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Discuss different approaches to quitting, including medication

Arwen
Member

Quit Today It's TOUGH

Quit today and although I got up to 12 cigarettes a day, after I stopped drinking wine at night, I've been smoking 6 a day.  Soooo hard! I read the article on Addiction and that helped me get through my 2nd terrible craving.  Now writing to you all to get through another craving.  Oh wow, I feel like deleting my profile and driving to the store and getting my cigarettes! But I know its a false rush going through my body.  It even feels like my lungs want it. I didn't think it would be this hard.  I just told myself with my LAST cigarette, how much I didn't like the taste of smoke and chemicals and the burn feeling in my chest + the lack of breath by the end of the day.  Thanks for listening! :-}

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TW517
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It really is tough.  After multiple false starts and a ton of research, I thought I was really ready for this quit.  But no matter how hard you think you've prepared, going through it is still really, really hard.  Hardest thing most of us will ever do.  Best crave advice I can give is to move around (as vigorously as possible even if you're confined to a chair).  Then keep telling yourself you will not smoke no matter what!  Chewing on a straw is also helpful.  Glad you came here first!

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Giulia
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Howdy!  Don't you dare delete your profile and rush off to the store.  I hope I'm not too late.  You can do this.  Did you get through yesterday?  If not, keep working at it.  /blogs/Giulia-blog/2018/03/01/quitting-is-a-skill-that-can-be-learned?sr=search&searchId=31690428-11...‌  It's not easy, I'll grant you, but we have a whole slew of people who have over a one-year quit here (and that's just the one's who have told us):  /blogs/Giulia-blog/2017/06/18/elders-list-ao-december-7-2016?sr=search&searchId=eb5dfb1c-6b4e-4390-b...‌.  You have to trust us when we say that it will get easier with time.  Time is really the only cure for this, for we have to unlearn old behaviors and thought patterns.  So sit back, read, learn and believe that you can do this.  We KNOW you can.  Arwen

Arwen
Member

Didn't delete profile. Have reduced the 7 per day to 5 since joining. Guilt doesn't work for me, as in telling me not to dare go to the store. But, I'm sure the intention was sincere.  Joining this forum did not give me the ability to quit cold turkey, but has given me the resolve and encouragement to keep cutting down until I'm down to zero. I have appreciated all the feedback and hearing other people's journey and struggles.  Thanks much all!

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YoungAtHeart
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Whatever works for you works best for you.  Keep working it!

Nancy

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elvan
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Welcome to EX...quitting is a journey, it is not an event.   It HAS to be one day at a time and sometimes a day is too long and it has to be one hour or one crave or one feeling at a time.  This is a really strong addiction and it has a physical as well as a psychological component.  The physical part does not last as long...the psychological part is really the journey.  When we smoked, we stuffed our feelings and when we quit...we have to learn how to deal with those feelings.  The good news is that it CAN be done.   If it couldn't, there would be a lot fewer "elders" here.  The elders have been quit for a year or more and some have been quit for a LOT more.  You CAN do this and we will do anything and everything that we can to help you.  I think YoungAtHeart‌ will be along to officially welcome you but, in the meantime...PLEASE read the blog that Giulia‌ linked to you and you might also really like one written by JonesCarpeDiem‌, I read it over and over again when I first started.../blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2011/06/26/what-to-expect-in-the-first-four-months 

Remember that smoking does nothing FOR you but it sure can do a lot TO you.

Ellen

YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to our community!

 Congratulations on your decision to quit smoking and your first two days.  Sorry I missed your blog earlier!

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. Here's a link to a video here on the site which describes nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
 
 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance
 
 After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
 
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:


 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
 
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

elvan
Member

YoungAtHeart‌ Thanks

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Giulia
Member

Oh how I wish there were a way to indicate tone on here.  I wasn't trying to guilt trip you.  Yes, I can see how it came across as a stern reprimand, but "don't you dare delete your profile..." was said with such open-faced, smiling love.  I think I'm going to have to make a gif of myself saying it.  Then you could see it was meant as a loving nudge not a berating.  I didn't want you to leave the site and I didn't want you to run to the store, is all.  

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