Please someone help me quit
Well tried !. But do not stop trying. The average failure to stop is 11 times..means smoker tries to quit cigarette but fails to do so. It happens. If your mind is prepared to quit, do not stop, you need to quit.
Read Allen Carr if not already. That will help to stay quit.Secondly once you quit, stay on the premise that you will not smoke, what may happen. It will work.
All the best.
I know what I was doing wrong for years:
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Your number 3 hit the nail on the head for me.
Yes to all of the above especially the "trying to " part . I have another quit date coming up . But also in my case I did research lots of it I was obsessed with research . However like Morpheus ala the Matrix said " there is a big difference between knowing the path and walking the walk . So I knew and oh boy do I know but I wasn't walking the walk.
I hear you Altalee I need help too. Here are some things I am doing know . 1) Forgive myself I am human and failing doesn't mean I am a bad person . 2) I am working on creating good habits now. Actually I am reactivating the great habits I once had. I realized that smoking is a bad habit and if you fail your quit you are right back at square one because I know this habit and my brain remembers and reverts to the whole smoking thing again So I will need to replace it with good habits But since I already have had great habits in the past I realized I just needed to reactivate the good habits. 3) I will reread Allan Carrs Book because I probably didn't absorb it all. Also I am reading and rereading James Clear's Book Atomic Habits. I also have Mel Robbins book The 5 second Rule on my reference list as well as Chris Skoyles on Youtube. I love him because he is very real and honest about his journey to becoming a non smoker. I also have a quit smoking counselor I meet with once a week.
For me I know I recently failed my most recent attempt ( there you go another weak word I used) because I gave my control over to Chantix. Now Chantix did help me stay quit for almost 2 months . Don't get me wrong it gave me that experience which is unforgettable. I am now clinging to how great it was to not smoke. Yes even though I relapsed I have that memory and that gives me hope. My problem with the Chantix was my inertia and inactivity and isolation which fed my tendency to be depressed. That is why I stopped it and relapsed. However I am learning something as I respond to you. Here it is the word active ....I was not active in my quit . Not sure that makes sense but it does to me . I was letting the Chantix do the work and I was just riding the waves of urges until I crashed. I get it now right now -this is what happened. I must be active in my quit . I must be an active particpant . Nothing wrong with the quit smoking aids but that's is all they are . Its up to me ... I wish you success and fingers crossed for me
Yep, you nailed it. We really have to be active in our quits, because you are so correct, nothing quits for us. We are the ones who have to do the work. Glad you have picked a new quit date. I will not wish you luck on your attempt, but rather congratulate you on your choice of actions!
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I am happy you found our site. Also, pat yourself on the back, at least you have been trying to quit. Now, this takes work, knowledge and preparation...Please read at My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX there you will learn about quitting, and you will actively participate in your own unique plan. Also, you will choose a quit date and plan for that day like no other...This is not easy, but so doable...you want to keep close to the support site for help. We are in this journey together...~ Colleen 161 DOF
I quit a number of times before I really quit. You are reaching out for help. That tells me you're serious in your interest in quitting. That should also give you some strength and steel your resolve.
I agree with reading Allen Carr's Easy Way book. You can get it for free at the library or buy a copy for yourself. I also suggest remembering your "why" as often as possible. It's worth it to remind yourself.
Come here as much as you like or need to. The people here helped support me in the early days of my quit and are my cheerleaders still! We've all had a day one or several days one.
What did it for me was support. I was on other sites before this one. Through reading and communicating with others who were going through the process, those who had successful quits, those who were struggling like me, I learned much. I learned that smoking wasn't just a bad habit. I learned I wasn't alone. I learned HOW to change my thinking. Because it's really about changing our thinking that enables us to become free.
So, what are you doing wrong? Well, first we'd have to know WHAT it is you've tried that hasn't worked. When things don't work, we have to try something else. And something else. And something else until we discover what DOES work. The more you read, the more wisdom you'll gain. So read MUCH! And try everything. The quit plan here is a good one. I'd begin there. And keep talking to us. We'll walk the journey with you. Have heart! And know that you can do this. If WE can, YOU can!
Welcome and CONGRATS on non smoker life style - ONE day at a time- gentle hug. MY SUGGESTION is prayer - I was taught to say this prayer every time I THOUGHT of USING MY DRUG OF CHOICE NICOTINE- the prayer is called The Serenity Prayer - God grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change COURAGE to change the things I can and the WISDOM to know the difference - just passing on what was SUGGESTED. ME and still works TODAY- amen - gentle hug.
Tom is exactly right. You need to decide to quit and not try. It sounds so stupid but it’s the truth. Just tell yourself as often As it takes “I don’t do that anymore “or “I don’t smoke anymore”. I said it to myself for months and now
I’m on day 400 and I'm telling you that if I can do this you can too. You just need to make the decision. I promise you that quitting smoking is one the greatest feelings in the world. If you’ve made it even 1 day, then you know you can make it another and then a week and then another week and then a month etc... You can do this.
Education is the key to a successful quit. It takes planning, preparation and protecting what you have established. You have come to the right place for support in quitting smoking. The best way to quit is to prepare and plan how you are going to go about your quit. My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX and review the videos and tracking also learn what your triggers are so you can better prepare for the urge to smoke when it happens. I am a firm believer that education is the key to a successful quit. I was advised to read Allen Carr's Easyway to Quit Smoking which can be found on pdf on the web. Another good site to get info which was very helpful to me is www.whyquit.com. There are several articles to read. Nicotine 101 and Freedom From Nicotine My Journey Home. To get help on navigating the site go to. Community Help. Make quitting smoking your number one priority. Start by getting rid of anything associated with smoking such as ashtrays, lighter, etc. You can do this if you make up your mind that you can. Relearning your thinking that you do not have to smoke is a good beginning. For a while, you will think about smoking but that does not mean you have to act on it. You can talk yourself out of smoking. No matter what never ever take another puff. NOPE. Take smoking off the table as an option and do something different. 101 Things to Do Instead of Smoke SINAO smoking is not an option. That is NOPE concept Not one puff ever. Be willing to do the work. Quitting is the easy part. Staying quit is work. Learning to protect your quit will keep on your journey forever freedom. One day at a time. Never give up, never give in. Hang tough Stay Close
Thank you all. I finally found out what my trigger was it was ( only one
ciggerette wont hurt ) but it's really killing me! I am gonna quit for
good, today is my 3rd day of not smoking. I'm not gonna let the devil get
me again , I got God n Jesus on my side then I got my new Ex friends
helping me. My reading all of your advice is helping me. Thank you so much
n God bless.
Altalee wrote: Thank you all. I finally found out what my trigger was it was ( only oneciggerette wont hurt ) but it's really killing me! I am gonna quit forgood, today is my 3rd day of not smoking. I'm not gonna let the devil getme again , I got God n Jesus on my side then I got my new Ex friendshelping me. My reading all of your advice is helping me. Thank you so muchn God bless.
How are things for you?
MarkEX Community Manager
Welcome to our community!
The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. If you do nothing else to get ready for your quit, please do give this a read.
You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract. I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them.. For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum. For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire and 4) you can become addicted to that and it has not yet been proven safe .
It will be informative if you do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. As you track each cigarette smoked, note its importance, and what you might do instead. Put each one off just a little to prove that you don't NEED a cigarette just because you think you do.
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced. Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T. You need to distract yourself through any craves. You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game. Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits. Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas: https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instead-of-smokeThe conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?" Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
Welcome to EX, I am willing to bet that all of the suggestions you have gotten are things you never tried, at least not all together. This is a journey and it cannot be rush, there are no shortcuts. You CAN do this and we all want very much for you to succeed.
Well today is my 3rd day not smoking, I'm praying that I quit for good this
If you’ve made it 3 days, you can do 3 more and then it’s a week. Next thing you know it will be a month and then a year! One day at a time.
I know right thanks I found out what my trigger was . I kept telling or I
should say lieing to myself saying that just 1cigg wouldnt hurt.whay a
bunch of crap. That's why I was failing. I'm sticking with NOPE thats the
only way, never one puff ever. I wanna thank you for your advice
I wanna thankyou so much for your advice it's helping me alot.
Reading and education on the addiction, is major key. Read read read. Also go to quit.com, as well as you tube. About quit.com.Many Blessings.Kim
Your right reading does help me , also I have a better attitude this time.
Instead of trying, I'm going to quit. I had a lady tell me that she wasnt
gonna torture herself anymore by not smoking, n I told her that I'm doing
myself the biggest favor I could do by quitting. I'm just wishing I knew
about the. Ex app before
On Tue, May 14, 2019, 2:37 PM anaussiemom <email@example.com>
Soon you will never ever have to quit again because you already are quitting right now! Believe me it's entirely better!
Yeah it's only been 4 day's but I already feel alot better with my breathing
On Tue, May 14, 2019, 4:53 PM Thomas3.20.2010 <firstname.lastname@example.org>
It is harder than crack or heroin. It is more subtle and available and acceptable. Don't stop trying. Seek medical assistance because the nicotine withdrawal is a precursor to the emotional elements that follow. I am here for you. On my 13th day of 2nd quit after 14 years smokeless, but without education. Get education we have the web today. I am here for you. A real friend of Bill W
You have to take this one day at a time and sometimes one feeling at a time but Not One Puff Ever, NOPE has to be your mantra. You can do this, what are you doing wrong? Smoking.
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