I think that's the biggest stumbling block for all of us. I had and continue to have a struggle with it. My husband spends a lot of time in the garage where he has his work computer, tv, and a multitude of regular garage stuff (tools, etc.). It's kind of his man-cave and it WAS the place I'd go to talk to him after work and weekends. I know it's my trigger location and if I spend more than a few minutes out there I want to smoke, badly. Triggers are tricky, literally! When you get into a state of wanting to go out for a smoke ask yourself if you really feel like standing outside for 10 minutes. If it's cold where you are ask yourself if you really feel like freezing your butt off for 10 minutes. Everyone has their own way to cope with personal smoking triggers but I have a few that might help you:
1) The first thing I did that was the biggest help at the beginning was to print out a calendar that had big enough spaces to write in. I wrote 'Day 1' for the day I quit and continued the same for each day. After each day without smoking I'd write something motivational. Even if it was just 'Good Job', or 'Made It'. When I slipped up one day I wrote 'slipped 
but will do better tomorrow'. I then taped it to the door of the garage which was where I smoked most often. I wrote the daily yeah or oops so I would look at it every time I went out there for milk or a drink or something frozen for dinner (we have an old side-by-side fridge out there).
2) get a straw and pretend to smoke it take a few 'drags' of fresh air through. The action of the same hand to mouth motion is there but you get oxygen instead of monoxide and carbon dioxide.
3) sit with a cup of your beverage of choice and hold it with BOTH hands. Tell yourself that can't smoke because you don't have a free hand and if you let go, even with one hand, the drink will fall and create a huge mess.
4) brush your teeth, a LOT. The action of hand to mouth is there but instead of your mouth tasting crappy you get the nice minty flavor.
5) suckers like Dum-Dums could be your best friend. I have to have sugar-free candy so I go to the dollar store for sugar-free butterscotch hard candy. If you have to eat low-sugar or no-sugar foods just be careful as sugar alcohols can be just as bad.
6) Since it's the holiday season you can always cook/bake!
The biggest help of all is coming out to Ex! Read, post, cry for help, whatever you need. This site can be a saving grace with all the resources, help, cheerleaders, and loving care. We'll be here for you to get your through!
Julie 42 DOF!!
