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I just noticed I received some “awards” or badges and kinda feel like a fraud because my quit date is two days away, yet I’m feeling very doubtful that I can accomplish the REAL test. Writing words or reacting to posts is easy. What I find hard is building the confidence needed to commit myself to quitting even though I’m working hard to prepare for “the moment”. Maybe it’s because I have tried and failed so many times in the past?
Thanks Sootie, I’ll check out whywuit right now.
Well, you can accomplish it if you choose to accomplish it.
Its literally that simple. Take smoking off the table as an option. For me, once it came out of the equation, I had no recourse but to get through the minute-hours-days as they came.
What we focus on is what we tend to create. Focus on your goal, keep looking forward and you WILL do it. And we will cheer along the way!!;-)
You are not a FRAUD!! A human being preparing is great!
We have all tried and failed. If you are a fraud, I am a super fraud. I got tons of awards, and I failed after 6 months. But I am back and I will quit forever June 1st. And you will quit too! Get your head in the right place. Think of all you have learned from your past quits. Think of the money you will save, the extra time you will have, and the wonderful deep breaths you can take. Use the failures as an advantage, to learn about yourself, and to make this one forever, knowing you will prove to the nicotine bully that you are stronger and smarter!
Good to see you again!
There is only ONE thing you have to do, and that is to "Manage the MOMENT"...and NOT smoke.
Do NOT over process.
Do NOT think of the past because it and whatever else it held does NOT exists
Do NOT prejudge how uncomfortable it might be once you stop.
Do NOT fear failure...that "word" does not exist on this site
None of that will help your mindset in any positive way...
You WILL STOP SMOKING
You WILL FEEL SOME DISCOMFORT.
You WILL FEEL SO MUCH HEALTHIER.
You WILL START TO CHANGE into your true skin..
and you WILL have a much HAPPIER LIFE!
The are Miles of Smiles on this site standing right there beside you....
We are here to help....
Believe in yourself...........we do...........believe in YOU !
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Fraud? I think not. I found that in quitting this time, the preparation was the most important part of this journey. It's the early support that has made all the difference. You're stronger that you think!
64DOF
P.S. This is really about fear. Fear of what I'll do in specific situations without a cigarette. Deal with them one a time and plan on what you'll do in advance. I still have some! I'm trying to prepare for the unexpected by reading how others have made it through some pretty heart wrenching situations without smoking. I tell myself, if they can do it so can I. And, so can you.
the first 30 days, I basically kept saying to myself you can do this, let it pass. then after 30 days, when those rollercoaster rides started up, I said, do you want this or not? What is smoking really doing for you? What do you believe in your heart of hearts smoking is giving you that you cannot give to yourself or more importantly ask from other people? I said to myself, I'm not a kid anymore. I don't have to look cool for anyone or be a bad$ss for anyone. No one is going to look at me like a goody two shoes because I don't smoke. I don't care what they think anymore. I'm at a stage of life where the only person I care about is me and my family. Family extends out to those that are close to me, not just related to me. So just ask yourself......... do you really want this?
Agree with GyorgyiM...don't overthink it just do it.
Plus, you've never had a group like this behind you before, you've never had a plan like this before. You're gonna do this & do it right.
Keep on keepin on,
You've received "awards" on mission levels because YOU'VE BEEN DOING YOUR HOMEWORK! You've EARNED those awards through what you've done and your involvement on the site. The only time you might become a "fraud" is if you pretend you quit but haven't.
You've gotten some amazingly astute comments above. The "moment" has already begun. It began the day you came to this site. It began when you made a commitment and set a quit date. Writing words and reacting to posts ARE building your confidence. Brick by brick you have laid the foundation for a strong quit.
There are many who have tried and failed in the past, yet made it this time because of the education and support they've received here. Don't doubt that you can create your success this time. Jump into your quit with open arms and embrace the Best of You!
Planning your quit and preparing for it are HUGE...coming here ahead of quitting was seriously brilliant...you are already feeding your brain with positive thoughts and also strategies that have worked for others. Coming here and reading plants the seed of freedom...once that seed is planted, smoking is never the same. You may crave cigarettes some times but you know that no crave ever killed anyone and you also know that lots and lots of us have survived the early parts of our quits and we have kept going and growing. I won't tell you that it's easy because that has not been my experience. I WILL tell you that you CAN do it...I smoked for 47 years and virtually everything I did was associated with smoking...except being pregnant and that ship has sailed. I kept hearing that it would get easier and of course I wanted to know WHEN? No one could give me an exact number of days and I so wanted something to hold on to. I CAN tell you that I was STUNNED when I had a seriously challenging day at work and I got home and realized that I had never even THOUGHT of smoking during that day. The days started to add up after that...I am not sure what day the first day was or how quickly the days started to add up but they DID add up and then some seriously challenging things happened but smoking never occurred to me as a solution...I KNEW that smoking would not make anything better, I knew that it would not fix anything and I accepted the fact that it would continue to cause me harm. I had already suffered lots of damage, physically. Do this for yourself, the rewards are inexplicable.
Best,
Ellen
You are planning to quit smoking in two days..........this should be applauded and celebrated....no need to feel like a fraud.
You are hesitant and unsure.......OF COURSE YOU ARE!!! We ALL were when we quit. You are allowing yourself to imagine a new life...a life of freedom from smoking. It's a great life.......BUT.....it does take hard work to get there. So, you're a little worried.....so be it.
Do it......just do it. Has anyone given you the link to the readings we all did to educate ourselves on this addiction? I don't have all of them.....but I LOVE whyquit.com. It's a great site for readings on everything you can think of on quitting.
Don't worry. This is hard but doable! We all did it and we are NO different from you!
Welcome to EX----we are all here for each other......reach out when needed....stay in touch always and STAY STRONG!!!!!