I have a date and a goal. Now I need the will power and motivation.
Estrella. Willpower is not what you need. You need a plan and willingness. You also need support. We can provide all except willingness. I just want to reassure you that this is doable and you are in the right place!
Welcome to our community!
I recently wrote a blog and asked everyone here for their best advice for our new members: For Our New Years' Quitters (and community members, too). I think you will find lots of good information there.
Pretty much everyone was nervous as their quit date approach, but with the right preparation and planning, you will be better prepared for what is ahead.
I have never heard anyone say they wished they had quit later. NOW is the time to do it. You can - and we can help.
Start reading and let us know if you have any questions!
Welcome to EX....you will find everything you need right here. You need education, commitment, and support. We can't actually give you the commitment but we can help you to recognize its importance. Willpower does not work with addiction and this is addiction. We are all here for you and we have all been where you are.
If you are serious about quitting this addiction for good, you are in the right place! You will find so much information here as well as good people! Welcome to BecomeAnEX.org
Get your plan in motion and jump on board to get support and share your journey with us. You may even find yourself helping others as you go along!
You are making the best decision of your life. Like Thomas3.20.2010 says it takes willingness. Willingness to do what ever is necessary by any means necessary not to take a putt no matter what. It is doable. Youngatheart.7.4.12 Thanks for making life easy. Whoo Hoo.
I agree you need willingness. It can be done. No one ever died from quitting smoking, but you can die if you don't quit. Sometimes you just need to be it until you see it. That means you need to be a non-smoker before you believe you truly are a non or EX smoker. Nike says to Just Do It. It sounds so much easier than it is, but this community is full of quitters and we are all here to support your efforts as long as you are willing. Follow the steps on the site and from Nancy's blog cited above. You can do this.
I feel bad "piling on" with all the comments about willingness not willpower, but it was so true for me. On all my previous quits, I thought of myself as "trying to quit". Well of course that was setting myself up for failure from the start. This time I literally "decided to quit". And because I couldn't even imagine mustering up enough willpower to quit for a week, let alone a few months or for life, I decided to quit for an hour. Then a couple hours. Then a day. You get the idea. Eventually, you will begin to see yourself as an EX smoker instead of a smoker who didn't smoke today.
Welcome to EX! Can't wait to start reading about your new journey!
Where Does It Come From?
You don't need to fear that you will cave to the impulse to smoke, if you plan your way forward with your quit. Usually quitters need to chose strategies as to how they will deal with an impulse or desire to smoke--strategies can be as easy as repeating a mantra or require more effort such as a walk, cleaning...etc. It's a good idea to include a lot of strategies so as to give yourself a lot of choices when you quit. Choose stuff you like to do or are willing to do instead of smoke.
You already have the motivation as told by you--your kids. So please don't push yourself to find some phantasmagorical/ultimate truth that will make quitting easier, just accept that you mean it when you say your motivation to quit is your kids.
You can also help yourself see how one cigarette will never be enough by saving all your smoked cigs in a clear glass jar now and up til you quit (keep the jar out in the open don't hide it away). Those cigs add up fast.
With support and a plan (crafted and agreed on by you) you can quit one day at a time--chunk it down to just one day at a time.
Welcome to Ex. I'm glad you are here.
we all were nervous. I know I was, but the thing was, I didn't have any clue what I was dealing with. I saw smoking as only a habit to break and that's it. shouldn't be that hard, right? Educate yourself while you're approaching your quit date. Start understanding why and when you smoke the most by tracking your cigarettes. By tracking every single one you smoke during the day, makes you take that second to think about the time of day and the reason you're lighting up. that's an invaluable tool they have on this site. Be sure to take advantage of that. try to cut down or at least hold off for a few moments before you light up. go to Newbie Quitters section and read some articles there. Knowledge is power in this whole quitting game. you'll be glad you did !!! Welcome
Congrats and it was suggested to ME not to go on feelings they are fickle... it was suggested FACTS about MY nicotine addiction not anyone else... what lengths did I go to use nicotine?
Feeling the same. I quit in 3 days and I’m really anxious. Second time trying and I have a pack still. Do I stop when it’s done or just go until quit day?
I am going to repost what TW517 said above:
"I feel bad "piling on" with all the comments about willingness not willpower, but it was so true for me. On all my previous quits, I thought of myself as "trying to quit". Well of course that was setting myself up for failure from the start. This time I literally "decided to quit".
And I do this only because I don't want to see you set yourself up for failure! Set yourself up permanently and just tell yourself,
" I QUIT "
It's obvious you WANT to quit, or you wouldn't be here! Say things like "I don't do that anymore" when you do quit!
Go with the N.O.P.E. (Not One Puff Ever) quote. You can do this with the right mindset!!!
As far as still having a pack, I did the same thing, as I went cold turkey. But I made that pack last my whole last week. I only smoked the ones I realized were seemingly most important to me. Come to find out, I didn't need all the ones in between the ones that were most enjoyed at certain times! But my brain said differently! What a wasted time of my life!
Wishing you the best, and looking forward to sharing your journey with you! I think what helps me is that I come here often, and just read all the many journey's of others, and sharing mine as well! See you around
Sandy 103 DOF (Days Of Freedom)
Many people just quit on their quit day without much focus or understanding. Some of them will succeed but statistically, 6% reach the 1 year smokefree mark. At two years the relapse rate drops from 94% to 2-4%.
This is a head game. Those of us who made it learned that it takes time to unlearn the repetition and the memories connected to smoking. Time is the healer.
What To Expect In The First Four Months
Do the reading and know that you CAN do this...most of us were scared, I certainly was. I was more afraid of another failure than anything else...the beginning is just that, it is the beginning and you learn every single day, you learn what your strengths are and you learn that no crave ever killed anyone but no one can say that about smoking. This is a journey that is well worth taking. We are here to help you, stay close to the site, I suggest preparing yourself by doing the "My Quit Plan" on the sign in page. I tracked my cigarettes and identified my triggers so I could plan to do things OTHER than smoke when they happened, the planning helped me. It gave me something to look at to determine what my triggers were and it also helped me to be completely honest with myself about what smoking did FOR me...which was absolutely NOTHING. It did not help with stress, sadness, physical pain, anger, or any other expectation that I had. Once I accepted that completely and I was absolutely honest with myself, it made quitting easier for me...not EASY, just easiER. I got up from the table after every dinner and I cleaned up the kitchen and made coffee for the next day and I wrote the number of days of freedom that I had accumulated on a big calendar on the wall. Every time I did that, I felt a little surge of my own power. I came to EX every single morning and every evening and sometimes in between. I read blogs, I commented, I blogged, I paid attention to advice being offered and I quit one day at a time. In three weeks, I will celebrate four years of freedom. My only regret is that I did not do it much sooner so I did not have the damage that I have.
Happy New Year...may it be smoke free,
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