"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over, and over, and over again - expecting a different result." - Albert Einstein
We have this discussion every Monday to offer encouragement and camaraderie to those in NML, basically months 2-3-4 of a quit and those who have not yet hit their first year of smobriety. Regardless of how long you’ve been quit, anyone who likes the conversation and wants to offer support is welcome to participate!
We are happy if you just stop by to say hi and let us know you are still with us in NML and Inbetweener land. Feel free to offer up ideas on topic question and I will include them in next week’s post! Stop by daily or as often as you like! Don’t forget to post to the The Daily Pledge January 2018 !
This week’s topic: Goals!
What is it about the New Year that everyone is motivated to make massive changes, only to give up come February 1st?
I'm not a fan of New Years Resolutions, but I am a fan of a sound approach to goal setting.
While most New Years Resolutions never work (97% of the time, they actually don't!) it's not the Resolution that's the problem; it is the approach to goal setting.
1. List your 3 top goals for 2018.
2. List the 3 top ways you want to feel in 2018.
3. List the 3 most important/valued areas of your life.
Compare #2 to #1 - Do you notice anything? Are they aligned?
Compare #1 to #3 - Do you notice anything? Are they aligned?
If these are not aligned, you might need to re-think something. Your goals should help with the feelings you want and support the most important/valued areas of your life. If they don't they are likely not to be achieved.
ENJOY the journey through NML and Inbetweener land!
In No Man’s Land, you’ve come a long way, but still have a long way to go. The routine cravings are gone but the surprise cravings can knock you to your knees. Your family and friends think you should be “over it” while you still feel quite fragile sometimes. Your relationships with smoking friends/family may be feeling strained. Your inner junkie is still around, still whispering to you, and the temptation to give in can be every bit as strong as it was in your first few days.
But here’s the good news. In these same 100 days, for most people, your circulation has improved substantially, walking has become easier, and your overall lung function has increased noticeably. Sinus congestion, fatigue, and shortness of breath have decreased. Your body's overall energy has increased. The roller coaster is smoothing out, and you are feeling calmer and stronger overall. Good things are happening! (Courtesy of @sarahP)
Click here to read Dale’s helpful blog about No Man’s Land: No Mans Land Days 30 to 130 (approximate)
Click here to read what to expect in the first four months: What To Expect In The First Four Months
Checking in here will help you get through NML and on your way to the first year where you can celebrate being in the 6% Club and graduate to eventually become an Elder!
Please let me know if you are interested in posting the NML Weekly Check In. I am happy to continue it, share it, or pass it to the nEXt EXer in NML who is ready, willing, and able.