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Pleiter
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Going nuts not vaping. How do I stop thinking of grabbing for it each 

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maryfreecig
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By staying busy with lots of things you like to do--other than smoke/vape. By staying on Ex, blogging, reading. Quitting is one day at a time, and especially at the start. Congratulations on two days. Hang on, say yes I can and keep going. 

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YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to our community!

First of all, get that vaping device OUT of your possession.  Keeping it around is giving yourself permission to fail - and making it too easy for you to do so.  You are either going to do this or not....and having the ability to pick it up makes "not" more likely.  Please do the readings I will suggest.  Not only will it help you to understand what is going on, but it will provide a way to keep your mind off actually getting that fix.

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for a free pdf of it on the net (copyright enforcement won't allow me to post the link here).

 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance.

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.

You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!

Nancy

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Pleiter
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I filled a bag with all my vaping equipment and gave it to my husband to get rid of. I’ve tried using the patch before but after 2 weeks of cutting back and a few days of not vaping, I had a stressful moment and dig out the vape pipe. Now I can’t do that. I will read the links you provided. Thanks for reaching out with the great info! 

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JACKIE1-25-15
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How long have you been vaping?  Have you thought about just getting rid of it? 2 days is good without smoking.  Education is a key to a successful quit.  Read the above suggested material.  That may keep you busy for a while. 

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Pleiter
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I’ve been vaping 3 years. I got rid of all my equipment. I get terrible cravings that make me want to go to the store and re-buy it. Trying to distract myself. 

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YoungAtHeart
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Please start in on the reading I recommended.  Knowledge will give you the power you need to get past the cravings.  Slow, deep breaths work, as does putting your head in the freezer and taking some deep breaths.  Play a computer game.  Whatever you do, don't allow those counter productive thoughts to convince you that smoking is the only answer.  It ISN'T!  As time passes, the cravings will become further and further apart, and will lessen in severity.

Give it the time it takes; it will get easier, I promise!

Nancy

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maryfreecig
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By staying busy with lots of things you like to do--other than smoke/vape. By staying on Ex, blogging, reading. Quitting is one day at a time, and especially at the start. Congratulations on two days. Hang on, say yes I can and keep going. 

elvan
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PLEASE pay attention to what you have been advised...seriously education is a HUGE key to a successful quit.  You have to be committed and you have to stick with it NO MATTER WHAT.  I suggest you pledge every day, take someone's hand and offer your hand to the next person who is ready to pledge.  Ride the Freedom Train every morning...the links can be found under "Celebrations and Events" at the top of the sign in page.  Go to the "My Quit Plan" and identify what your triggers are and plan for things to do instead of smoking when you feel a trigger.  You will not get rid of the triggers, they are part of life but you WILL get stronger and stronger and you will develop new pathways to help deal with things.  It's called growing.  We stuffed all of our feelings into cigarettes...think about why that was, were we afraid that we would explode if we let our feelings out?  Were we afraid that we might hurt someone or that no one would like us if we weren't sedated by nicotine?  Did we really think that smoking helped us with stress or pain or sadness or feelings that we just did not want to feel?  Smoking actually feeds stress, it certainly doesn't help with depression because every time we smoke, we feel like we have failed to quit...it does not take away physical pain BUT we might think it does because we are distracted.  We are addicts...pure and simple and we don't know how to live without our drug of choice which happens to be nicotine.  No crave ever killed anyone but no one can tell you that cigarette smoking never killed anyone...COPD is the third leading cause of death in the United States.  It is often a direct result of smoking, in any event, it is seriously aggravated by smoking.  You CAN do this, we have all been where you are and we have all gotten to where we are one step at a time...sometimes they were baby steps and sometimes we doubted that we could possibly make it.  Find other ways to release dopamine...exercise, laugh, draw, bake, allow yourself to grow and to become the person you were meant to be.  I promise you that it gets easier.  Stay close to the site and keep repeating NOPE, Not One Puff Ever as often as you need to and you can do that silently or out loud.  Tell everyone you know that you quit smoking and ask them to help you keep that promise to yourself.  We are here to help in any way that we can, we all want you to succeed.

Welcome to EX,

Ellen

Pleiter
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I am weak. I chewed s piece of nicotine gum even though I painted a ceiling today and made candy, I am weak. This is damn hard. I need help. 

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elvan
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Addiction is very strong, you are not weak, you are recovering from a very strong addiction and you CAN do this, we all want to help you. Deep breaths, hold the air in and let it out very slowly through pursed lips.  Drink a very large glass of cold water.  Turn on music..DANCE, SING, watch funny videos.  Remember that there are no short cuts to recovery but it WILL get easier.  Hold onto your quit, you CAN do this, you ARE doing this.  Get some lemons and bite into a lemon, rind and all, when you feel a strong crave...this may need to be one baby step at a time.  I don't know where you are but I am in Virginia and this is way past my bedtime.  I will be back in the morning.  Stay close to the site, read blogs, read OLD blogs...click on a person's avatar and read their old blogs.  We all started at a day one and turned it into a day WON.  If you can...just go to bed and sleep tonight, tomorrow is another day and you can start it smoke free...just like you ended this one.

Ellen