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Lovemyself68
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Good Morning. I have been trying to quit smoking for some time, now. I keep buying packs and throwing them away. I used to smoke around 8 cigarettes and day and I am now up to a pack due to certain stresses in my life. I set my quit date out for one month. Is that too far out? I am trying to get through some major life changes. I have a prescription for Chantix that I have not filled. Any advice about this or nicotine replacement? I have a lot shame surrounding my smoking and I am an anxious person, in general.

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JACKIE1-25-15
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Good morning, Because nicotine is a drug, the more you use the more you may want. Quitting smoking requires one to change the way they think and know the truth about smoking.  #1 it does not relieve stress it adds to it.    It is up to you to decide when to set ytour quit date.  If you use the @my quit plan generally 2 weeks out should be sufficient.  However it is still your choice.   It is up to you to decide if you are going to use the Chantix.  I would suggest that you educate yourself on the side effects and how they may affect you.   I used Welbutrin for 90 days.  I decided how long and adheted to my plan.  It helped take the edge off of the cravings but there was still work to be done in order not to smoke.  There is no pill that is 100%.   Smoking creates the anxiety,  When will I get a chance to smoke, Where am I going to smoke, How, I am going to get my fix.  Who is going to see me. Once you quit smoking you no longer have this added anxiety.  Sorry to be so long-winded.  On that note  Quitting is doable.  You have come to the right place for support.  I believe that education is the key to successfully quit. It is suggested to read Allen Carr's Easyway to Quit Smoking which can be found on pdf on the web.  Another good site to get info is www.whyquit.com.  There are several articles to read.  Nicotine 101 and Freedom From Nicotine My Journey Home.  Quitting takes planning and preparation go to EX Plan | BecomeAnEX  to decide how you are going to go about quitting. To get help on navigating the site go to. Community Help‌.  Make quitting smoking your number one priority. Start by getting rid of anything associated with smoking such as ashtrays, lighters, etc.  You can do this if you make up your mind that you can.  Relearning your thinking that you do not have to smoke is a good beginning. For a while, you will think about smoking but that does not mean you have to act on it.  You can talk yourself out of smoking.  No matter what never ever take another puff.  NOPE.  Take smoking off the table as an option and do something different. 101 Things to Do Instead of Smoke SINAO smoking is not an option. 

maryfreecig
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     On the why quit side of the ledger...many who have quit smoking pose the question this way...what has smoking ever done for you? I quit in 2013 after a near life time of smoking. Now I can see more clearly that the dependency had me by the throat. I wasn't deciding to smoke, I was hooked. 

     Unlearning the dependency took time. At first I had to make it through  a handful of days during which I felt weird, bizar, unlike myself, edgy and out of sorts--to name a few. Then I moved on to feeling that I couldn't handle life without smoking. From there I started to resent quitting. Then I bargained with life--when it gets better, I'll feel better about quitting. I was not smoking but I was trying to find myself. I was there, or so I thought, when I smoked, but when I quit I was a mess. Note--I quit cold turkey, some preparation, no online support like Ex. 

     I got better in time. The cigarettes that I thought were so special, I don't care about today. 

     Chantix and support may be the extra nudges to help you accomplish the quit you've been searching for. Along with these things, it's also about allowing yourself to change your mind on smoking--that it is not your salvation. Stick with Ex and work toward your quit each day until it happens. Yes you can, one day at a time.

Barb102
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Welcome!!!!  You have come to the right place. You will get the best advice here to help and support you. Nothing you will think or feel that we haven’t been through. My best advice is to prepare yourself by reading what to expect and how to handle it. This site and the people on it are the reason that I finally quit.  Can you do this!!!!!

Lovemyself68
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Thank you so much for the advice and taking time to respond. I am going to do this!

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Barbscloud
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Welcome to the Ex.  Educate yourself about nicotine addition and prepare for your quit.  This approach makes all the difference to be successful.  Definitely use the link mentioned above for My Quit Plan.  We've all been through it and the quitters on this site prove you can too. 

 If you're going to use the Chantix, you want start taking it before you quit.   There are 3 ways you can do that.

https://www.chantix.com/getting-started-with-chantix/three-ways-to-quit  Whichever aid you choose, many on this site have been successful using them.   I used Welbutrin and nicotrol inhalers.

Most importantly, the support on this site is priceless.  Reach out if you need help.

Barb

YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to our community!

I successfully quit using Chantix and did not experience any of the scary side effects about which they warn.  You begin taking it about a week before your quit date, so you might want to get it filled, then move your date to two weeks after you start it.  Get started now doing some reading, preparation and planning.  Add your own commitment and the support here, and I think you will find a recipe for success!

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. If you do nothing else to get ready for your quit, please do give this a read.


 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract.   I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them..  For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum.  For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion,  3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire and 4) you can become addicted to that and it has not yet been proven safe .
 

It will be informative if you do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. As you track each cigarette smoked, note its importance, and what you might do instead. Put each one off just a little to prove that you don't NEED a cigarette just because you think you do.
 

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

Mandolinrain
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Just wanted to say welcome  Your at the right place. Please do read all; the links sent above to you because wisdom will promote your quick faster than anything else. You can use this month before you quit preparing by understanding this addiction and have the 'tools' ready. Fill the prescription and get busy, we are here for you

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MarilynH
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Welcome to the community please read the links suggested above me and keep reading everything you can because there's a wealth of information right here on this site to strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb permanently it's not easy by any stretch of the imagination BUT it's absolutely Doable and we're all here to help you in any way we can once your day ONE arrives keep your mind as well as your your hands occupied and then at the end of the day you'll be able to say YAY for Day WON with many more to come you can do this upcoming quit believe it deep breaths and do the recommended reading. Lovemyself68

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sweetplt
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HI and Welcome to Ex’s,Lovemyself68 

This is and can be the best decision you will ever make...it takes preparation, knowledge and hard work...You are worth this quit...so choose it hon...we are all in the journey together and help each other .... keep close to the support site...You have a lot of good advice above me...follow it and work it and you will find yourself a quitter ... Anything you need let us know...~ Colleen 232 DOF 

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