I’m doing so good in not smoking. But now I know what makes me smoke and just get me to that point. Not sure what to do. It’s a person and not a thing. What should I do.
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I’m doing so good in not smoking. But now I know what makes me smoke and just get me to that point. Not sure what to do. It’s a person and not a thing. What should I do.
CONGRATS ON 9 DAYS!!!! WAY TO GO!!!! GOOD JOB!!!
Haven't said this for awhile, but it's still appropriate for smoking (or any addiction)a. "Someone hurts me, so I beat myself up". It's not worth it--smoking isn't going to hurt them, it's going to hurt you. Congrats on your 9 days!
Not not going back to smoking. I came to far. But maybe I need to change others things in my life.
Yes change always brings the RIPPLE EFFECT- MY non smoker life style CHANGE brought no caffine next-amen
Ok I still drink coffee but I did stop soda
I like what you said there - you're thinking of making a change. It's all up to us. You got this. Heck, you haven't smoked for 9 days! That's amazing.
Thank you. Anyone can do it if they really want it.
You do know that you can control how you react to a bothersome person? If you can't control your anger, or frustration and it's possible, distance yourself from them while your quit is still in its infancy. If they are IN your life, maintain a distance and just don't engage them. I remember a phrase my daughter used to use on me that used to send me immediately over the edge when I spoke to her: "WHATever!" You might try saying that in your head when someone tries to jerk your chain. You certainly don't want to give them power over YOUR quit - so figure out a way not to do that. You can, you know!
Nancy
P.S. You might also switch to 1/2 decaf, 1/2 regular coffee. I have been doing that for years, and you honestly cannot tell the difference. When I drink the full octane now, I immediately get the shakes!
Wow ok im going to try that tomorrow morning.
I agree with Youngatheart.7.4.12, walk away if you can and don't allow this person to be your "Higher Power"...know too that it is okay to get angry...we used to stuff our feelings into cigarettes and we don't do that anymore. Your quit is very young, if you can avoid conflict and confrontation, I would advise that, if not...accept that YOU have a right to FEEL!
Ellen
Thank you and y’all right.
I can't truly give you an honest answer. How do you interact with this person? Is it through work or living arrangements? How often are you around them? Is there a way you could avoid them? Sometimes quitting causes us to change people places and things or at least evaluate the priority. Your quit is #1. Hopefully, you have already gotten an answer.
Ah...I have family that I always wanted to smoke after I saw them...I am learning they are toxic...my Quit/Health is number one...I am seeing less of them, and I am keeping any and all conversations short. I found out ... smoking never helped...it was how I dealt with them...I am learning new and healthier ways. You can do the same...~ Happy Saturday ~ Colleen
Thanks for sharing- I use to use MY DRUG NICOTINE to smoke at people too in MY PAST - it was NOT A SOLUTION - when i got done smoking at them- they did NOT CHANGE - and MY LUNGS DID- for ME it was harder to breathe- like boulder set on MY chest - yet I didn't care - just passing on the love- smoking only hurt ME - i didn't change another person and I learned it was MY responsibility to mange MY OWN FEELINGS- to NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF OVER ME! Please take what HELPS and let go of the rest- thank you.