I made it 53 hours but the idle time got to me. When I have free time it seems so hard not to smoke! Anyone have tips? Thanks!
Welcome to our community!
Idle time is the enemy of a quit. You need to put extra effort into staying busy when you quit smoking. Planning, preparation, commitment and support make this process easier in the long run, and the success rate is higher with their use. You also need to COMMIT to not smoking another cigarette NO MATTER WHAT! If you still had cigarettes around, you were giving yourself permission to fail. Next quit, put any remaining under running water, smish them up and put them in the trash along with your lighter(s) and ashtray(s).
The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. If you do nothing else to get ready for your quit, please do give this a read.
You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract. I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them.. For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum. For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire and 4) you can become addicted to that and it has not yet been proven safe .
It will be informative if you do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. As you track each cigarette smoked, note its importance, and what you might do instead. Put each one off just a little to prove that you don't NEED a cigarette just because you think you do.
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced. Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T. You need to distract yourself through any craves. You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game. Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits. Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?" Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
Most of us have slipped or "stopped quitting" many times. What finally worked for me was finding this site and making a promise to myself that no matter what I was feeling, no matter what I wanted a cigarette would not be the answer. I honored that promise to myself. I quit smoking 5 1/2 years ago after smoking for 52 years. It takes time and work but it is so wonderful and so worth it. You can do this. Enjoy the journey
Tips? Stick with Ex. Remember this is a journey made one day at a time. Set yourself up to succeed, rather than tell yourself that idle time is your down fall. Most of us or many of us had to consciously choose to stay busy at the beginning of our quits. Even though doing this means change, changing routines and personal style--it is a proven way to keep oneself from dwelling on smoking.
Keep reading about nicotine dependency--addiction. Build an arsenal of reasons why you are going to succeed at quitting. Ex is here 365, blog as much as you need or wish to! Yes you can.
101 things to do instead of smoke
Skippy2117 I commend you for being strong and admitting. You learned something and came back!!! That is awesome! EXers Never Give Up (EXNGU)!
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Have a great day smoke free! I learned a lot in those 2 days and now I'm even more prepared going forward!
Great!! How are you today?
I am less that 12 hours from a week smoke free!! I still want one all the
time but it's a lot easier to not have one so that's nice!
Fantastic! Happy one week won. Keep up the good work.
Feeling great!! And also a bit terrible but I'm still going! Sent via the Samsung Galaxy S8 Active, an AT&T 5G Evolution capable smartphone
Welcome and thanks for your - self honesty and courage and sharing. - so wonderful you asked for the experience of YOUR New recovery from nicotine family- WAY TO GO! CONGRATS ON YOUR DAY ONE! - it was suggested to ME - to watch the early death videos at whyquit.com - the families of those who died wanted to HELP the next suffering NICOTINE addicts- to NOT use drug NICOTINE and the addict who died wanted to HELP too - Bryon saved ME and brought ME out of MY denial - I thought other people died from sucking on death sticks NOT ME - That was 8 years ago and I still go there and HELP ME to remember - but for the grace of God go I. - ❤just sharing MY experience - thank you - gentle hug.
HELLO and Welcome to Ex’s ... YOU have gotten some great advice above me...I will add, knowledge, preparation, commitment and hard work are the keys to quitting. All those keys open the door to a successful quit...I know because I was you 185 days ago... ~ Colleen
So glad your back and going strong.
Closing in on 8 days!Sent via the Samsung Galaxy S8 Active, an AT&T 5G Evolution capable smartphone
Congratulations! You made it through H#ll Week!
On to Heck Week, then a month, then 6, then a YEAR.
Just keep going, a day at a time. That's how all of us with years under our belts did it. It CAN be done, one day at a time.
Hang in there!
3.5 hours short of 8 days I'm so excited!Sent via the Samsung Galaxy S8 Active, an AT&T 5G Evolution capable smartphone
Good job on 8 days quit Skippy2117 ...hang in there and do some of the recommended suggestions...Happy Friday ~ Colleen 193 DOF
8 days. Mmmmm hmmmmm. GOOD!
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