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Give and get support around quitting

Clickclick46
Member

Trans* and GNC exs

Was wondering if there was community here for other trans and/or gender non conforming people who are trying to quit? I am 29, trans masculine non-binary queer person, living in upstate New York. This is my second time trying to quit and on this community. Anyways if anyone else out there wants to connect I am here. 

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CommunityAdmin
Community Manager
Community Manager

Welcome Clickclick46‌! We welcome everyone, regardless of how people identify themselves.  The LGBTQ‌ group hasn't been active recently however I would love to see it more active.  Are there other groups you're involved with that I could connect with to help with our visibility?  

Mark
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YoungAtHeart
Member

Do you believe your identify might cause you to need help different from the community, or might you be looking for support in general?

I'm glad you are here, and hope to be helpful in your quest to be free of this awful addiction!

Nancy

MarilynH
Member

Welcome to the community we're all here to help you in your quit journey anyway we can just let us know how we can help.....

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Tabbiekat
Member

I am bisexual, my husband is heteroflexible, we have an open polyamorous relationship and both believe in living an altruistic life. I quit smoking last October since his was having a cardiac ablation for his a-fib. Initially he was going to quit with me, but he did not quit until last month, he did have the ablation, but his A-fib is still going rampit. Our friend/roommate smokes, but outside only. Hit me up if you want to chat.

Tabbie

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elvan
Member

I think we are all more than happy to accept you here and to offer any kind of help or support that we can.  Quitting smoking is quitting smoking because addiction is addiction and we will help you as much as we can.  We all had to start at the beginning, there are no shortcuts and we all want you to succeed.  Please let us know if there is anything that you need that you feel we are not able to offer.

Welcome to EX,

Ellen

Strudel
Member

Welcome back and congrats on quitting! Please - stick around! 

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Mandolinrain
Member

Welcome to Ex! This is an awesome very non judgmental community, I feel . We are all here for one thing in common, to address our nicotine addiction and support each other in our journey. Welcome to the family! Glad your here!

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YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to our community!

Let me start in by giving you my normal welcome "homework."  I think you will find you are better prepared if you do the reading, planning and preparation activities I l will offer.  The better your preparation, the better your chances of success at this.

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it  or at your local library. Here's a link to a video here on the site which describes nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
 
 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested in My Quit Plan http://www.becomeanex.org/my-quit-plan.php
 
 After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
 
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 
https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...
 
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
 
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

jennwoo
Member

Is there still any activity here for LGBT people who want to quit? I'm looking for a group.

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