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I hate to tell you but until your friend really wants to stop smoking he won't be able to. I smoked for 37 years and tried many times to give it up. When I was pregnant (for the baby) when I was sick (hurt too much to smoke) when my kids came home from school with all the alarming info (Mom, you could die and don't you want to quit for me) and none of this worked. Yes, I tried but it is something that must be done for no one other than yourself. There is a website called whyquit.com that gives some graphics that are hard to look at and this website is phenomenal for support. There are so many products available today. Chantix is a great drug if used for short term. Nicitrol Inhaler, gum and lozengers are also very helpful. I am on day 10 and after the first week of hell and I do mean hell, I feel that I just may have beat it this time. I got tired of smelling bad, being an outcast, coughing alot, spending so much money and mostly I was out of breath playing with my toddler grandchildren. I can't run around and play tag without getting winded. My mom smoked for 50 years and now has COPD and chronic bronchitis. She can't walk across the room without getting winded. Her life has changed so profoundly because of the smoking and she quit five years ago, but it was too late for her. I've watched her go down hill since she quit and I don't want that to happen to me. I hope this info helps. Good luck!
When he is ready to quit he will. Not when your ready. Remember, it's his addiction!
I agree that nothing will help until the person is ready to quit, but I do suggest buying Allen Carr's book on "The Easy Way to Quit Smoking". It has a no nonsense approach and it is written by a man who chain smoked for 30+ years. There are no "scare" tactics - just knowledge and makes you actually think about why you are still smoking when you really don't even want to be. Ellen Degeneres quit by using his approach.
What everyone is saying is the absolute truth. I chain smoked for 40 years. My wife quit (cold turkey) 7 years ago. I had told myself when they went over $20/carton I was done. They were 32 cents a pack when I started. When they reached $25 in California I moved to Virginia and $15. A year ago Christmas, I had to go outside and hide from my grandkids. January, the price was going up over the $20 mark and I made up my mind that I had to do it. Today is my one year mile stone. Moral of the story: there are only two choices, accept it or move on. When the price, both physical and mental, gets too expensive, he will quit. Not until then. If anyone says they are going to "try" to quit they have already failed.
Well today and this weekend is a big test tonight my paraents are coming home but my mom is the only one that smokes and I bowl tonight then go to PA to visit my aunt and uncle who don't smoke. 3 big battles I need to win!!!
Here here Ellen. Send him to whyquit.com, read the article on Addiction especially.
Then, it's up to him, you can't do it for him, or want to quit for him. In the same vein, he can't quit for anyone else either. He's lucky to have such a good friend.
Hi, I been smoke free for a little over two weeks. I'm relying on the patch and lozenges and am under a doctor's guidance. I keep thinking of when I will be weaned of the lozenges and eventually the patch. I have a strong desire to say smoke free and I can already feel the benefits from being an EX. I learned what my triggers are and I am using my willpower to not light up when I get stressed. I will continue to take it one day at a time and work on my efforts to stay smoke free. Any Suggestions?
Hi! I just wanted to let you know, I'm eighteen and have been smoking since New Years Day of my freshman year in high school. I had a really rough life as a teenage girl who was always adventurous, and of all the things that came and went (as do most things with high school girls) smoking was the single thing that always stayed with me. I don't know if this is how it may be for your boyfriend, but consider that it could be. My boyfriend now is very different than anyone I have ever been with-very good man, clean cut, had never even smoked out of a hookah til we met! At first, I felt like he was trying to change the edgy, fun-loving, go-getter, rockstar-styled girl that I am, but then one day he sat me down and just said, "Babe. I love who you are. I love that you're into music and that you are SO edgy and out there, but I want to spend the REST of my life with you and I can't do that if you're dead." Tears started pouring of course, and I still haven't quit, but the difference is that I'm trying. If your boyfriend really DOES want to quit, and I mean takes it seriously-he shouldn't be too angry if you take his cigarettes and try to moderate them. My boyfriend took my pack (aka my security) of cigarettes yesterday morning on the way to work and gave me one to smoke until he got off work at five. Feeling scared and frustrated, this was hard for me to let him do, but I knew he was doing it to HELP me-not hurt me. Him moderating my cigarettes makes it a lot easier. Non-smokers think that 4 in a day is A LOT when to us veterans know that maybe 10 or 15 is a lot. He helps me realize how much I'm polluting my body and it really helps! If that doesn't work, all you can do is keep believing he will quit. Say things like, "I know you can, babe. You just have to work...HARD!" instead of, "Are you really going to do it this time or are you just saying it again?" Keep up the encouragement. Ellen is right, he does have to WANT to, but even the slightest desire to quit can make helping him change everything. It's something he may not have had much motivation to do if you weren't there to guide him. Good luck! Hannah.
It's been 26 days since I becamean EX. I've had good times when the cravings weren't so bad and I've had days, if ididn't have the lozenegs, I minght have lit up. I've found it to be little battles at a time. I look for ways to pass time to give the craving time to pass. I some times I think of when I'm weaned of the patch and lozenegs and wonder if it will be hard. I've found that I can react a diffrent way to the triggers that make me want to smoke, not smoking isn't so bad. The longer I go without cigarettes the more determined I am to stay off them. I believe I have a good chance at quitting for good and I want to make it.
I truly believe I have a grip on staying smoke free. Like I've said before, the longer I stay smoke free the more determined to stay that way.
It's been 46 days my wife and I quit smoking. It is getting easier as far as the cravings go. When I use to smoke I enjoyed every part to do with smoking. When I quit, I wasn't convenced I wanted to. After about a week being smoke free, I got this desire to not smoke and I began to adjust my life to that of a non-smoker. Time to time I want to light up but I remind myself of how long I have gone without cigarettes and my will power takes over, and I get past the desire to smoke. We have made it this far and we are determined to stay smoke free.
albert it dosent matter what age you are its very hard to quit smoking.how long have you been smoking?
I agree with felecia, you ought to be looking for anyone to support your quit. In fact you'll probably pick up some even stronger reenforcement from older folks.... it's called life experience.
I am 42. Have been smoking for thirty years. Quit date is Friday 03/26/10. I will take all the support I can get - whatever age!
I t has been three monrhs since my wife and I quit smoking. It was a little rough for me in the beginning, but my wife seem to not have much problem putting cigatettes down. Even thought it was a struggle, at times, for me to not smoke, even though I am using the patch and lozengens, I would get the craving to light up. When I use to smoke, I enjoyed every part that comes with smoking. After quitting I didn't realise how automatic my smoking had become. I would catch myself reaching for my cigarettes even though I didn't any on me. I was almost like a reflex that I would do without thinking about it. As I began my snmoking ceassation, I learned what most of the triggers that made me light up were and how to re-channel my thoughts on to something else. I noticed the craving to light up didn't last long and I relied on my will power to get through the desire to smoke. I started smoking when I was thirteen, I am now fifty six. That is why I chose to use the patches so I could stand a better chance at quitting. I'm doing all fo this under a doctor's care and he had told me I am doing good at remaining smoke free. I have already stepped down on the amount the patches put into my system. I'm on step two with the patches and only use three to four lozengens a day. Eventually I will be off all of it and hopefully remain smoke free.
i am a bit older but i will support you
help i need support
This is the first time I've ever been on this site but I joined it right away. There are a few good groups to join on this site, but I liked this one because I know I'm going to have a pretty hard time with this and the fact that I have no one to talk to or to support/encourage me will make it almost impossible. Can I join this group? I'm a bit older than 23 but I'm a good listener, a good cheerleader and I'll support anyone who wants to better themselves, especially by quitting smoking. So, I'll be here for all of you and I've got a bit of life experience under my belt as well:)
I am looking for sapport to. I would also like to help others. The more sapport we have and give the better we will do. My name is kimberly. Im 32 I have been smoking for 19 years and my quit date is april 13. Hope i can quit this time.
It's April Fool's day. I am on Day 6 quit cold turkey march 27, no joking. Its a battle but Im a stubborn soldier.
Hello. My name is Sandi, and I just joined this program today... as well as this support group. I've tried every stop smoking 'tool' I could find, and did quit for three months last year using Chantix. Wellbutrin didn't work for me, and I developed depression with Chantix. So... it's going to be cold turkey this time. My quit date is April 21.
Stress is my big problem, and I'm working on ways to handle stress for the next two weeks.
Any support will be a big help.
Hi, I'm 19 and my quite day is May 16. 8 days after my 20th birthday. I have smoked for almost four years now and I want to quit! I want to be able to chase after my child better without having such a hard time breathing, and I want to be healthier for my family. The thing is I lost a lot of my friends so I dont have a lot of people to support me.
Can I join this group?
hey, im josh just started here and i could use all the friends and support i can get all help is welcome
I stopped smoking just about one month ago. Have slipped a few times and felt awful that I could be so weak. This is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do. Enjoy reading all your comments, about your struggles and your successes. Hope you don't mind me signing on with the group.
I am older but I sure could use some support and would be happy to cheer anyone on that has quit and trying to stay quit.
I would be happy to join this group also if I may.
I'm new here and I need any members to offer support me in my upcoming quit date, May 2nd. I have recently started nearly chain smoking, especially since my Mom, who lives 1999 miles away, is having serious physical and severe emotional problems.
I need support like you do Brenda. Please help me!
How are you guys doing? This is an awesome site. Today is my 1st time viewing this site. I think this is going to help me. I'm 36 a housewife, & a mother of 3 middle school girls, in Houston. My quit date was Tuesday April 27th, Today is my 7th day of a smoke free life. That's so wonderful to say, I really hope this is the last time that I need to quit. I feel this could be the time for me. With good support is all I truly need. I'll be here for anyone that I could help, & hopefully I could get support in return from one or more of you. Thanks!
Hi Maureen, & Brenda
How are you ladies doing? This time around has been the hardest for me to quit, Yes I've tried about 4 or 5 times in the past 20 yrs.. I'm a 36 yrs old housewife, & mother of 3 girls. They all want me to live long and continue to take care of them. I'm just so happy that I don't smell like an ashtray, & I can take a deep breath without coughing up a storm. My name is Cindy, I'm from Houston, & this is my 7th smoke free day on the patches. I need lots of understanding support.
Hello all it has been 9 days since I have had a smoke. I still want one every once and a wile but I just started this healthy weight loss program that I love. The program helps to get all of the bad stuff out of your system and makes you feel great. I tell myself every day that if I smoke I will be putting bad chemicals into my system so staying on my weight loss program will be worthless. I have not smoked since my quit date may 13 and i have lost 10 lbs.
I'm new and will need friend for support and encourgement. Got room for one more?
Hi my name is Heather and my quit day is tomorrow. I really could use all the friends and support I could get so please add me to you friend list and help me!! lol thank u
Greetings and Welcome. Generally the groups and forums here are not where most of the activity takes place. Please check the dates of the responses on the group and see if there are any recent ones before posting your own. If the posts look old you're unlikely to get a response to yours. The majority of the support community here reside in the Blogs. It's one of the blue tabs above the EX Community Header. The best way to introduce yourself and gain the greatest support is to write a blog yourself. We're eager to meet you. Simply click on the Blog tab, then on "write a blog post," give it a title, type in the body and click on "Publish." Look forward to seeing your there!
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