my stop date is now. I'm at rock bottom. I'm having periodontal surgery because of smoking and I'm so scared that when it' is over I'm going to smoke. please help
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YOU are the only person who can allow yourself to smoke. Decide you won't NO MATTER WHAT! This isn't easy, but it IS doable. Pretty much everyone who volunteers here who has quit was terrified to go through it. For myself, I can tell you that it wasn't as bad as I anticipated. Education is KEY! You can do it AFTER you quit as well as before. i didn't find this site until I was 4 days quit - and the reading helped me immensely. Read, participate, go to the Daily Pledge and do so The Daily Pledge April 2018.
The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library.
You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. If you have time, you should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested in My Quit Plan http://www.becomeanex.org/my-quit-plan.php
After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort. I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced. Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
You need to distract yourself through any craves. You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game. Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits. Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?" Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
There's no need to fear. Get through your surgery, take good care of yourself, and keep deciding not to smoke. It's just as easy to NOT smoke as it is to talk yourself into it. I hope it goes well for you
Nancy gave you plenty of great info! I love the Carr book - it really helped me and I had smoked for 40 years! You can do this - be sure to stick around - best support ever!
Do the reading, remember that quitting is not an event, it is a journey. If you are having peridontal surgery today, you CERTAINLY do not want to smoke and cause more damage and impede healing. Take it one step at a time and remember that baby steps count. Hope the surgery goes well and that you take this as the gift it is...it could be much worse. You are being given a chance to be smoke free and stop doing damage to yourself. Smoking does nothing FOR you but it does lots TO you.
Welcome to EX,
I actually bought the book before I joined. I'm not sure if the book and this site go together???? it doesn' matter. I'm 24 hours smoke free. I was a pack a day for over 30 years. the surgery went well and I still have to do the other side. I have been going to acupuncture - just finished to help with cravings. but my mind is not happy it wants to smoke. 24 hours you would think I can get thru this.....i feel weak
You can get through this. And CELEBRATE! You made it 1 day! Now on to day 2!!
Honey...you smoked a pack a day for 30 years and you REALLY expect the cravings to be gone in 24 hours? It is a journey, it is NOT an event. This is one day at a time, one experience at a time. We have to learn how to live life without the drug we are addicted to...just like any other addicts. You CAN do this and like kristen-9.7.15 said, you have made it through day one...that's DAY WON! Keep going and be proud of your first day...keep adding days, stay close to the site, read blogs, comment, see how others are handling their quits. We are all in this together and we all had to start at the same beginning.
Glad the first part of the surgery is done. I had to have multiple extractions and have to wear partial dentures, I had teeth break off at or below the gum line. I also have COPD and have to use oxygen at night...I would not go back to smoking and killing myself for ANYTHING.
Hang on...we are all here to help you.
24 hours ain't nothing on this journey! BUT - it WILL get easier, I promise. Just stick with it.
31 hours in. I'm ok. I appreciate the support. I'm so mad I let my addiction take my oral health to this level. I still want to smoke despite all this. I'm a smart strong woman - but I love this horrific habit. I'm hating myself for it. Allen Carr's book is helping - but man. I' m worried if I can sustain my quit.
Do me a favor, and try to not think of it as sustaining a long term quit. In the early days, it is much more manageable to think in terms of getting through the next hour (or couple of minutes). You really can do this!
dear gov62,... its important to acknowledge that yes you do want a cigarette... but you chose not to ... its destroying your health now... dont hate yourself for it instead...love yourself enough to quit...
we used tobacco for many things... to energize, to relax,... to calm our nerves when we were bored, angry,upset ... to celebrate,... to socialize... for alone time
in short it was a coping mechanism... now we have to learn to cope all over again...
carry a big water bottle, because thirst is sometimes mistaken for craves... drown those craves right out of you...
you can do it... have faith in yourself,
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