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Okay so me and my husband are also doing the Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover and I have to sit down with my husband before my quit date to have a budget plan for 2018 in order to be debt free, (another reason to quit). But all I can focus on is my quit day and preparing for that. How can I do both? How can I explain to my husband that I just have to focus on MY QUIT? WHAT WOULD Y'AL SAY OR DO? HELP!!!!!
I've already delivered my letters to my loved ones and tailored each to fit. Thank you for being here.
Shannon
I, personally, would make the plan with your husband, understand what part you need to play in it ----- and then leave the rest TOTALLY up to him to carry out, worry about, keep track of, etc. I think the letter Thomas linked above is a good start to that conversation. I would explain how important BOTH things (and him, too) are to you, but let him know that for the immediate future your quit needs to remain your #1 priority. As you get further along, you can up your participation.
Let us know how you do!
Nancy
It might be a good distraction - focusing on your budget rather than smoking - just a thought
It will be fun to put the money you would have spent on cigarettes towards your money makeover. I’ve been doing the Dave Ramsey snowball. That snowball got HUGE after I stopped wasting money on the cancer sticks!
GREAT comments above...putting the money away that you would have spent on smoking is a GREAT idea...you can accomplish two things at one time. I don't know Dave Ramsey but anything you can do to focus on saving money is great. You CAN do this!
Really good question. I am hoping that my family will understand that I need to focus on myself for a while. I know they are overjoyed that I am quitting, but they sometimes add a lot of stress to my plate. I also know that life continues, so as much as I can I will try to engage in matters of life while still focusing on self-care to secure my quit. If I need to remind my family to take it easy on me I will without feeling guilty. Best of luck and who knows maybe looking at budgeting will increase your resolve to stay smoke free as you will see that you are becoming more debt free as well. Best of luck in the new year and I hope to continue to see you on the board.
There's some simple ways to stay focused on your quit.
1. Keep Them Away From Your Face.
2. Say, "I Don't Do That Anymore" Every Time You Think Of Smoking.
I'd suggest being more focused on working with your husband. You can get your support from all of us.
Can we exchange #'s ?
I could REALLY use someone who understands and can divert my attention to somewhere other than the smokes.
Thank you for being here,
Shannon
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Divert your focus. Say "I don't do that anymore" every time you think of smoking. That will retrain your mind the quickest.
Get busy doing other things. Read my blogs. They are practical. Most of them are very pointed towards what you should know and the thinking that will help you the most.
Laugh when you catch yourself thinking of smoking.
I have a blog scheduled to post tomorrow at 5am that covers everything.
How much time is this budget going to take? What about it is stressing you? The planning? The budget cuts? Can you review and refine the budget over two weeks--taking work periods in smaller chunks?
Your quitting is going to add a Mcfortune to your financial situation.
Good luck...yes you can, one day at a time.
I agree with everyone above but especially with Jennifer-Quit-05-01-14. Putting the focus on your budget...perfect timing, I’d say
I have read Dave Ramsey and a few other financial gurus. I start with paying off smallest then apply that money to next in line. It feels so good to be debit free. I know this is a fabulous time to refocus attention to money matters and quitting smoking. You will need this positive direction to focus on. As much distraction as you can. I found that a variety of things to do were very helpful. Kept my mind off of those bad habits. Do what is best for you in so many ways, keep your quit first and protect yourself from thinking, dwelling there. Great question. Thanks for asking. Best of luck and be blessed.
I'd start with this and customize it to your situation.
Letter to a Loved One
It has been floating around for Years.