I being hateful to my partner. I being hateful to the . How do I stop this?
Oh bet you’re in no mans land ! Try reading research on nicotine and mood changes, here’s a starting point. https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/a-to-z/s/smoking-and-mental-health
Hi Hon Julie1960 Trying to find how long you have been quit, but it seems a few months...correct me if I am wrong?
Being hateful especially to those we love is “anger”...it is a stage of grieving and you may be grieving smoking. Mostly, that you are an addict and angry that you are having to give up your smoking. It’s hard I know... Human nature we take it out on those we love. It really isn’t fair to them...you need to explain and start to let go of the “anger” and start “accepting” your quit free life. Unfortunately, we smoked through too many emotions and now we are having to cope with them. Please realize you love your partner and your dog and you shouldn’t take your anger out on them. If you are unable to do this on your way, may I suggest you talk to your Doctor and find a suitable therapist to help you out. You are giving up a strong addiction and it is ok to get help. Gotcha in my Thoughts ... keep us posted ... ~ Colleen 394 DOF
Day one of many. Thanks
Well then make Day one ... Day Won ... your hateful is because you are withdrawing...just hang in there and don’t feed the addiction.
Whoo Hoo Julie1960
It is good that you recognize that you are angry. We become rather emotional when we quit smoking because most of ours have been covered up in smoke. You just may be angry that you quit smoking and taking it out on the ones closest to you. This is a great opportunity to learn ways to get through those times that are hard. Breathing was the best thing for me. Practice this Breathing Exercise and 3 min meditation. Quitting smoking can take on a whole new life. It can be good or bad. It is up to you to choose which one. ~Quitting Is A Choice, NOT A Punishment~
Welcome and congrats on your quit. Anger can certainly be a part of quitting smoking. Anger is a human emotion and it is ok except when directed it others. Try channeling your anger else. Doing something physical can really help. Going for a walk, etc.
Be kind to yourself right now.
First, Huge Congratulations on 2 months quit smoking Julie 1960!!!
Good job posting. Venting here helps your quit!
You and your body are adjusting.
We are used to instant gratification.
We go through PAWS, Post-Acute Withdrawal Symptoms and Relapse Prevention Strategies and acetylcholine levels are adjusting.
You are normal. Be patient with yourself.
Deep breathing helps.
Most of us were grumpy early in our quits. Apologizing alot lol and many warning others.
Things will level out.
Keep working your quit!
Mr. Emotions is taking over the Control Chair of your life.
Since you so rightfully tossed out Mr. Butts from that Seat, Mr. Emo wants to take over!!!
(There is more to quitting smoking than *just* giving up cigarettes!!)
Apologize immediately to those who's head you bit off !!!
A slice of Humble Pie does us quitters good!!
Look deep inside...see if you are not using your Quit as a License to be Nasty!!
Deep breaths....get back to Center.
This is a tumultuous time in your Life...
Quitting is a Full Time Job in the Beginning!!!
Hang in there!!!
Oh, man. I get it. I was hateful to my dogs for at least 2 weeks after quitting. And that's totally unlike me, because my dogs are my babies! I just had absolutely no patience. I knew it was my brain chemistry reacting to nicotine withdrawal, but it was still hard to bear. I think the only thing you can really do is grit your teeth and hang on. And know that it WILL pass. Ask your loved ones for a little extra patience right now. Be patient with yourself. And give the dog some extra loves when you aren't feeling so angry. Do lots of deep breathing. I practiced deep breathing before speaking to anyone.
It will get better. I promise.
Has anyone share this with you? I know the dogs might not understand...
"Letter to My Loved Ones" (repost)
You stop it by bringing your stuff to Ex. Quitters get it. So keep hanging around, keep talking.
You might find the answer above. Nice comments.
1) The other reason could be you are not completely ready to quit...you get I mean? If you are not completely ready, and you are quitting out of some pressure, the boiling emotions, and anger goes to nearest and dearest. Worth Check with yourself.
2) Good to read Alan Carr book on how to quit smoking. If you would have read, good to have reading once more.
3) Write your blog here; we will read...advantage is while you write, your furious mind will calm down a little.
All the best !
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