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afriedh1
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Jennifer-Quit
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It looks like you are on day 12? Well 12 days is a really impressive start to a lifetime of freedom from smoking.  Stick with it - do something to distract yourself. Get busy - drink some ice water, go for a walk, take a shower, bite into a lemon ---- anything except smoke.  

YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to our community!

I don't really know much about you and your quit, but the information I will provide is what I highly recommend to ALL new quitters.  Reading is a great crave buster - and you will better understand your addiction, ways to cope with withdrawal, and tips on how to get past a craving.  Do ANYTHING but smoke.  All of us here who have been successful were exactly where you are, and we didn't die  We got through it - sometimes a minute or 5 minutes at a time.  Not easy - but doable!

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. Here is a link to a free PDF version of it:

http://media.wix.com/ugd/74fa87_2010cc5496521431188f905b7234a829.pdf

 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested in My Quit Plan http://www.becomeanex.org/my-quit-plan.php

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.

You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!

Nancy

Daniela2016
Member

Please educate yourself about the addiction, based on the links from YoungAtHeart‌, it will help you tremendously at the beginning of your quit.

You have particular questions, please ask!

Write about your struggles, share with us, it can accomplish 2 goals: it will help you release some of the tension you are under, and can bring back more specific help, for the particular issue you are fighting with right now!

Please keep talking to us!

And Welcome, you are in the right place to find all the help you need along your quitting journey!

Giulia
Member

Reading is your best resource.  What's going on with you?  Are you caught in craving land?  Did you read the responses from your status update last night?  Try to find something, ANYTHING, to occupy your mind.  Try this craving buster technique:  https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/message/30736-craving-buster-techniques   You might do some reading in the Relapse Prevention group.  Type 'relapse traps' in the community search box. 

elvan
Member

This really IS all about education, that is number one, know what to expect and PLAN for it, know that there will be good days and bad days, weren't there when you were smoking?  Grab onto something and HOLD on, I held onto NOPE and said it over and over and over again every day at the beginning of my quit.  

No crave lasts forever and no crave ever killed anyone....no one can say that about smoking!  PLEASE do the reading and know that it WILL get better, it just take TIME and I am sure you feel like that is endless right now, we have ALL been where you are right now and none of us are really super heroes, we are just like you.

Ellen

bonniebee
Member

Hi we are here to give you support I am glad you asked for help but please tell us more YoungAtHeart (Nancy ) gave you lots of info to begin I just want to say .........

                                    sayings welcome purple rose.gif

I am glad you are here !

Barbara145
Member

If you quit for 12 days, you can quit forever.  Give it time.  It takes time.  I was where you are four years ago.  It sucked.  I am so glad I did not give in.  Not smoking is pretty wonderful.

Please update us on how you're doing! We can help you either way - We Care!

indingrl
Member

Congrats on your NEW FREEDOM from your nicotine addiction and please keep on keeping on

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