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saragail We converse as a support group...write what is going on and we will respond hon...or you can private message...
I am assuming this is about quitting smoking...hang in there...I will wait for you to respond to me either here or private message... ~ Colleen
On an hour waiting to see if you need help...got to run to the store...will check in again later...
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Yes saragail I am here...I am working on my lap top so will keep this site open to offer you help...~ Colleen
Ok saragail I have waited and you still haven’t written your problem...I am going to assume you are early in your quit and flipping out because you want to smoke/vape/ecig...Please hang on...write your story...if nothing by writing your story, you will be diverting your attention on something other than your urge...drink water, pray, take a walk, etc., think of all the wonderful things that can happen to you physically if you don’t smoke...we are here for you...reach out and we will reach in and pull you out...~ Colleen 325 DOF
Hi. Welcome to the ex. What do you need from us? Post what's going on so we can try and help.
Welcome to our community!
I am going to assume that you are quitting smoking and having a rough go of it - if not and you are just now getting ready to quit, the information I will provide will help you there, too!
The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. If you do nothing else to get ready for your quit, please do give this a read.
You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract. I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them.. For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum. For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire and 4) you can become addicted to that and it has not yet been proven safe .
It will be informative if you do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. As you track each cigarette smoked, note its importance, and what you might do instead. Put each one off just a little to prove that you don't NEED a cigarette just because you think you do.
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced. Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T. You need to distract yourself through any craves. You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game. Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits. Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas: https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instead-of-smokeThe conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?" Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
We're here, keep talking to us.
Hey Sara, How can we help you?
Welcome and CONGRATS NICOTINE FREEDOM- gentle hug
Welcome to EX, you have found the most supportive site on line. You can do this...we are all here to help you in any way that we can.
How are you doing this evening saragail? We're all here to help you in any way we can.....
Hi saragail and Happy Friday...hope today is going better for you...still waiting to hear your story and/or how we can help you out...~ Colleen 326 DOF
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