I want a cigarette so bad. This is horrible. Can someone help me?
Yes...cfbays here for you...can you go take a walk? How about a shower? How about praying to God to help you?
Talk to yourself...you don’t need to smoke...talk to me...Colleen praying for you...strength...
Thank you so much. That meant a lot to me. I'm praying for strength and thank you for your prayers!
cfbays So glad you are hanging in there...keep coming here...and hoping and praying tomorrow is a better day...Gotcha in my thoughts and prayers...Colleen
Thank you sweetplt. Today is going to be a better day.
You want nicotine. Damn cigarettes make addicts think --just got to smoke. You can get through this. And you do it just for today. I hope you understand that Ex is going to be here for you 365.
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You came here because you want (or wanted to smoke). It's gotta be that you would like to keep your quit because you went to all the trouble to reach out. Welcome to Ex. That's what we are here for. Stay connected, blog again.
As for a crave--deal with one at a time--walk, watch a movie, have a sucker candy, get away from your location and do something else. Yes you can get through this.
Thank you! I needed that!
You are doing great, cfbays! Keep working your way out.
I know you're jonesing. I hate it for you, it sucks! Colleen has some great suggestions though. Did you make a list of things you can do when you want to smoke? If not think about it and write it down. Post in a prominent place so when you see it maybe you can divert your attention to one of those. It's not easy or everyone could just put them down and walk away. I put my days of freedom calendar and the list of things to do other than smoke on the door to the garage, where I used to go smoke. It was motivating and helpful. Unfortunately you are taking away a drug and feeling the effects of withdrawals that are similar to the withdrawals of crack and heroine. Stay calm, stay close to Ex, stay mindful and most of all be good to yourself. It gets better, it really does I promise. We got your back.
Thanks Julie. Your words were very encouraging. I know this is going to be hard but I know I can do it. I am going to use your suggestions and I'm definitely going to stay close toe Ex. Again, thank you.
You're very welcome. These people will get you through the quit if you trust them. We're all in this boat together so if you don't have a life jacket you will have dozens of hands, hearts, and info to pull you to safety.
Let the urge come....and go....it will go.
read Alan Carr’s Book. easy way to stop smoking.
go for a walk.
do breathing exercises.
read up on nicotine- it helps to know the enemy.
it gets easier —-ist week is particularly rough.
Stay close to this site.
Thanks, I will take your advice.
The days are very hard....so READ READ READ about what you are contending with....once you understand how nicotine withdrawal works you’ll soon realize that you can deal with the craves...they come and go...seriously download Alan Carr’s book tonight....he helped me to finally decide this is what I want! And to hell with nicotine! It finally helped me decide that this addictive drug will no longer rule my life. I will take my life back! I will no longer give those drug pushers my hard earned money! I quit in the midst of a super stressful work project...and if I can stop then anyone can stop. I decided that my difficult client is not worth dying over by me vaping non-stop. So I found this site....someone here mentioned Alan Carr’s book—I read it over the course of about 3 or 4 days and then my quit went from tenuous to ironclad. I know it’s early on, but I’m treating each nicotine free day as a major achievement - Do the daily pledge! It helps solidify the process. It becomes a ritual rooted in faith. This decision will save your life. Best of luck.
Thanks, very helpful!
Do whatever it takes to distract yourself - food,, a bath, a walk, get through it - you will be so proud of yourself!
Thank you! I know I can do this!
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It IS hard at the beginning...we are supposed to be learning to deal with our feelings because we stuffed them when we smoked but all we can think about is smoking or rather, NOT smoking. I remember thinking I was going to lose my mind, I was absolutely committed to not losing my quit, I had decided breathing was more important than smoking. I asked my husband for advice, he has been sober for almost 35 years and smoke free for almost 30. I asked him what to do, I told him I was losing my mind. I read everything that was recommended, I read blogs, I commented, I asked for help and I got amazing advice. My husband told me to get down on my knees and pray for the mental obsession to be removed. He told me that I might have to do it more than once and that it was seriously important that I get on my knees. I will admit to not really having much faith in it working but I am so happy to say that I DID feel something lift...I am not sure how many times I did it, it may have been twice but something definitely changed. I came to this site every morning and every evening when I quit, it's been over 5 1/2 years and I still get here as often as I can. I owe this site and the people here..BIG TIME.
Congratulations on your quit,
I can only tell you what I did. Each time I had the urge to smoke I would literally stop what I was doing and tell myself that smoking was no longer an option for me so I might as well quit dwelling on it. I did this hundreds of times each day. It didn't make the urges any less but I did convince myself that I would never smoke again no matter what happened in my life.
Today is my first day of quitting and I’m a little nervous for the conquer ahead. I’m with you all the way.
I ditto much of what has been said above. Thank you for coming here rather than lighting up.
Walk, water, cinnamon stick, straw, sleep, carrots, self-talk, visit at EX, anything but smoking.
I have a feeling you're gonna do great!
Thank you DonnaMarie!
congrats on this decision. it's a hard one. no two ways about it. What I did what cut up some straws the length of a cigarette and used those for a few weeks. It gives you the sensation of smoking (hand to mouth) and encourages deep breathing. If it gets to the point where you are literally crawling the walls, you've tried everything under the sun, then might I suggest using the patch. I tried cold turkey and it just wasn't for me. I'd go for 7 days and be right back at it. You can go to other people's profiles and read what they went through by reading what they wrote when they first quit. I had some many blogs in the beginning of my quit, but I had to get all my frustration out. You simply click on a person's name, go to content, filter by tag, and select sort by date created: oldest first. this will take you back to the very beginning of their quits. Mine go back to 2016. some members go back as far as 2007, I think. Stick with it. Know that your body is healing and your brain. You've been inhaling loads of chemicals and nicotine for years. In my case, it was 43 years. Keep yourself busy, busy, busy. Make a list of things to do around the house. You're going to be amazed how much you'll be getting done and really realize how much time you wasted by smoking. Get yourself a coloring book, anything to distract yourself. Drink lots of lots of water to flush out the toxins. Again, welcome to being a former smoker
Thanks crazymama. I really value the feedback you have given. I smoked for 39 years and I know I need to train my body and mind to do something different. I can't give up. I know I have a long road ahead of me. Again, thanks.
Sorry, I'm a little late. How are you doing? You did the right thing coming here. I know how much it meant to me early in my quit. Continue to reach out to get you over the hump. Big congrats -you did.
Never too late Barbscloud. This is day 2 of my quit and I am replaying yesterday. The good thing is now I have Ex. I've tried quitting in the past but I was always alone. This time I feel I'm not by myself. Whenever I feel like smoking I come here and I practice the things I read and it helps. I feel like I have the support and I do. Thanks for reaching out.
Big congrats on your first day won. I believe once you make that commitment and get past that first day, you know you can do it.
I know exactly what you mean. I always tried to do it by myself, but it never worked. Now I know there are people that have my back if I need them. Keep moving forward!
Congrats on day 2. You can do this.
Congrats on 2 days!! I am on day 3. I am struggling a bit but want to stay quit. You can do this! I am def using the straw and deep breathing and also find it helpful to be mindful of why I am doing this. I want to be healthy and rejoice in not having to have the crutch although I still want to pick it up. This is a journey and I am glad to be on it with you.
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Thanks and congrats to you as well. I also use the straw. Today I went outside on my patio like I normally do with my dog and stated blowing through my straw. I couldn't believe how much better I felt. It was like my mind thought I was smoking so it was happy. Wow! The insanity of smoking....
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Jackie posted our list of things to do instead of smoking..........try them. Mostly, it is just taking it one day, one hour, one minute at a time. TIME really will save you from addiction. the further you get away from that last cigarette the easier it gets.......I promise. Stay close to the site and "talk" to us. The support here is incredible as you have seen. Stay Strong.
Thanks, Sootie! I like what you said. One day, one hour, one minute at a time!
cfbays, hope you are doing better. I was having a bit of a rough afternoon so jumped on the puter and started reading. Saw your request for help and I read all the wonderful responses you received. You shared your support :-) thanks I needed that :-) Hang Tough!!
Thanks, pmt...I don't want to do this by myself. I can't.
I know it's hard, but I know that every day I don't smoke, I might be adding some extra joy to my life. Today is day 5 and a Bad Urge day. I know I am going to ride it out. I'm in a physical therapy facility to repair a fractured ankle. I spent most of the day, looking at the beautiful wing span of birds. I'm glad to be around.
With you in the struggle
CONGRATULATIONS Taurusdagger60 on your precious quit journey YAY for 5 stupendous Smokefree days and counting WTG, wishing you the very best on your physical therapy for your ankle.....
That was very motivating. We can do it. We can make it together.
How are you doing this evening cfbays?
Hi Marily - I'm doing much better. Today wasn't as bad as yesterday. I think it's because whenever I start to think about smoking I log on to Ex and I read all these replies and it helps me to realize I'm not alone. Thanks for checking on me!
You are so very welcome we're all for you and your precious quit journey.....
It's a whole new day and I hope you are still doing well. Those first few days can be ridiculous. If you saw them through it should be easier from here on out. I love this place and these people. Day 19 here.
Delay and distract. Delay and distract. Repeat.
You've got this.
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