if there is someone else in a similar situation like me please feel free to share. I live in a house with all but one person that smokes so how can I not let it trigger or bug me. just want others ideas, and suggestions
Welcome to our community!
Here is a blog with lots of good information for you: Has any quit smoking while living with a smoker?
I would recommend you go to the pages of the folks who you see are in a similar situation to see how they handled it (click on their avatar to get to their page, then "content.") I would ask all the smokers to assist you in your quest by smoking only outside, out of your sight, and to keep their cigs, lighters, etc. in an out-of-the-way place. Hopefully your success will encourage others to follow you! I don't think anyone really wants to smoke anymore - the addiction is the problem.
The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library.
You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested in My Quit Plan http://www.becomeanex.org/my-quit-plan.php
After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort. I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced. Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
You need to distract yourself through any craves. You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game. Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits. Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?" Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
Welcome to EX, please pay attention to all that Youngatheart.7.4.12 has shared with you. When you make your plan and set your date and actually quit...that quit needs to be your number one priority and you need to care for it like the newborn that it will be...entirely dependent upon you and no one else. This is a journey and not an event, it is one day at a time. I HOPE that the people who smoke will agree to smoke outside and not around you, that is the LEAST they could do to help. You need to stay close to this site, read blogs, read everything you can that others have posted. I suggest reading a blog written by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 some time ago that helped me. What To Expect In The First Four Months there are LOTS of new people and lots of people with experience living with smokers. You CAN do this and every single one of us had to start at the beginning, we all had to go through what you will go through. There are no shortcuts to freedom but it is worth every moment. I used the mantra NOPE all the time, Not One Puff Ever...I said it over and over again every day and it was simple enough for me to remember. One day at a time...one hour, one minute, sometimes one second. You will find all the support you need here, you need to bring the commitment.
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