I think this will be my 4th time trying to quit.. So now I’m just going to follow groups that pertain to me.. (newbie)
Congratulations for Quitting Smoking young! You will never regret it! Get to know us old fogeys too. We don't preach - we just clarify what works and what doesn't work. Smoking doesn't work -that includes ecigs!
Hey, thanks for replying! I really don’t know how to navigate on here, so I’m not sure if I’m getting the full use of the website, social groups, and or help...
Welcome to the Ex. I'm still at new comer at 248 DOF . Just spend some time on the site and you'll easily figure things out. I didn't know what I was doing at first either. It's well worth the support you'll receive from the community. If you need to reach out, just create a post.
Hi there, I had no idea what I was doing when I first signed up, I clicked around the site every day until I found an area I liked which was latest updates and my daily tracker.
You got to the main place to make a post. I work off the Home page. It has two columns. Left is blogs and right is discussions, videos and everything else.
My Welcome To New Members (10 Years Of Watching)
Welcome to the community!
The most active place on the site is here in the blogs. If you visit a group, check out the latest response to gauge if anyone there is still active......you can sometimes wake it up if anyone is still around by posting on it. When we migrated from another site to this software, Giulia created this blog to help us navigate: EX to EX INSTRUCTIONS.
The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. Here's a link to a video here on the site which describes nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be. You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort. I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you. The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced. Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T. You need to distract yourself through any craves. You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game. Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits. Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas: https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instead-of-smoke
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?" Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do. Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
Wow! Thank you so much!! The funny thing is, I just finished nursing school so I know all about what smoking does to the body.. It’s crazy how addictive it is! I will be reading up on all the recommended sites and articles for sure..
Howdy and Welcome! Most of the groups became less active after the site migrated to this new platform. A great way to see what happening across the site is to go to the Home page
Then click on Read the Latest Updates
Once you get to know people on here, you can follow those whom you wish and set your preferences to get notified when they put out material. If you need help with that give a holler.
Glad you've joined us! Being in your 20s is the perfect time to quit!
Welcome to EX, quitting when you are so young is amazing and wonderful...seriously, it offers you the absolute best future possible. It comes with its own set of challenges because you are so you but you CAN quit and you CAN make it your forever quit. I am nowhere near 20, I passed that decades ago but I remember trying to quit in my 20's...and on through the next decades. I won't tell you that it was easy because it wasn't for me, once I found this site and read blogs and the recommended readings and I started to spend time here every morning and every evening, it became easier...I was able to accept the fact that smoking did nothing FOR me but it sure did do a lot TO me...with my participation and consent. I cannot go back and quit when I was in my 20's but if I could, I would be living a whole different life now. I suggest you read about smoking and accept that it is an addiction, I also suggest that you come to the site morning and night and read and blog and comment...see what others did that worked for them. The fact that we are older does not mean that we cannot relate to you...we CAN. You need to commit to not smoking, no matter what once you make a plan and set a quit date. We are here to help you in any way that we can.
Welcome and best to you,
Thank you, I will be coming on here more often!
Also, I’m not sure why but I’m not able to edit my profile.. I want to change my profile picture but there’s no option for that. Is it because I’m trying to do it on my phone?
Can't answer the profile pic but Mark can, I am sure. I am a retired RN and there are several retired nurses and also currently practicing nurses on this site. Yes, we all knew what smoking could do, we just wanted to think we were immune. I am here to tell you that we are NOT immune. Quitting now makes me SO HAPPY for you, I am going to be smiling away for the rest of the evening, thank you.
Trust me I know and see what smoking can do! I’ve always been that person that looked way younger than my actual age, but now I have premature wrinkles and visible pores (others can’t tell but I can), cough and phlegm, wheezing from time to time, harder for my to breathe than usual, higher blood pressure and pulse rate, dull yellow teeth and darker ( I use to have the whitest teeth and pink gums), DO I NEED TO GO ON? I’m proud to say I didn’t smoke before work as I usually do, and I didn’t die from that anxious feeling (craving)!!
I had countless failed quits before this one and I credit this site and the people here for making this one different. Reading blogs and relating to other people who were either going through the same things I was or who had been there...it was about so much more than the health effects...the physical health effects are obvious. The psychological addiction is so powerful...you CAN do this, you CAN get through it one day at a time. I am sorry that your mom smokes. Any chance you can enlist her help in your quit? Ask her either to not smoke in the house or to smoke only in a designated area? You might introduce her to EX and let her read some of the blogs, she just might find something here that reaches HER. In the meantime, you can quit and show her that it can be done, you can be the example.
elvan you’re right this site is very different and really helpful in so many ways.. It’s hard talking with my mom. so I will have to find a way to get the thoughts of ‘how easy it would be just to get a cigarette’, out of my head when the craving hits..
You are at the beginning...take care of yourself and your quit, first and foremost. The quit comes first because without your loving care, it will die. This site is amazing,, there are so many great ideas that helped me and so many that helped others. I can tell you one thing without hesitation, that is, I PROMISE you that it will get easier. The beginning is not easy but those craves become memories that we associate with certain activities that we don't have to push down, we can swat them away, if we have to do even that!
Put it in desktop mode and switch to landscape.
No, you don't need to go on about all the bad effects of smoking. We're all aware of them. But it can never hurt to reinforce the detriments in our own heads.
Good for your for not smoking before work. And getting through the craving. Keep at it!
Thanks Giulia, I was asking in a sarcastic way, because I know we all know what smoking does.. It’s kinda hard to quit because I live with my mom and she smokes a lot. But I’m looking forward to reading all the suggested articles because though I know what smoking does to the body I still like reading articles from other people’s perspectives, which helps me learn more!
I always found talking/writing about the harmful side effects helpful. Something about saying/seeing it out loud reaffirmed my reasons for quitting.
Living with a smoker can make it harder, no doubt. There are several blogs about that. Just do a search "living with a smoker" for more info. Here's one to start you off: Quitting when you live with smokers
Good luck on your quit. Any age is the right age to quit. It is not the age that matters, it is the mindset. As you can see there are many of us who tried many times over several decades to quit with no success.I know you are not asking for advise but for me personally I have been staying on this site as much as possible. You will find quite a few nuggets of info and wisdom just reading blogs! You will also find a tremendous well of support. Many of us do not think in terms of age. We are more like ex prisoners (to cigarettes) trying to help each other cope on a day by day basis. Some of us succeed some of us don't. Please use us as a resource to help you quit because that is the main reason you are on this site.
Again Good Luck!
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