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Andstillirise
Member

Weight gain phobia

Hi , I’m sure this sounds silly to most people . I stopped smoking 4 days ago . I’ve smoked for 25 years and it’s aleays been fear of weight gain that’s stood in the way . 

Ive been a vegetarian for years , briskly walk 8 miles a day and am fit . I don’t want to gain any weight!!!

im doing okay so far not smoking . Constipated and slight headache but not too bad . 

Im having straight up panic attacks though about gaining weight though . It makes me want to smoke again . 

Pleaae help ! I know it’s irrational and quitting is healthier than gaining a few pounds . 

Has anyone not gained weight after quitting. ??

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TW517
Member

Quite a few people on this site have quit without gaining weight.  I'm sure they will comment as well.  I was very much into fitness and not an ounce overweight when I began my quit.  I bought into the "a few extra pounds are better than smoking" mantra and really went crazy on sugary treats I had never eaten before.  Although I do believe the mantra, I don't think all the extra sweets are necessary at all.  I could have eased the craves just as easily with carrots, frozen grapes, chewing on straws, etc.  But I didn't, and gained 25 pounds in 3 months.  Sounds awful, but I easily dropped all that weight in about 6 weeks with not much effort.

indingrl
Member

Thanks for sharing - please I am talking about ME NOT anyone else- PLEASE take what HELPS and let go of the rest- to be HELPFUL is MY only aim - thank you-  I gained weight and lost weight and gained weight and lost weight- only by God's grace I do CHOOSE to eat healthy with MORE veggies consumed these day and I lije eating - i exercising since august 2010 everyday and MY continuous living a non smoker life style in MY reality is staying in present day - ONE day at a time - just a HELPFUL SUGGESTION - maybe you will  join a group that talks about YOUR fears of gaining weight or get PROFESSIONAL therapy for help with your fears- GOOD JOB AND CONGRATS ON 4 DAYS NICOTINE FREE TODAY- WAY TO GO! yahooooooo - gentle hug.

YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to our community!

Congratulations on your decision to quit smoking and your four first successful days!  Three more and you will have completed H#ll Week.  Gaining weight is NO excuse for continuing to smoke!  There is no good reason to smoke; there are only excuses.  You might want to try eating 6 smaller meals every day, say a bit of protein and a veggie/fruit to keep your blood sugar level.  Smoking does aid in digestion, so constipation is not out of the ordinary.  Increase your fiber - things like prunes can also help.  Your body will adjust, but it does take some time.  You need to eat 200 less calories a day just to keep a steady weight when you quit......but PLEASE don't obsess over it.  You can easily lose any weight gained when your quit is well in hand.

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. If you do nothing else to get ready for your quit, please do give this a read.


 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract.   I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them..  For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum.  For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion,  3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire and 4) you can become addicted to that and it has not yet been proven safe .
 

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

Andstillirise
Member

Thank you Nancy for the warm welcome . 

I stopped cold turkey . I’ve been down this path before . Quit for 5 years ! I know , right ? How dumb could I be to start again. 

And it was over WEIGHT GAIN! 

For me , in the past I have always been okay distracting myself from smoking and quit drinking coffee and alcohol years ago . Never went back . 

But went back to smoking . 

I lied to myself and told myself when I lost the weight , I could just quit again . But we all know that didn’t work out for me . 

This tine I’m determined to never smoke again. 

JACKIE1-25-15
Member

This topic comes up ALL the time.  Go to the magnifying glass and use the keyword "weight gain".  You will have a lot to read and use as a reference.  It is on the list of EXcuses NOT to quit. 

Andstillirise
Member

Thank you . 

I’ve always pretty much been a vegetarian and very physically active . I have some chronic health issues ( unrelated to anything smoke related ) so eating sugary or fattening foods isn’t an option for me . 

My fear is that even with eating and exercising the very same , I will gain weight simply because my metabolism will slow due to no nicotine. 

I see a psychologist weekly and told her about my fears . She recommended I join an ex smoking group Incase others could relate . 

Thinking maybe if I walk an extra 3 miles a day , it will offset the slowed metabolism. 

Realizing this sounds crazy

thank you for the replies ! 

YoungAtHeart
Member

I think the AVERAGE weight gain is like 5 pounds.  If you are currently at an ideal weight, 5 pounds will not hardly even SHOW.  Just stop obsessing over it - it isn't healthy OR necessary.  You CAN lose it when your quit is well in hand - honest!!!!  Adding three miles a day sounds grueling - but if you want to do that, it will also help with your general state of mind, too!

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Jennifer-Quit
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I used that as an excuse for years to not quit. But quitting is the very best thing that I have ever done for myself. Just continue to make healthy choices and you will be fine. Best wishes!

elvan
Member

I lost more than one quit because of that weight obsession.  Now, I CAN'T go for brisk walks because my lungs are too damaged.  I think I gained three pounds after I quit, I do ten miles on a stationary bike five days a week to keep my lungs as strong as I can.  I am always short of breath, huffing and puffing, sounding like Darth Vader if I try to hurry.  I am exhausted all the time because of COPD and I can tell you that if I had ever believed this was what I was really doing to myself by smoking, I would have stopped years ago.  It's a lot easier to lose a couple of pounds than it is to have to pull an oxygen tank around with you.  I think the people who gain a lot of weight are not people who are really working their quits as recovery journeys.  A lot of women gain a great deal of weight after they have kids and they use that as an excuse, I was always chasing my kids around and couldn't understand how these people had TIME to gain weight. I have always worked out regularly unless I was too sick or in too much pain.  I used to walk every day and absolutely loved it.  I miss that but I cannot be exposed to pollen and mold, and any other allergens and still be able to catch my breath.  Not being able to breathe is the single most terrifying experience I have ever had.  

Quitting is a journey and not an event and you can absolutely do this one day at a time without gaining any weight but first and foremost, concentrate on your quit.

Welcome to EX.

Ellen