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Question asked by tweasel on Mar 12, 2019
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Hi Everyone,

First, all of the encouraging and informative responses are, well, really helpful and kind. You give me hope. This morning, delaying smoking for the forty five minutes hit hard! My brain, my thoughts, not good. Am still here. No less motivated. Just a little shook.

My questions:

Is using notebook and pen to track my smokes okay? .My phone is difficult to see when I am out busing around. If I reply to one email, does it go to the community, or, just that person?

Slowing down is good advice, today my quit date feels scarey close. Kathy

IrishRose Mar 15, 2019 6:48 PM

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Ah, I love that song. When I was a little girl, my sister used to sing a special song to me. Every night, I would wait in my bed for her to come in and sing this song. You brought back such fond memories of her and that song... Too Ra Loo Ra Loo Ral (An Irish Lullaby). I would "give the world if I could hear" my sister sing "That song of hers today". Now, I am teary-eyed, but it is a good teary-eyed thing. Thank you for drumming up such fond memories for both you and I.

(((((hug))))),

Irish Rose

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anaussiemom Mar 12, 2019 8:33 PM
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Anything you pen/write is awesome. Fears, accomplishments, goals , small moments. Everything you want to write down is great. Write down why you feel shook. It will help you work thru your feelings quite normal, I might add too!

Your doing great. Breathe................One moment at a time for many of us is what it takes to get thru to the next. It wont be like this/that for ever.

Hugs KIm
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- tweasel @ anaussiemom on Mar 12, 2019 9:17 PM
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  I have my notebook out. And the rest of the day
  to process. My smoking is mixed into my whole life.
  Hugs back. Kathy
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Youngatheart.7.4.12 Mar 12, 2019 10:18 PM
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GREAT start! In a couple of days, start putting the least necessary ones off a bit while you get busy doing something else. You will naturally cut back that way!
Work at this getting ready - read and read some more, too.
The better prepared you are, the less scary this will be!
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Mark Mar 13, 2019 12:20 PM
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tweasel wrote:
My phone is difficult to see when I am out busing around. If I reply to one email, does it go to the community, or, just that person?

When you are out and about and you reply to an email notification it will post your comment to the community as a reply to the person you responded to. It allows you to keep participating without needing to login to reply. For those who want to participate at work without their work knowing they're getting support on EX it also allows them to just use their email without broadcasting that they're going to becomeanex.org.

When you reply on the site or via email and it is posted to the site, it will send a notification to anyone who is subscribed to/following the post(discussion, question, blog, document, etc) either because they have participated in it/authored it or have followed the place (Community/Group) that the post exists in. The reply does not go only to the person you're responding to. If you @mention a person they will also get a notification indicating that they have been mentioned even if they are not subscribed to the topic to let them know they are being talked about. I don't know of a way to do this via email so you'd need to login to the site to @mention someone if you want to get their attention.

If you want to reply to the author of the topic use the "Reply to original ......" button when responding or if you want to respond to a specific comment from someone, respond to the email notification or click the "Reply" button in the box that contains the comment to respond to a specific person. I sometimes try to respond to multiple people at once by using the Quote button (") to copy their comment into my response and use an @mention to them so it gets their attention. That way i can respond to multiple people in one reply rather than a lot of individual responses which send out multiple notifications. That is a little easier on a computer than on a phone however.

Mark
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- Giulia @ Mark on Mar 13, 2019 12:20 PM
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  This question: "My phone is difficult to see when I am out busing around. If I reply to one email, does it go to the community, or, just that person? " and your response would be very helpful in the Community Help section. Might it be branched?
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Barbscloud Mar 13, 2019 11:06 AM
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Don't think I saw this in the responses. You can also send a Personal Message that only goes to that individual.
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- Mark @ Barbscloud on Mar 13, 2019 11:34 AM
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  Barbscloud wrote:
  
  Don't think I saw this in the responses. You can also send a Personal Message that only goes to that individual.
  Absolutely, however I recommend participating in public,whenever possible, as it helps others. When things are taken to private messages it doesn't benefit the group as a whole. Certainly, I understand some topics may be private in nature and should be shared only with trusted people, in private. I find though that ensuring that you're as specific as possible while still keeping some anonymity with your identity has the best results and is often the most helpful. Your mileage may vary however.
  
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IrishRose Mar 13, 2019 12:51 PM
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tweasel , I kept a pad and wrote down every time I smoked. I not only noted the time, I noted down the trigger that got me wanting to run off and have a cancer stick. When you can see the triggers, you can start working on your behavior to avoid those triggers; you can amend your daily way of doing things, avoiding things that make you think you "need" to smoke, etc. Plus, that notebook will keep your hands full, and less likely to be able to juggle holding a cancer stick, and keep your mind occupied to trip onto something else to get your mind off of smoking. Stay committed. Give your body four whole seasons to feel what it is like to be free. Write down what you hate about smoking too - like stinking very similar to the bottom of an ash tray. YUK! (((((hug)))))

Irish Rose
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IrishRose Mar 13, 2019 12:52 PM
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... more money to fund your new hobbies too!!!!!!
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IrishRose Mar 13, 2019 12:53 PM
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.... good health - your body will love you for quitting. You will not pucker out and get winded when you do something.

Irish Rose
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- tweasel @ IrishRose on Mar 14, 2019 8:28 PM
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  Hi
  
  My Dad used to sing "My Wild Irish Rose" to me a lot when I was little...
  warm memories whenever I see your posts.
  I do get puckered out when moving a lot, pursed lip breathing even gets
  hard.
  I will not forget this post. I appreciate all of your words of wisdom,
  although knowing in my mind who has posted what, at this point is a blur,
  but, such good stuff!
  
  I'll do a status check later after a few zzzz's. Kathy
  
  On Wed, Mar 13, 2019, 9:54 AM IrishRose <communityadmin@becomeanex.org
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  - IrishRose @ tweasel on Mar 15, 2019 6:48 PM
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    Ah, I love that song. When I was a little girl, my sister used to sing a special song to me. Every night, I would wait in my bed for her to come in and sing this song. You brought back such fond memories of her and that song... Too Ra Loo Ra Loo Ral (An Irish Lullaby). I would "give the world if I could hear" my sister sing "That song of hers today". Now, I am teary-eyed, but it is a good teary-eyed thing. Thank you for drumming up such fond memories for both you and I.
    
    (((((hug))))),
    Irish Rose
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    - Giulia @ IrishRose on Mar 16, 2019 8:02 PM
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      - tweasel @ Giulia on Mar 16, 2019 8:20 PM
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        These are beautiful
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elvan Mar 13, 2019 12:53 PM
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I used a little notebook for tracking cigarettes to identify triggers and then to make plans for what to do instead of smoke. I ended up with a couple of lost quits (that was my pattern) but when I got seriously ill and I HAD to quit, that little notebook was incredibly helpful. There were some triggers that did not get put into my tracking because they didn't happen while I was doing it but I found that almost any trigger could be disarmed by cold water, deep breaths, EX, and Sour Patch Kids.
Ellen
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sweetplt Mar 13, 2019 1:51 PM
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All of this is great, writing in a journal, etc.. however, in all honesty until you quit smoking and rid your body of nicotine and go through the withdrawl, you will continue to feel this way. Every time you smoke, and delay your body is craving...you are putting your body through the crave...unless you start making a list of something to do when you are a delaying the smoke...ie., pray, clean a room, do dishes, plant a few houseplants, etc., you see everything is about doing something instead of smoking...~
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maryfreecig Mar 13, 2019 4:17 PM
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If your quit day seems too close, try videoing yourself talking about why you want to quit, why you are scared to quit. Give yourself 24 hours, then watch--via large screen (rather than a small phone screen). Sit yourself down in a chair and listen to what you have to say. Meditate on it.

Very few have an amazing pre-quit conversion that makes quitting a cinch. Most of us have to make a promise to do everything we know we are capable of doing to make the quit work---always one day at a time!!!
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- elvan @ maryfreecig on Mar 13, 2019 6:02 PM
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  maryfreecig I always forget that video suggestion and I think it is a great idea.
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DonnaMarie Mar 13, 2019 5:59 PM
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Anything you do is a good thing. Paper and pencil are everywhere, even if they're not you're own. So happy that you're making this move. You will be more than happy with yourself as you continue to move through this process. Don't forget to stop by here and holler for help and keep in touch!

We've all been where you are and could be there again if we gave in and smoked just one.

Donna
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indingrl.01.06.2011 Mar 13, 2019 6:03 PM
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GOOD JOB KATHY.
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tweasel Mar 13, 2019 6:26 PM
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Giulia Mar 16, 2019 8:21 PM
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I hoped you'd like them!
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- IrishRose @ Giulia on Mar 16, 2019 10:09 PM
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  Simply beautiful!!! "hush now don't" me "cry"
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  - Giulia @ IrishRose on Mar 16, 2019 10:22 PM
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    Ah buuut the Airish ahr full of lahfter and tairs for shuur!
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    - IrishRose @ Giulia on Mar 17, 2019 5:53 AM
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      That was beautiful as well, Giulia . I love Joan Baez - watched a tribute to her 75th birthday the other evening on PBS Channel. ((((hug))) for you, Dear Friend!
      
      Love you,
      Irish Rose
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    - tweasel @ Giulia on Mar 17, 2019 6:24 PM
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      To Guilia,,
      
      It is my intention to continue having conversations with more people on
      site. I want to
      answer, in some way, those who are talking with me, showing such dedication
      to my
      efforts, everyone. Am relying
      on Gmail, there is a lot to learn. At least for me, about the site.
      Wanted to share.
      
      ((Hugs))
      
      On Sat, Mar 16, 2019 at 7:23 PM Giulia <communityadmin@becomeanex.org>
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Giulia Mar 18, 2019 12:33 AM
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Just found this: John McDermott- Danny Boy (LIVE) - YouTube Video service on here is currently unavailable, otherwise I'd embed it.
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