Jennifer, what I suggest you tell your man is this is YOUR addiction and being harrassed about how many cigarettes you smoked is not helping. Sounds like you're getting resentful(GRRR)and this will only make it harder for you. Don't worry about what others think. Sounds like you have self-esteem issues too and that's hampering your effort to quit smoking. So listen: YOU ARE A WONDERFUL PERSON!! YOU ARE A WONDERFUL MOTHER!! You deserve to have the happiness of being a non-smoker! If the patch gives you headaches, try something else like the lozenges. If you build up your self-esteem, that alone will abolish the excuses you're coming up with to smoke. And tell your man to back off! You need his support, not his nagging!