Today marks my one month quit!!! I can't start to explain the craving I experience. I need help!!
Ah, No Mans Land - I remember it well. My WORST day (after the first couple) was around 106, but everyone is different. Here is something to explain it: No Mans Land Days 30 to 130 (approximate).
Get out the tools you found worked for you early in your quit. Slow/deep breaths? Sip from a bottle of water? Go for a walk? Do a few jumping jacks or a few flights of stairs? Play a computer game? Call a friend? Window shop on Etsy? If you still have a jumbled closet or drawer, clean it out? Effort is required on your part yet again.
Think about what might be causing this...Is it the change in seasons? It takes two years of that before the association to smoking is relaxed. Are you Hungry? Angry? Lonesome? Tired? (HALT) If any of these apply, fix them.What, exactly, are you thinking smoking is going to do for you right now? The CORRECT answer is that all the things you think are LIES.
Get busy! Stop thinking about smoking - don't talk yourself into it. Day One again is no fun!
Hang in there!
Thank you, it helped a bit. I am going to walk around the building now
with a bottle of water.
On Fri, Aug 24, 2018 at 2:48 PM Christine13 <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Great job posting for help! Try and distract yourself, get your mind off it. I think maybe you should go to Dale's page and read about thee first four months.
Remember a crave only lasts about 3 minutes. Go for a walk, suck on a lemon, chew gum, read a book, I'm sure there will be a lot of suggestions, and congratulations on one month!
How do I get to Dale's page? I am desperate.
Here is the link to Dale's page: jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007
More good reading here: https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/content?filterID=all~tag%5Bbest_of_ex%5D
Hang in there! Stay busy! Remember - the only person who can make a decision to smoke is YOU! Just don't!
Read, walk, read some more, walk some more. Just get through this however you can. It WILL pass - I promise!
Anite there is also Relapse Prevention and Craving Buster Technique
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Youngatheart.7.4.12 Nancy is right Anite The only person who can make you fail is yourself. You have been free for a month? That's great, ask yourself now, do you want to start all over? Because you are here to begin with makes me feel like your answer will be "NO" ! So talk a walk if you can, and keep chanting to yourself while you are taking some nice slow breaths in and out, I don't do that anymore! Believe it and you can get through that urge/craving !!!!
Do not give in to your brain's receptors, not after you have come this far! What tools did you use in the beginning? Get them and start re-using them! Keep busy busy busy!!!! Keep reaching out as often as you need to and get past each craving !
Thank you! I have to forget about it!
On Fri, 24 Aug 2018, 15:22 Sandy-9-17-17, <email@example.com>
You CAN do this...it's only temporary and it will pass and leave you feeling stronger and not weaker. Keep going...one moment at a time....deep breath in, hold it and exhale VERY SLOWLY through pursed lips. Remember how far you have come and how this is only a blip on the radar of your quit. Keep going forward, Anite, I KNOW you can do this. Don't let anything or anyone take this away from you.
I trust that you will do what you feel is right. After all, it's been a month and I'm sure you've had other cravings that you've dealt with. You're still quit so you must be doing something right Continue the doing right and you'll get past this as well. Of course you can!!
Congratulations on one month smokefree!
Realize how awesome that is for you to have remained smokefree for one whole month. Count forward. You have tackled your life without those cancer sticks for one month - stick with the good job you have been doing. If something is bogging you down mentally, talk to us, talk to anyone, but continue protecting that beautiful quit you've got going for yourself. You really do not want to start over again, only to lose what you have already fought so hard to retain.
((((((hug)))))) for you!
I agree with IrishRose. Whatever is botherIng me, I feel much better after I talk about it or write about it. Blogging here everyday got me through my first two weeks. It takes away the pressure of wanting to smoke even if my problems aren’t immediately solved.
stAn3 , I virtually lived on this site two weeks before my quit and after my quit. People in my real world did not understand what I was going through with my quit. If it was not for my daughter introducing me to this site, along with the people here who stood by me, cared about me, and cheered me on each and every day, there is no doubt I would be carrying an oxygen tank around with me today.
Heck, I did not even know that I had an addiction. I referred to it as a habit. There is a big difference between addiction and habit, as I found out. Tobacco addiction is no different from drug addiction - just different highs.
I smoked a cigarette today! i am a failure!
YOU are not a failure. Most of the people on this site took many tries to get to their final quit.
What have you learned?
When will you start again?
These are the only two important things to think about. Don't spend time beating yourself up over it. DO think about what you will do differently in the same circumstance during your next (and final!) quit.
Let me know how I can help.
I am back on track today non smoking, but the craving is no strong again. Thanks for your assistance.
I stay hungry??? Is that normal??
Are you still here???? You are not a failure! You do need to get back here though!!!
the original post came through my email yesterday but they gave you the link to my page and you didn't message me so I thought you were off the brink/
what was the impetus for that cigarette?
What is a craving? Isn't it thinking about smoking?
Where did the cigarette come from?
did you save it? did you borrow it? did you steal it? did you plan it?
why do we do a big emotional windup before we give ourselves permission?
that excuse only takes us right to the brink.
you cannot, make yourself frantic and expect a different outcome.
What did you get out of that cigarette that seemed so important?
Lets look at this differently this time Anite, not a a punishment but an escape?
My husband left a cigarette, not even lit, in his ashtray. He is normally very secretive with his ciggies. I just could not resist it!!!
You could have said to yourself
"That doesn't belong to me. I don't do that anymore"
and stopped it in its tracks
Yes jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan-2007 you are so right. Since that one cigarette I can't think about anything else. !!! If I could just stop eating as well. I am getting fatter by the minute.
I am so fed up with life!! smoke - you cough and stink. Eat and you look like a bus and chew permanently.
I can't win!! So far I am still strong.
.well I know after I quit smoking I could eventually taste food, if you drink a big cup of water before you eat,ur belly will feel more full andfruit and vegetables help a lot too. I am a nervous eater, but if I meditate everyday it helps your mood and stress level, im not saying this will be easy but you are worth it, I have notes all over my apartment, that says I am enough, and I have little reminders on my phone to msg me I am enoughevery hour, I, quit for my cat chaos it was the easiest decision ive ever made, and if you slip, just keep trying and don't dwell on being a failure we are all human and we make mistakes. good luck dear I know you can do this.
Ok so these details are starting to make the picture clearer, Anite. I ate too much for a while and the weight gain bugged me. But you got some powerful support from Dale and others about facing not smoking no matter what. Keep talking out your struggles here because that is one way to start handling them.
PS Most of the weight came off by a year and a half later.
What you are doing is replacing the dopamine you got from smoking with the dopamine you get from eating..
Our metabolisms are faster when we are smoking. If you want to maintain your weight you need to eat about 150-200 calories less a day.
So what are you eating? You can still have some things that satisfy.
Make better choices.
They have individual gelatins that are 25-50 calories. If you want a little extra, put a little whipped cream on top.
Single popscicles in summer
FROZEN GRAPES ARE FANTASTIC.
I’m glad you are back not smoking. After a relapse, cravings get stronger. No craving lasts forever. All cravings are temporary. The key to success is how we deal with cravings. There is a free book available at whyquit.com that has a wealth of information about cravings and how to deal with them: Freedom From Nicotine: The Journey Home. There is a lot of other good information on Whyquit.com. Perhaps reading material from whyquit.com today will help you with the cravings.
i suspect living with a smoker is a trigger for you. That is not an excuse to smoke. I am surrounded by smokers everyday pretty much all day. I accepted this fact before I quit. The real battle is inside my brain. What do I do when I feel triggered? How do I react? Which coping skill do I use to ride out the craving until it passes.
ON HUNGER: I think increased hunger is normal. I’ve experienced it. Nicotine is an appetite suppressant.
How are you doing now Anite? I'm so glad that you blogged and I hope you're doing much better now a humongous Congratulations on your precious quit journey YAY for each and every Day WON, YAY for one month of Smokefree living and counting.....
I offer you my experience. I have relapsed several times after having a month or more smoke free. I regretted each relapse, even before I bought the cigarettes or put one in my mouth and lit it.
I wish I did what you are doing right now—reaching out for help BEFORE I smoked.
Remember, you have all the tools you need to make it through today without smoking. Keep your commitment not to smoke, just for today. Look forward to waking up tomorrow with another day smoke free.
It's the end of the day Anite and I hope you found your balance.
eat some applesauce with cinnamon-it helps clean blood-good job drinking water-CONGRATS ON NON SMOKER LIVING!
` You had your reasons for quitting. They still matter. You worked it 30 days so something in you is willing to not smoke. Reverting back to the addiction is not uncommon. But many do think about how we got off track and how we are going to get back on track. Killing the dependency can hurt like hell, I know, I've been there. Today I'm free, and it really is sweet Anite. It is for you too. No smoker is the exception. We are all capable of ending the dependency and attachment to cigarettes.
well first of all you need to decide im going to quit smoking and stick to it, there are lots of different ways to curve the addiction for me it was my cat and I used Nicorette gum, then patches lol hypnosis, and the inhaler.stop hanging out with ppl who smoke, meditate, start new habit's, start exercising, i bet itll get a lot easier for everyday you have quit.
Anite How are you doing NOW? Thinking of you.
Hi Ellen, thanks for thinking of me. I am ashamed to tell you that I bought a packet of cigarettes and is back to smoking.
Since stopped smoking I gained 15kg weight and no clothes fitting. I found that I kept on eating. No gum, nothing helped me. Already I can feel my body changing and it is easier to move lighter.
My lungs are not complaining yet, but I know it is coming soon and guess what, I will quit again and again until I get the solution.
Thanks for your interest.
Dear Anite I thought I was going to go out of my mind also with the weight gain, but it is much better to hold a bit of extra weight vs. smoking! I can't preach it enough! Quit first, weight later! I have found that it is okay to eat, but also need to add exercise to the mix if going to eat more! I am one week away now from quitting a year ago, and have begun to drop a few pounds! It takes a few to get back to the balance of life without smoking! Stopping one addiction can certainly lead you into another, and food tends to be the next in line to take the place of smoking. We need to conquer our addictive behaviors and learn the true meaning of addiction so that we don't turn to something else! If you conquer the nicotine addiction, you can conquer anything! Don't give up! You are healthier with more weight than damaged lungs!
Everything you say is so true and I know it!!! I was close to 40 days. Believe you me. My husband is totally disgusted with me. But ok, as soon as my 2 packets are finished I will go back suffering the withdrawals.
Anite I am so sorry to hear that you are smoking...PLEASE keep in mind that you can ALWAYS lose weight but once you are on oxygen 24 hours a day, 7 days a week...you can't lose that damage. Thanks for replying and for your honesty. We will be here when you get back.
I can so relate to wanting to keep feeling normal and smoking seemed to define that. I felt helpless when I quit. But I knew that that did not make sense...how could something have this kind of power over me. To nurse my upside down feelings I drank a lot of coffee, ate a lot of food. I started to calm down some months after my quit. From there the pieces came back together, including maintaining a weight I can live with. But the helplessness died down bit by bit. Some can handle heroically calling their quit good and done. Good for them. But many of us have to relearn life. Guess it's another turtle and rabbit story. Keep the faith that you can find your happiness again after quitting--cuz you can.
maryfreecig Yep, I would have to say I am a turtle...damn rabbits passed me many times. I worked at it, FINALLY got to the point where I completely BELIEVED it but I will not lie and tell you it was easy.
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