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I think if you look inward, you'll know why you relapsed. But tell me, did you quit again or are you still smoking? A relapse can be a learning experience, making what was originally negative into a positive. You need to know what made you smoke and more importantly, what you'll do to make sure it doesn't happen again when you start your quit again.
You haven't lost unless you've given up completely. Now, it's time to get back on that horse and ride yourself to freedom!! I look forward to hearing of your future success!
ONWARD TO FREEDOM!!!
Quitting is all about your attitude. In order to be successful you need to change the way you think about your quit. I was excited and could hardly wait. Yes I knew it was going to be harder than heck, after all I had smoked for 37 years, but I had made the decision to quit and I was going to. Get rid of all those negative thoughts you are having. This is a good thing.
Have you written down all of your reasons for wanting to quit? This really will be helpful to you.... Again I can’t stress strongly enough that this is truly all about your determination to do this.
You need to stay out of your head and not even thing about smoking. If you focus on it you’re going to want to do it. You will feel a bit “crazy” at times but you will be okay and that much stronger once you do. We are truly here for you...
I'd never read that one before! I certainly recognized Quitters A and B!
I think we all recognize Quitters A and B. There are some mighty good blogs in Best of EX
A lot of us have had "false starts". Please, please dust yourself off and get right back on the wagon. I promise that will be far easier than putting it off a week or even a day. Like Chuck said above, try to make it a learning experience. Figure out what was happening to make you want to smoke, and resolve to figure out a way to avoid that situation. Or, come up with a way to just get through it next time. We all know what you're going through and have your back!
Why, why, why? Because smoking/nicotine is an addiction-- dependency. Quitting requires motivation to change, not necessarily happiness (at first). Planning a quit includes understanding that you may feel cravings at first and they can be dealt with one day at a time. Ex is here to help if you want it.
WELCOME back! Yahooooo- GOOD JOB coming right back!!!! Thanks for sharing your courage and SELF honesty- QUESTION - WHY. - because YOU have PERSONAL FREEDOM TO CHOOSE to use YOUR DRUG of CHOICE NICOTINE or NOT- it is that simple! CHOICES - CHOICES - CHOICES - NOW - the old feeling thinking and old habits and old patterns of YOUR FREE WILL - SUGGESTED TO ME BY THOSE WALKING THEIR TALK - SUGGESTED TO ME that I educate MYSELF on MY own NICOTINE ADDICTION- that is what was SUGGESTED to ME in MY EARLY RECOVERY - so I took their SUGGESTIONS - I read the blogs here and watched the free videos at whyquit.com that showed those who died from smoking at very young ages - also SUGGESTED to read the FREE book at whyquit.com called - NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF EVER by Joel- WHO has been HELPING NICOTINE ADDICTS for over 40 YEARS - also SUGGESTED to remain open- minded to learn - NEW ideas and NEW ways and find what NEW - works for ME - everyone uses drug nicotine differently and recoveries are different also - FIND WHAT WORKS JUST FOR YOU - education is the key- I was using 50 death sticks a day at the end of using MY DRUG NICOTINE- I smoke MY first cigarette butt at 5 YEARS old- please I am talking about me - NOT anyone else- I started using MY DRUG NICOTINE- everyday at 15 years old- I used for 38 YEARS and SMOKING AT PEOPLE was what I did ! I stayed on this site every day for the first 90 DAYS of MY EARLY RECOVERY from NICOTINE and reading blogs - writing VENTING blogs where I was whinning- complaining - confessing - that I wanted to use MY drug of choice NICOTINE- I blogged BEFORE I took that first PUFF over ME- I still come here everyday to HELP- so please take what HELPS and let go of the rest- to be HELPFUL is MY only aim - thank you. gentle hug.
I wonder if you still had cigarettes in your environment on your quit day? If so - that probably doomed this attempt. You need to put any you have left under running water and into the trash - ashtrays and lighters need to go, too.
Did you prepare for the quit this time? Plan for it? Write down things you could do instead? If not - do them before this next attempt. This is a serious addiction and it isn't easy to let go!
You might spend a minute recognizing your thoughts when you gave in....and decide now to short circuit them if they appear in head on your next attempt. You could have done lots of things besides smoke: slow/deep breaths, write a blog here asking for help, calling a friend, going for a walk, taking a soak in the tub. These cravings will only last about three minutes - but you need to be disciplined in the early days to subvert them.
You are only a failure if you don't set a new date and stick to it!!!
Get to it!
You CAN do this, preparation is really important, having plans for things to do instead of smoking, and making a commitment not to smoke, no matter what. Read everything you can about this addiction, stay very close to the site and read everything you can about this journey. I suggest a blog by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 What To Expect In The First Four Months Be prepared, set that date and keep going on as an ex smoker. It gets easier, I promise.
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The way I see this is that you did not fail in your quit day!
You failed to pick the right quit day! After extensive research, I have determined that tomorrow is your real quit date! So tomorrow you quit! No excuses! No failures! Just don’t smoke! It is not real easy, but it is simple! No excuses! We don’t do that anymore! And you are one of us now! Be a part of this incredible group forever!
Good Morning...it is hard, but doable...did you do the reading at My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX and blogs...did you prepare and have things in place for your quit date...ie., threw all smoking paraphernalia away, drank lots of water, list what you would do instead of smoke, hard candy, carrot sticks, cinnamon sticks, etc., This truly takes knowledge, preparation and hard work...You can do this, you are worth it...keep close to hear for support...don’t beat yourself up, don’t give up, and get back on in the quit...~ Colleen 140 DOF
You have gotten a lot of good advice. We all want you to succeed. Quitting can be overwhelming I suggest to keep it simple. One day at a time. Each day and just for that day to yourself to commit, that no matter what you are going through you will not smoke. Tell yourself and say out loud " I don't do that anymore." NOPE not one puff ever will keep you free. Learn more about the addiction to nicotine may be your answer to the why go to www.whyquit.com and read Nicotine 101 and any other topics that may be of interest to you. You can do this because quitting is DOABLE. Stay close take the road map to freedom from nicotine. You are starting in the right place. Never give up never give in, hang tough, Education is the key to a successful quit.
There are many of us on this site who have quit and quit again. Forgive yourself, dust yourself off, figure out what caused the relapse, work a plan around it! Whatever you do, DO NOT QUIT ON YOURSELF! I first came on this site in 2014 in the middle of my tenth or eleventh time of trying to quit. I failed. And felt so embarrassed and angry it took me several years to try again. I never left the site, I lurked, thinking one day I would try and quit again.
I quit a 2 pack habit on August 13th. Short version; I got so mad at myself for smoking I quit almost Cold Turkey (3 patches-3 days) I have been smoke free since. Please understand I do not recommend you do this. I honestly believe God had a hand in this quit. I just want you to know you can do this! It will not be easy. There will be times you will feel like you are going insane but in the end it will be so worth it. I hope this helps. There are many people on this website who will offer support and advise but the choice is up to you. Good Luck on your journey.
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