powerful—&-didn’t use the inhaler like it’s said you can (6 cartridges a day), but only when the cravings were particularly bad - 1 cartridge in 3 days. Trading addictions is absolutely true - I’ve seen this with others with other addictions many times.
For me it’s the decision and giving in to the voice. I’ll take all of your recommendations - except maybe that lemon rind - but maybe that’s the one I should take the most seriously. 
Thank you for your support—it’s a journey and the road is long. Thank you again. 

Barbscloud
Member

I used Welbutrin and the nicotrol inhaler.  I don't think I've met anyone else that used the inhaler. I didn't use the max each day either, but I really liked it to help with my quit.

Barb

Barbscloud
Member

Welcome and congratulations on your decision to quit.  Continue to educate yourself about nicotine addiction and work on your plan.   Knowledge and preparation really made the difference for me this time.  I'm just approaching two years and the support from this site has helped to make it possible.   Stay close and reach out if you need help.  That's what we're here for.  Looking forward to celebrating with you tomorrow!

Barb

Sje
Member

Thank you! If I can figure out how to move around on this site, I will call out “help!” I’ve tried before and find it a little less user friendly than some sites. 
For me the greatest difficulty are the mood swings—even with medical intervention the anger is pretty bad. I am well aware of the depth of this addiction, I’ve lived it! And like everyone else here, wish I had never started smoking. Thank you again.

Barbscloud
Member

You can Post to My Blog on home page.   You'll get the hang of it.  I'm sure I still do know everything, but that probably means I don't need it!

Barb

Roj
Member

Congrats on quitting for good this time...and that is exactly the mindset you need and don’t allow the “Drama Queen” voice tell you different....reread Allen Carr’s book, get some straws to chew on, and believe in yourself....your health is worth it. I’m 57 and just went to the doc to see if I had pneumonia because my chest is full of goop...disgusting...COPD and I have way too much left to enjoy in life...so please hold tight to this quit and make it your last. Blessings

Sje
Member

Thanks Roj. It’s been a hard day, isn’t that how it always goes? I’m looking at tomorrow with some trepidation but here goes. Thanks, again. 

sweetplt
Member

Hi Sje and so glad you are back to Ex’s and getting back on the wagon...Work it...and plan for tomorrow like other.  Be sure to keep close to the support site for our help and know the next time you want to pick up a smoke, you come here first and let us talk you out of it...You got this and we are here for YOU...Colleen 430 DOF