Give and get support around quitting
Am I wrong to decline a date with a smoker? Part of me feels like a hypocrite.
So friends what do you think?
I think it's great to decline a date with a smoker. You know how insidious this addiction is and how we have to protect our quit at all costs. Just my opinion girlie, but you do what you feel is right.
Rachel
Only you know the answer. Myself....I always trust my inrtinks . If it doe not feel right, then I back off. Its a lesson taught to me by my grandmother the I passed along to our kids...and it has never failed me. If I have no questions about it, no reservations...then I move forward. I am also a praying person so I do pray about it then follow through with what I mentioned above. Smokers are not 'evil or bad', they just have an addiction to Nicotine. Perhaps you will be the 'light' for this fellow . xoxo
Your taking ownership (control) of your own life and that is WONDERFUL!
Ya do whatcha gotta do!
Miles of Smiles...
It's absolutely alright for you to decline a date for whatever reasons. You have a right to set your own boundaries and it's much simpler from the first step than Months or Years down the road! You decide who you date - no justification required!
Personally I don't think that I could ever date a smoker. Like Thomas said, we have the right to decline for whatever reason. Nothing at all wrong with that.
The smoking is the main reason why I declined among a few other reasons but that got me thinking and wanted to see what my EX friends' thoughts were on this. As Mandolinrain said, they are not evil or bad but for some reason I feel guilty and hypocritical saying I wouldn't date a smoker. And it's not like men are lining up to ask me out (lol) but yes, I will NOT date a smoker.
I think you choose wisely ....but you had to figure that out
Here is a good way to weight the situation. Imagine having to kiss someone that smokes. Think about putting your head on his chest and smell a shirted filled with the stench smoke. Think about him having to always leave you to get that puff. Think about him leaving his cigarettes around and not being considerate that you are an Ex-smoker. Think about the attention taken away from you from him having to go buy, secure, get his fix and then come back smelling like a stinking cigarette. I guess you get my point. Nah, not me. Been there done that and won't do it again. You have your right to keep your freedom by any means necessary. No quilt trip.
Well my gag reflex works very well after reading this response....which was great by the way