He is going above and beyond to help me. All I do is ***** and complain. What is the matter with me. He is going to give up on us. I need help
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He is going above and beyond to help me. All I do is ***** and complain. What is the matter with me. He is going to give up on us. I need help
Just me being hateful and cussing and fussing about little things. Just because I can't handle life right now and I take it out on him. I no God it's wrong I don't mean to but it happened. I have really hurt him
Something due to quitting smoking, in an anxiety, possible.
Try to be clam and steady. Situation will improve.
You are so early in your quit, I don’t suggest this normally, but Julie since you have been struggling so much with your emotions...how about talking to someone ... a therapist, or your family Doctor, just to learn where to place them...ie., I know I go to the gym and work out hard, and get my aggression out...you seem to need an outlet, but seem to need some one to help you find that outlet other than your partner... Also, another thought does the local hospital have a Quit smoking support group...perhaps you can talk to others and get some ideas what they do with their emotions. Honestly, I don’t want you to worry about losing your relationship on top of quitting...You need to find a way to get it out...~ I am so sorry ... this is my best advice right now...but still thinking...~ Colleen 402 DOF
I am there with you. I just had a big fight with my husband. I am more sensitive, more emotional, more everything right now. Nobody can really understand what we are going through except us. Hang in there if they love us it'll be okay. It's just going to take some time for all of us to get through our new lives. It's an adjustment for all of us.
Perhaps you might talk to your doctor about a Rx for something like Welbutrin to help take the edge off?
Hard to help if I don't know what you have tried? Are you exercising? Meditating? Singing/dancing to some music? These all might help alleviate the stress caused by quitting.
(btw - he is actually not being supportive if you have told him what is involved in quitting and he is still taking your grumpies personally. Explain to him that it has nothing to do with HIM!!!)
This phase IS going to end - you just have to get through it!
Hang in there!
Nancy
Does he have to go above and beyond? Does he feel he has to? Can't he just be normal around you. After all, there is very little he can really do to help you feel better. That is your job and it takes time. Bottom line please don't make this a choice between a relationship or quitting. Both are doable.
It is OK to complain about quitting here at Ex. You do not have to wear a smiley face. You can say what you need to say about how you feel about quitting. Exers are good at listening. It is OK to feel mad and angry about it all.
I have to agree with Swanbird This can be a very difficult and emotional time for many quitters.
Hang in there if they love us it'll be okay.
It is a new way of life and ending an addiction of any kind can be difficult on those close to us. It's a major change for us and therefore for those we love. Is he feeling the way you feel? Women can be so much more sensitive than men. Trust that it will be ok.
Hugs
Barb
How are you now Julie?
Better still having anxiety but not smoking
Glad you are better get out and walk or do something. I feel an incredible urge to smoke this morning and I don't get it. But I'm getting out of here and walking I know I will feel better when I get back. I'm crabby too lol.
Julie1960 When I was experiencing this I would walk away from the situation and Pray,Apologize Alot. Addiction is $$$$. Try to take a walk work out listen to calming music. Tell your Husband I'm sorry and ask him to Read about Addiction It will Help him understand what u are going through. Praying for Peace.
I no the feeling to want to smoke but don't do it. I need to walk but weather is bad. So I staying in and napping. I feel some what better.
I won’t smoke I won’t! I napped too today. Now ready for bed another day in the books! Glad you’re okay!
Good
Look inside...see if you are not using your Quit as a License to be Nasty.
Was called out on this very same issue....I saw immediately that she was absolutely correct!
Was a changed man from that point onward...
Quitting Smoking is more than *just* giving up cigarettes...
A whole lot more!!!!
Mr. Emotions jumped into the Control Chair of your Life the instant you rightfully tossed out Mr. Butts!
Not IT thinks it can run your life!
Apologize to those who's head you bit off...
A Slice of Humble Pie does a quitter good!
You are changing...
You are slowly becoming a Whole New Person...
The Transition can be daunting.
Stay with the Healing...
Take many time-outs to get back to Center.
Deep breaths will serve you well.
Hang in there!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have been nasty but I am trying to get that license revocted. I'm sure that I was nasty and I really don't mean to be but **** gets on my nerves. I'm really am trying to be kinder
lighthousekeep brought up a good point! While we may FEEL grumpy, nasty and out-of-sorts, we CAN control whether we let those feelings fester and erupt. We can, instead, take some slow, deep breaths, or go for a brisk walk, or march in place, or find a yoga or meditation on YouTube, or put some music on and sing or dance to it. Worst case scenario is excuse yourself, go into another room and cuss out loud, using all the expletives and combinations you know. You CAN get those feelings out in ways that don't hurt your partner.
Try it - might help!
I do all you suggest but still feel mean and crabby all day!
Well I glad I ant the only one. I amuse it is the addition
Yeah you're not. What day are you on?
Working on day 15
I mean 14
Two weeks yahoo!!
I played music often when I get like that Yet I was also lucky as my wife quit years before I did so she knew I meant nothing buy it
What is going on???