Oh Well, "I don't do that anymore"!

Discussion created by JACKIE1-25-15

on Dec 25, 2017
Latest reply on Mar 16, 2018 by Nhandi.isfree11.1.16

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The stockings are emptied and most of the gifts are unwrapped. There is a little leftover turkey but the dressing is all gone. Driving home from my family Christmas dinner , a brief thought of smoking surfaced from my addictive brain.

I could not even laugh about it. A little disbelief since I have come so far but I also realize that this time of the year those thoughts come. I take it seriously and quickly go into protect my quit mode. NO! I tell myself "I don't do that anymore". I was sure the thought would be brief and pass. Just a thought of smoking associated with the "festivities", no need to act upon it because "I don't do that anymore." No Need to stop and pick up a pack. I am free. I splurged on cookies, chocolate, cake and ice cream along with an alcoholic drink on Christmas Eve, so I am open to a certain amount of vulnerability if I am not on guard A cigarette could have been the last hurrah. (past tense) because....I don't do that anymore. I was able to brush off the phantom smoke and not focus on finding where it is coming from. Moving forward because I know it will pass. I will not be fooled. In serious protect mode I told myself, suck it in and out take a few deep breathes. Go home. No reason to stop and get smokes, I couldn't envision being able to stop. A cup of hot chocolate will suffice because "I don't do that anymore". Keeping it real, I am free 1065 DOF. Merry Christmas Everyone. I hope you all enjoyed your day smoke free. I am a nonsmoker.

Because, I don't do that anymore

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Mandolinrain Dec 25, 2017 9:10 PM
Oh dear friend , all our company just left. I am exhausted. It was a beautiful fun filled day,....but wow the work involved. My back and my feet are done...simply done.LOL

Im glad your thought was a whisper that you turned away from cause WE don't do that anymore. I watched as my brother and his girlfriend slipped outside to the garage to smoke. with garage door open, because I insisted...I don't want that stinky smell around. They were never out there long. its like 19 degrees out, or something like that. I remember doing it. How stupid we looked. Glad to have smartened up!

Get some rest, I know I am xoxoMissy
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elvan Dec 25, 2017 9:19 PM
Merry Christmas, Jackie. I am so exhausted, I am in my pajamas, about to wash my face and clear the stuff off the bed and surrender to sweet sleep,

WE don't do that any more, my friend.
Love,
Ellen
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Cecesntraffic Dec 26, 2017 8:48 AM
Thanks for the honesty . Today is day one and you are right “I don’t smoke anymore “
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- JACKIE1-25-15 @ Cecesntraffic on Dec 26, 2017 9:05 AM
  Welcome to EX.
  You have come to the right place for a new day and a rebirth.
  Start first, by educating yourself about nicotine addiction because education is the key to a successful quit.
  Read: Freedom from Nicotine My Journey Home and Nicotine Addiction 101
  Here are the links: http://whyquit.com/whyquit/LinksAAddiction.html   and http://whyquit.com/ffn/
  I also encourage you to read. Allen Carr’s book, “Easy Easier Way to Quit Smoking”.
  Go to http://www.becomeanex.org/how-to-quit-smoking.php#thl and get started. The best is yet to come.
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  - Cecesntraffic @ JACKIE1-25-15 on Dec 26, 2017 10:11 AM
    Thanks Jackie...
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- Nhandi.isfree11.1.16 @ Cecesntraffic on Dec 28, 2017 9:42 PM
  Hey CeCe, you re doing good. Don't give up!
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  - Cecesntraffic @ Nhandi.isfree11.1.16 on Dec 28, 2017 9:54 PM
    Thanks for the text messages today, i was happy as heck yesterday day 1 and miserable today...
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- Nhandi.isfree11.1.16 @ Cecesntraffic on Dec 28, 2017 9:44 PM
  you can do it......I know you can. Did you tell them I referred you?
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  - Cecesntraffic @ Nhandi.isfree11.1.16 on Dec 28, 2017 10:04 PM
    Haven't ran across the page to add a name just asked referred by "Friend". YOU are a lifesaver referring me this site
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    - Nhandi.isfree11.1.16 @ Cecesntraffic on Dec 28, 2017 10:11 PM
      It's okay we'll figure it out how to let them know I referred you. Just hang in there everybody is here for you
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    - Nhandi.isfree11.1.16 @ Cecesntraffic on Mar 16, 2018 11:21 PM
      Hey Cece, I made the Freedom Train today with 500 days......Yayyyyyy me! I'm so glad you joined. I think I can earn badge or something for inviting you. I hope you are still fighting the voices.
      Love ❤️ yah
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- Cecesntraffic @ Cecesntraffic on Dec 28, 2017 10:03 PM
  My new Nicotine Clean date is December 27th, 2017. I will guard this date with my life.
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  - Nhandi.isfree11.1.16 @ Cecesntraffic on Dec 28, 2017 10:13 PM
    Remember you are in control........
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    - Cecesntraffic @ Nhandi.isfree11.1.16 on Dec 28, 2017 10:51 PM
      Yes, I am in control, it's readjusting my behavior when walking the dog smoking for 10 years walking him and for 2 morning in a row I had to shame the voices "what do you do for me I can brag about"
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crazymama_Lori Dec 26, 2017 9:30 AM
that's all it takes is to acknowledge it, dismiss it and take its power away....... you go, gurl
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- Cecesntraffic @ crazymama_Lori on Dec 28, 2017 9:55 PM
  thanks... one second at a time
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maryfreecig Dec 26, 2017 4:45 PM
Thanks for sharing the passing thought you had and how you dealt with it. Smobriety takes work, even if only a few seconds of work here and there. If it didn't, none of us would be here looking for help, or passing it on. I'll heed your experience, and remember to protect and defend.
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jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Dec 26, 2017 5:54 PM
You can't do it if you don't do that anymore. :-)
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Giulia Dec 27, 2017 12:23 AM
Stay in serious protective mode, Jackie. Don't matter how long we've been quit. When that time comes, (and it WILL come) that we need to be in serious protective mode- that's the time we must pull out our quit kits and stuff new emotional bits and tools of learning into it.

The quitting part of it all is easy in comparison to the sustaining part of our quits.

You're right. We have to periodically - during those stressful, trigger times - simply SUCK IT UP!
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- Cecesntraffic @ Giulia on Dec 28, 2017 9:59 PM
  i tell myself, "oh yeah i stopped - staying stopped takes courage" , thanks to this site i know it works if you work it. and remember that the cravings wont kill me but the Newports will
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Deb-EX Dec 27, 2017 10:19 AM
"I can, but I won't"
Motto to live by. Thanks for sharing!
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BonnieBee.quit.2.8.15 Dec 27, 2017 3:14 PM
Every once in awhile the nicodemon pops up and tries me once again as though he thinks he can catch me in an unguarded moment ! No way ! So glad you know how to protect your quit Jackie !
No Christmas dinner with family for me just an ordinary Monday for me but feeling grateful for all the beautiful Christmas ' I have had in the past .
Happy New Year Jackie we are going into our 3rd year ! Where does the time go !
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KMC56 Dec 27, 2017 5:20 PM
Why can't WE buy a BB gun and shoot it's eyes out....too much Christmas Story! But it is frustrating to know that this additive creature still sneaks up on us, we must always stay on guard.
~Kathy
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- JACKIE1-25-15 @ KMC56 on Dec 28, 2017 10:31 AM
  I believe in non violence but with quitting it is "by any means necessary".
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Lindaholbrook22 Jan 4, 2018 5:05 AM
Jackie.....that was inspiring to read as a newbe! Another thought "tool" to put in my toolbox. "I don't do that anymore"
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NewMe Jan 4, 2018 7:16 AM
That became one of my favorite tools to use in the early days. If you can get away with it without alarming people around you because you are talking to yourself, when a craving hits you say right out loud "I don't do that anymore". If you are not alone, you can just think the words, and amazingly your brain will accept the new terms and start to think about what can I do instead? And when you finally get your sense of smell back, and you run across someone who just smoked in an enclosed area and their clothes kind of reek, you can smile to yourself as you think "I don't smell like that anymore".
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- JACKIE1-25-15 @ NewMe on Jan 4, 2018 9:13 AM
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Oh Well, "I don't do that anymore"!

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