I can make it to the third day then I fail
Perhaps the excitement and newness of the quit keeps you going, and when the bloom is off the rose, it gets more difficult? If you aren't using a quit aid, the nicotine should be pretty much out of your system after the third day - perhaps the amount in your system is getting less and that's a trigger? Figure out your thought pattern when you make that decision to smoke, and make a plan ahead of time to get busy/change up that thinking. Are you keeping cigarettes around "just in case?" If so - that is just giving yourself permission to fail. Get rid of them before your next quit. Soak them under running water, schmish them up and put them in the trash!
You CAN do this - most people here had many fails before their final quit. Get back at it NOW!
I'm on my 3rd full day and so far so good. After my last cigarette on 5/7 at 11am, I went straight home and looked for support online. I found this site, and when the urge hits, I am on this site of texting SOS which is a great feature of this site for a quick fix on the go. Something to do with my hands.
My only family is my dog and he is the reason I quit, and I don't have a lot of friends, maybe just one who is a nonsmoker. She has been a great support in all areas of my life recently.
I pay attention to my triggers. Found my strongest trigger so far to be celebration of good news. Coffee is not a trigger for me, which came as a surprise.
I am on the patch and have used the gum maybe 3 times in 3 days in oral-fixation emergencies when I have no food or water handy. I only chew a minute or two until the urge passes.
For me, just paying attention to when and why I smoke and changing my behavior has been the main key, along with this site.
I keep my main motivation with me at all times. My dog is my family and when he's not around, I scroll through the gazillion pics I have of him. Something else to do with idle hands.
Those are some of the things that help me.
Good luck to you!
Thanks someone who is new helps
On Fri, May 10, 2019, 1:23 PM Youngatheart.7.4.12 <
That's what's so great about this site. They''re are elders, new quitters and quitters somewhere in between. There is something for everyone depending on what you need at the time. I hope you found the support you need to make it through day 3. Reach out when you need help; when you need it!
Hi and thanks, this is the hardest thing I've ever had to do, I need to
exercise my faith and trust in God
On Fri, May 10, 2019, 2:37 PM Barbscloud <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Thanks for the support and encouragement
On Fri, May 10, 2019, 1:22 PM Alicatsam <email@example.com>
Self Talk helps. Tell yourself that you can make it. Say, "I don't do that anymore. Look forward to day 4, then 5 then 6. on and on. One day at a time. No matter what you are not going to smoke no matter what day you are on. One day at a time. You can do this.
You know it ... now plan for it...make sure Day 3 doesn’t win ... but you do ... plan something that day that keeps you so busy ... you can’t smoke ~ ie., come here all day and write or help others ... ~ you can do this ~ Colleen 158 DOF
Come here FIRST....blog with the word HELP in the subject line and give us a chance to talk you down. You CAN make it past the third day and the fourth and on and on. Read everything you can about nicotine addiction and don't allow yourself to get sucked back into the abyss.
Thanks so much for your help and support, I need all the help I can get
I was new once Sister5, thought I was going crazy. Wanted to be all better because not smoking felt so awful. I knew that walking the walk was my way out, but it felt rediculously hard to change. I was emotionally exhausted. There was no way for me to just catch a happy quit by trying to imagine it into reality. I just didn't smoke.
I stayed busy, walked, ate candy, did a lot of things other than smoke. That's it. Time, in my case, was my healer. Well, being willing to walk the walk helped too.
Thanks, I just need to get past this horrible addiction, I beat myself up
On Sat, May 11, 2019, 4:36 PM maryfreecig <firstname.lastname@example.org>
How is it going for you, Sister5? It does get easier. But it can feel weird to start. Ex is here for you.
It's not going so good, I'm smoking
On Sun, May 12, 2019, 9:14 AM maryfreecig <email@example.com>
Thanks for responding. Many find there way to a strong quit is up and down. Keep looking for your quit. Ex is here for you along the way.
Yes please keep trying...Gotcha in my Thoughts ~ Colleen 160 DOF
Good morning. I'm just checking in, wondering how it's going for you. I'm on day 5, barely made it yesterday.
Hope you're hanging in there, taking care of you the best you can.
Good for you, I'm smoking, going to try tomorrow, prayers
On Sun, May 12, 2019, 11:50 AM Alicatsam <firstname.lastname@example.org>
I see you have tried a few times. Have you tried any of the aids? I'm on the patch and would not be smoke free without it. True, I am not nicotine free, but I'm not taking in all the other chemicals and I'm not forcing 2nd hand smoke on everyone around me.
If you're having health issues due to smoking, it is so much better to use just nicotine rather than smoke cigarettes, which have so many other bad chemicals.
What are your reasons for wanting to quit? Mine is my dog, my only family. Knowing it's bad for him is great motivation not to smoke.
Regardless of how many times you don't make it past that 3rd day, it's awesome that you have kept getting back on the horse and continued seeking support on Ex. Give yourself a little pack on the back for each time you make it through one day smoke free. Or one hour, even. Reward yourself for every success rather than beat yourself up for every failure. I think it's harder to quit if you feel bad about yourself.
Positive reinforcement is absolutely key for me to hang on to my quit. I let myself bask in my pride each morning and evening, and I also enjoy all the congrats and encouragement i get from Ex and acquaintances from work and the dog parks. My nonsmoker friend was just telling me today how amazing i am for not smoking for 5 days. She is awesome for asking what it's like and never judging me when I was smoking. Many of my smoker friends at work are in awe, and one is about ready to join me on the journey.
If you have tried several times and keep running into the same wall, I say it is perfectly ok to weaken that wall with a patch or any kind of medication that can help so you can crash through and finally join the party on the other side.
Let yourself go through your emotions , I used the nicotine patches and without them,I'm not sure i would have quit , but what i did do was let myself feel these emotions and writing my feelings down helped me so very much ,I downloaded a writing app and even though it's been over a year since I quit ,I still look back at those writings, it really helps me to see the pain I had to go through while quitting and I never want to go back there. This page was also my lifeline ,I read and asked questions answered questions and I wasnt alone!!!!! You can get through your 3rd day, you have to want it bad enough!!!!!! Do you? You can do this!!!!
Sister 5, I am on day 27, and they keep getting a smidgen' easier each day. Day 5 thru 10 I think were the days of my toughest cravings, but I'm here and thrilled. Smoked from the age of 15 thru 65. If you totaled up all the attempted quit days I've probably smoked for 47 - 48 years. What a shameful waste of my health. :-( But I figure every day I move forward smoke free I'm gaining back some time. Works for me. Also, after my last smoke of the evening prior to my quit I soaked my remaining smokes at the sink and trashed them. WOW THAT WAS VERY HARD FOR ME TO DO. Don't give up on yourself, keep at it! Check out the aids, there is something out there that may help you, use the tools available for your benefit. I just received Allen Carr's Easy Way To Stop Smoking book. Gonna bury my head in it right now.
p.s. I already feel so much better!
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