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Nirvana99
Member

How do i not give in?

I want to fight the urge but its hard the want is strong

16 Replies
anaussiemom
Member

One moment at at time...

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YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to our community!

You have to have a PLAN what you will do when the cravings get strong. You are not unique - everyone who has quit smoking has had to deal with these; some had an easier time than others.  A good foundation helps you to design one that will work for you.  Read, read and read some more to develop one!

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. If you do nothing else to get ready for your quit, please do give this a read.


 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract.   I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them..  For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum.  For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion,  3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire and 4) you can become addicted to that and it has not yet been proven safe .
 

It will be informative if you do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. As you track each cigarette smoked, note its importance, and what you might do instead. Put each one off just a little to prove that you don't NEED a cigarette just because you think you do.
 

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

sweetplt
Member

Hello and Welcome ... you don’t give in, have you done the work and preparation...not saying this isn’t tough...but it is doable...where are you in your quit...anyways...please read at My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX and also the blogs...keep busy...drink water, do jumping jacks...sure we all wanted it bad...but we got tough and said NOPE and got support and kept the quit...you can too...please let us know how you are doing...~ Colleen 151 DOF 

MarilynH
Member

Welcome to the community Nirvana99, please read the links suggested above me and keep reading everything you can about quitting smoking and remaining quit because there's a wealth of information right here on this site to strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb permanently it's not easy by any stretch of the imagination BUT it's absolutely Doable and totally worth it, deep breaths and know that we're all here to help you in any way we can you can and will be successful one precious Smokefree Day at a time or hour minute or even a second at a time as difficult as quitting smoking can be you can and will get through the roller coaster ups BUT you must believe it and stick with your quit journey so each evening you can say YAY for another Day WON.......

Sootie
Member

It is not easy......but it is simple. Just don't smoke.

I hope you have done the readings and tapped into some of the resources here on this site.

Do it one day....one minute one second (if necessary) at a time.

Try NOT to fight the urges. Try to let them wash over you, examine them. Talk to yourself...."wow, this is a bad one"......like a surfer, ride the wave until it ends. Know that a crave never lasts very long. And every day you don't smoke those smoke receptors in your brain will get weaker and weaker.

If you are able, take a walk or any exercise and movement you like to do. Physical movement is great to beat a crave.

Stay close to this site....it is the BEST for support!

Welcome to EX.....we are all here for each other.

indingrl
Member

Welcome and GOOD question - Prayer helps ME- it was SUGGESTED I use the Serenity Prayer - which is - God grant ME the serenity to accept the things I cannot change Courage to change the things I can and the Wisdom to KNOW the difference- YOUR OWN FREE WILL to choose- life or suck on NICOTINE  death sticks - gentle hug.

Mandolinrain
Member

Welcome to this community! The best thing you CAN do is to understand nicotine and how it works in your brain. Its a relentless drug that wakes up your brains receptors every time you take a hit and then restarts the need for the next smoke. You MUST break the chain. Read the Alan Carr book, its a fast read and SO Helpful. Stay near this site and do your homework, please. Read everything Youngatheart above sent you and as much on this site as you can.

We are here for you. One day at a time, Okay

Strudel
Member

Please do the reading mentioned above. Also - having a mantra to say when those feelings come along - “I don’t do that anymore.” , “This will pass”, “ I CAN do this”.....or whatever works for you. Congrats on your quit! 

Gwenivere
Member

I’m 6 months in and just now getting cravings.  Bigtime.  I thought I lucked out, but alas no.  Now I have so much time invested I don’t want to restart the clock.  But they are tough.  Maybe making up for lost time.  Plus I use patches and lozenges but always did.  I never underestimate the brain and how it gets triggered now.  They do pass, but it seems like an eternity while they happen.  I bought a lot of sugar free dollar store hard candies to suck on.  That helps some.  It’s at least keeping my mouth busy.  Long drinks of water help too, or doing a chore.  That’s me tho, there are lots of suggestions you can experiment with.  I have to try that self talk myself now that I’m getting craves.  I’m trusting the elders here they will ease up in time.  Patience is not my virtue anymore tho.  Hang in there.