You don't need to fear that you will cave to the impulse to smoke, if you plan your way forward with your quit. Usually quitters need to chose strategies as to how they will deal with an impulse or desire to smoke--strategies can be as easy as repeating a mantra or require more effort such as a walk, cleaning...etc. It's a good idea to include a lot of strategies so as to give yourself a lot of choices when you quit. Choose stuff you like to do or are willing to do instead of smoke.
You already have the motivation as told by you--your kids. So please don't push yourself to find some phantasmagorical/ultimate truth that will make quitting easier, just accept that you mean it when you say your motivation to quit is your kids.
You can also help yourself see how one cigarette will never be enough by saving all your smoked cigs in a clear glass jar now and up til you quit (keep the jar out in the open don't hide it away). Those cigs add up fast.
With support and a plan (crafted and agreed on by you) you can quit one day at a time--chunk it down to just one day at a time.
Welcome to Ex. I'm glad you are here.
