it's been 2 weeks smoke free for me and that's the thought that keeps running thru my mind
I wondered that too in the first while after quitting because every single thing we did was wrapped around smoking but actually life is 100 % more enjoyable without sneaking off to find a place to smoke in all kinds of weather, I don't have the smokers cough no more and I'm not wasting money on the cancer sticks, keep stacking up your Days WON because it'll take some time to relearn life without the crutch of cigarettes but I think you are going enjoy being smokefree.
I love this! I feel beyond sad 2when I say I'm done. This is a fabulous question, discussion, what have you. So grateful every day for this site. Only been a few days on here, exactly what I need.
It may seem that way in the beginning - but actually life is more fun by not smoking. I went to a concert last night and never worried once about not being able to smoke - fun night!
going to a concert was exactly one if the things i was thinking about. I know it will take time, but I can't help thinking this- I loved smoking!
I think most smokers and exsmokers thought they loved smoking but really we liked getting a dose of nicotine to ward off withdrawal. When I went somewhere I couldn't smoke, the 1st thing I did was light the cigarette that was already in my hand or mouth when I left. When you regain your freedom you will no longer have that need to smoke.
Congratulations on two weeks. Things are more enjoyable without smoking because you are really experiencing them without being under the influence of an addictive drug. It WILL get easier and you WILL get stronger and stronger...you will find out that you can laugh without smoking, you can do anything without smoking that you did with smoking...you won't have to run off to smoke. Your addiction is going to try to trick you into thinking that you have to smoke...you DON'T. Take this one day at a time and believe that it will get easier...it WILL...you CAN do this!
Differences in happiness between smokers, ex-smokers and never smokers: cross-sectional findings from a national househo…
"Ex-smokers who have stopped for a year or more are happier than current smokers and similar to never smokers."
"Ex-smokers overwhelmingly reported being happier now than when they were smoking. "
" The large majority of exsmokers considered themselves to be happier having stopped smoking." " The fact that the respondents considered themselves to be happier makes it unlikely that they were actually more miserable."
I like to deal in Facts. But I will also add that I have become much Happier with Myself since I Quit Smoking. My list of what I like about smoking shrunk down to zero.
And it didn't take long! I wrote this at 100 days - now, I know that right now to you that might seem like a very long time but ir's only 3 Months and 10 Days: Gifts for Body, Mind and Spirit
It only seems like that now because you are still in active addiction. I felt the same when I first quit. But, actually, everything is still fun (ACTUALLY----even MORE fun!) after you quit. You think....oh, I won't enjoy a talk on the phone with friends, I won't enjoy a glass of wine, night out at the bar, even a walk in the woods. BUT YOU WILL! Have faith and trust those of us who were where you are now.....YOU WILL. But give it time. Getting over a smoking life and developing a new life takes time.
There is a video on youtube on Allen Carr's EasyWay Method to quit smoking. It's about an hour long. It's a good synopsis of his book. It is a great video to help remind us all that the feeling of smoking at all the major times are illusions. Do a search on youtube for Allen Carr and you will see it there. Plus the graphic depiction of the monster inside you (the addiction) is great.
I just ordered this book moments ago. I know there is no cure all, no magic potion! But, my strong will soul, has to find a way to stop, smoking. Period the end.
Only in the beginning of the quit. I'd freak out at the thought of going to an event, bon fire...with out my cigarettes! I'd take my life savers, gum, and sports bottle of water....and would be extremely happy at the end of a successful, enjoyable event smoke free!
You will too!
All the comments and advice you've received thus far are right on. We all felt that way in the beginning of our quits. "How can I enjoy life without a cigarette?" But then, how did you enjoy life before you ever put a cigarette in your mouth? You did. We all did. And that first cigarette we put in our mouths made most of us feel rather nauseous, made us cough and it took a while to get over that phase of the poisoning. Until our bodies adapted to it.
Same is true now after years of smoking when we want to quit. It takes a while to get over that phase of the chemical imbalance created in our brains AND the emotional need and behavioral aspect.
I want you to think about something. And dwell on IT, rather than on what you think you're missing. Think about why you came to this site. Why did you come here? Think about the answers to that very deeply. No the shallow ones (i.e. smoking is bad for me, it's expensive, etc. - something in you made it important enough in your life to quit smoking and take the step to come and join this site. What was that?) You've gone through two weeks of "the quitting process" and your addict brain is shouting at you, just like it did for all of us. Recognize that's just our addictive brain talking. Not the sane one. There's a little playlet I wrote that has a back and forth dialogue between our addict brain and our sane brain. Don't know if it will help but..: A Quit Dialogue in IV Acts Those were the back and forth thoughts that kind of went on in my own brain during my quit.
You have a choice. You can throw away all the effort you've put into your quit at any time. Two weeks, 8 months... whatever. You can believe us when we say it will get better, get easier, you won't feel that sadness about not being able to live your life with the same enjoyment and fun that you have as a smoker.... or - you can give in to the addiction.
I hope that the deep reason you came here and joined this site, that better part of you, is stronger than that lesser part of you. Aim for the best of you. Although it may be hell during the day, you'll awaken feeling an incredible sense of pride. And that will encourage you to the next day and the next.....
LOVED the Quit Dialogue, was awesome! Thanks for sharing :-)))
It did concern me at first and for me it was watching football. I just couldn't imagine watching a football game (live or on TV) without a smoke in one hand and a beer in the other. Initially, I accepted that I was going to have to just skip being interested in football and find some other interest, but as it turns out, I enjoy it even more without being polluted. There were other moments too like holidays and such, but they all have become far more enjoyable now. Cigarettes enhance nothing in LIFE! NOTHING!
Stay Strong and Embrace the Journey
What makes quitting so difficult?
I always thought that way before I quit smoking! Now I am saying how much more fun it is to not worry about smoking while doing the things I do! It gives me more time to enjoy the things I do without the worry of having to sneak away to grab a smoke! On top of me getting healthier from not smoking, I am not missing out on anything !
This is your brain.
It is a large well lit room with a door at either end.
When you see that thought approaching, let it run in one door and straight out the other.
You know it's just the old habit, dying hard, right?
Love it!! :-)
I think the only thing I enjoyed about smoking was seeing the wildlife outside in my yard when I was outside smoking.
I think the thing I hated about it was enduring those freezing winter days when it was like -30 below F. and now I don't have to endure that anymore. I guess for a long time I thought I enjoyed it too........but really did I? I have far more energy now to do things without that constant interruption and I LOVE that!! I didn't enjoy all the guilty feelings I had about deliberately destroying my health either!
It was kind of the opposite for me.... I could not get over how much FREE TIME I had when I quit. Not only did smoking potentially rob me of years from my life, it also made me a spectator of my life! Far too many things were missed, even in small measure, because I was outside smoking.
Instead of thinking about what was lost, try to consider what you gained.
I agree 100% with you! I have a 12 year old son that I feel like I am getting to know for the 1st time. I was either smoking alone out side, or shoeing him away because I was smoking outside. Than he didn't want to be near me because I stunk, so iff I went. I'm not going to dwell on all the time I have missed with him because I was smoking, I am moving forward and just LOVING getting to know him again... It's a beautiful thing. That's what I gained and he is SO proud of me.. always touting how many days smoke free I am to anyone who will listen LOL - It's all good! :-)
I love your perspective, Deb!!!
Thank you Susan! Positivity is the only way this works. I am not looking backwards!
That self created supposition/lie, (giving smoking the power of our happiness), is what kept us all smoking.
Pholland10 I am so happy to not feel like I have to sneak around to find a place to smoke...I do not have to feel like I SMELL like stale smoke, I do not have to endure the judgmental looks of people walking by...I can go forward and feel like I am at least TRYING to take care of myself. I really did NOT like smoking...I am an addict but I did not LIKE the drug.
Boss. You are just me from 6 months back. This was my question that i posted because i also felt that life was getting boring without cigarettes.
Life getting boring without smoking
Its just a phase. It will pass.
I rest my case.
Yes, I attached smoking to everything I did...everything. Letting go of that connection was aggravating at first. You are two weeks in, so I hope from all the responses you received that you can trust no one is lying to you when they say, 'you will get better.' Hang in there and thanks for posting your question.
thank you for all the words of wisdom and experiences! this is my first post/question I put out on here and I'm overwhelmed by the support! thank you all!!
Pholland10 Stay close to the site, it is a HUGE help, I have been overwhelmed by the support here more than once...and I have been here since January 2014. We are here, we all had to start at the beginning, there are no shortcuts so we have all been where you are. I don't think we forget but, you know what? It's still nice to be reminded of the doubts at the beginning of a quit...we all had them and staying close, doing the reading, making the commitment, and getting the support will bring you through. We WANT to help you.
Glad you are here and that you are asking questions and participating.
Right back atcha.
I kind of feel that a little, then I remind myself that it's all in my head, I can enjoy it all, and save my lungs and heart.
Nope; not one bit. The benefits of not doing that anymore far outweigh any thought of benefit from smoking. When you quit, you open up your life to nothing but a better life for you and those around you, most importantly your health and the health of loved ones.
better start going to places where smoking is restricted. you will know how free you are. it's freedom from slavery
Not me. I hate smoking.
Well I can see the thought, I was a heavy smoker but honestly I am excited to not be pinned down by the "when and where can I smoke next" thoughts
I would hate to think that my enjoyment of life was dependent upon smoking. My death would certainly be hastened by smoking, I would like to enjoy life as a clean and friendly experience, the way it is SUPPOSED to be.
You are on the right track annaaustin623 and karenjones...smoking is lethal.
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