Whats the hardest part?
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The hardest part, I think, boils down to making the commitment not to smoke NO MATTER WHAT. Learning about the addiction, preparing, planning for your quit, and support all can help you get there. We can help with all but the commitment. There WILL be challenging times, but as long as you honor your commitment and don't argue with yourself about it, it is doable.
The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. If you do nothing else to get ready for your quit, please do give this a read.
You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract. I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them.. For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum. For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire and 4) you can become addicted to that and it has not yet been proven safe .
It will be informative if you do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. As you track each cigarette smoked, note its importance, and what you might do instead. Put each one off just a little to prove that you don't NEED a cigarette just because you think you do.
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced. Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T. You need to distract yourself through any craves. You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game. Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits. Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas: https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instead-of-smokeThe conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?" Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
Welcome to EX, please do the reading that Youngatheart.7.4.12 recommended and stay close to the site...plan what you will do instead of smoking when you feel a crave and remember that no crave ever killed anyone, no one can say that about smoking.
I'm still new at this, so take this with a grain of salt.
The hardest part for me was the realization that I, me, personally have to do the work.
No pill will motivate me.
No patch will take away the cravings.
Don't get me wrong, use anything that will help you, but you have to stick with it.
I should add that being here and posting, reading, posting is the single biggest help I have found.
Hello and Welcome to Ex’s...you received great advice above me...please read and work on everything Nancy Youngatheart.7.4.12 above me suggested to quit smoking...the hardest part...try not to think of this as hard, but as doable...perhaps the hardest thing I see most people have trouble around here doing...is the work...Now get working...Happy Tuesday ~ Colleen 246 DOF
I think the hardest part is what you make the hardest part for yourself. For me it probably was the night before I quit. Having quit several times in the past, I knew what I was in for and didn't look forward to it. Now there's no hard part. Once you've got it in hand, it's easier to stay quit than to begin anew.
The hardest part for me was learning to live without my friend, my crutch. When i got angry, when i drank, when i was driving, talking on the phone. What helped me understand the hardest part was understanding and analyzing why i would reach for the cigg. I replaced my friend, my crutch with healthy choices now. Educating myself was the key. Just read youngatheart response, Very, Very Good..
I agree with indingrl--early on I had to stick to my decision and walk the walk no matter how I felt.
The hardest part for me was the mental/emotional challenge. I swore I would never go back and I haven't.
Understanding my needs vs following my personal achievement.
I agree withGiulia ...the night before my quit was the hardest part.
Spent 2 weeks every night on this site reading past and present blogs and educating myself before my quit date
Many quits before this one...but the education here prepared me and saved me from a rough bad quit
And I never want to go through that night before I quit again!
Because once you believe and get though day 1 you remember to N.E.F. when that "just one cig" thought comes.
The fear of quitting. Once I got going, it was easy, getting started was hard. The feeling is very similar to the night before a big event; you'll do great, just do what you are prepared to do.
There are a lot of hard things noted here by a lot of different people; everybody's quit is different so don't feel overwhelmed as you may not experience any of these but have a new contribution of the hardest part on the flip side!
Also, totally recommend Youngatheart.7.4.12 advice on reading. Whyquit.com and Allen Carr's easyway to quit smoking. The book (broke one of the rules by gifting it away) and the website have a common theme with expert and both are very informative. Finally, keep these good folks here close, sexy EXers are some great folks and will be there in a pinch!
If I may add onto my previous response - preparation makes a HUGE difference on day one. Because as awful as the night before may be for many of us, if you're prepared, day one and two and three really aren't nearly as much of a big deal. Because you've accepted the challenge and know pretty much what's in store and how to work your way around the cravings. That's why education/knowledge about this addiction/journey ahead of time is so important.
For me, the hardest part was the anxiety the night before knowing that in the morning I was Not going to have a cigarette. I stayed awake longer than normal just to delay the next morning. I think that's when it finally hit me that Nicotine was controlling me. Today I am over a year as a non smoker and feel amazing.
Good luck, you Know you Can Do It.
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