I have had several quit dates. They come and go with the thought, “I’ll just pick a new date.” Anybody else have this problem and how do you change this?
I didn't really plan too far ahead. I told myself when this pack is gone I will quit. I picked my quit date just a couple of days before I actually quit. I wanted to quit on the first day of a the month so I stretched out that last pack so I could quit on May 1, 2014.
You change by making a promise to yourself and keeping your word. That is really all that it takes - really simple - not always easy - but always simple.
In my mind I had set my quit date on my birthday, however I still had a pack cigs so I made up my mind when I had smoked the last one out of the pack I was done. It was two day after my birthday and I am so glad that I did. I made up my mind that I would never smoke ever again. Here I am at 1107 DOF Sometimes you just have to do it! Plan to Prepare to Protect and you are on your way.
BTW You have come to the right place for a new beginning.. This is all about you and what you are willing to do to be smoke free. Quitting smoking requires hard work. It can be challenging at times but you will learn that it is doable if you adhere to NOPE not one puff ever no matter what.
Start first, by educating yourself about nicotine addiction.
Education is the key to a successful quit.
Read: Freedom from Nicotine My Journey Home and Nicotine Addiction 101
Here are the links: http://whyquit.com/whyquit/LinksAAddiction.html and http://whyquit.com/ffn/
I also encourage you to read. Allen Carr’s book, “Easy Easier Way to Quit Smoking”.
Go to http://www.becomeanex.org/how-to-quit-#thl and get started.
You can do this quit, read everything you can about quitting smoking and remaining quit because there's a wealth of information here to strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb and start living a life of Freedom and once you've done the reading pick your quit date and start Day ONE then at the end of the day you'll be able to say Yay for Day WON with many more to come but you must believe it and then go for it!
Welcome to our community!
We ALL fear the unknown - and quitting is a huge unknown! You may even find yourself getting excited about it once you start to understand it better
The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I also highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for a free pdf of it on the net (copyright enforcement won't allow me to post the link here).
You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested in My Quit Plan http://www.becomeanex.org/my-quit-plan.php
After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort. I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced. Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
You need to distract yourself through any craves. You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits. Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?" Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
I set a quit date a month ahead and spent that month getting my head in gear for the journey. Got myself onto a support site and read everything I could DAILY. Learned all about the addiction and learned what the pitfalls might be. I planned my course and had a strong preparation. I supported other on the site (even though I hadn't yet quit) and that helped to reinforce my own mental attitude. I made a commitment to quit for a specific amount of time. Thinking in terms of "forever" seemed an impossible burden. I knew that if I stuck with my quit for that specific, pre-set amount of time, it would be unlikely that I would then go back and put a cigarette in mouth. And I never did. That was almost 12 years ago.
When you are focused all day on your goal, the goal suddenly becomes extremely important. It becomes a priority in your life. That's what quitting has to become. It begins with 100% commitment. A no-matter-what type of commitment. Education and support are what will get you through. Quitting can't take second place. It must consume you. Because this is one strong addiction to overcome. Perseverance will pay off. The rewards are waiting for you.
Are you a happy non-smoker?
anaussiemom I assume you were asking me that question. I'm happy I don't smoke. Is that the same as being a happy non smoker? Are they one and the same? Hard to say. Would I still like one every now and again. Sure. But I don't spend any time dwelling on them, nor do I crave them. I wasn't a particularly happy smoker, nor would I say I'm a particularly happy non-smoker. But I am THRILLED that I don't smoke any more and that I am FREE from this addiction. I am not an unhappy quitter. But I was an unhappy smoker.
Retrieving data ...