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Hi to all!! My name is Deb and I'm a Born-Again Christian. I live in Rhode Island AND I have been smoke-free for 4-weeks and 1-day. Others tell me it should be easy at this point in my quit, yet I feel a continual state of anxiety. I DO NOT want to sacrifice the past 30 days that I fought so hard to get. Things have been difficult lately, healthwise. I discovered that I have a blockage in my heart last week, and yesterday my doctors informed me that I need a biopsy for a suspicious mass in my breast. I've already had an extremely large tumor removed from the same side some years ago. My husband is a reformed smoker of 3 years after going through lung cancer surgery. It upsets me that I get very little support from him. This is my plight. I know that The Lord led me to this quit through a chain of people. I do not want to disappoint Him or myself for that matter. I'm hangin' on in Rhode Island!!!!!

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imadeer_quit_january_2007 Dec 4, 2012 8:53 AM
30 days is the first big hurdle. many don't make it that far.

have you heard about no mans land?

you need to keep relearning life without a cig for another 100 days.

smoking isn't going to resolve health issues.

smoking has no power unless ou give it away.
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Newfound_Joy Dec 4, 2012 9:00 AM
Welcome, Deb!! You have definitely reached the right place! You will find amazing support, love, and friendship here. The others that tell you "it should be easy at this point" - are they non-smokers? Never listen to the "should be's". This is YOUR QUIT. You must protect it at all costs. No, it was NOT easy for me, either, at 4 weeks and 1 day. I was still continually thinking of smoking.

You have many tools to learn about and use here. Knowledge is POWER here. You must know your enemy. I learned the most about my addiction by reading Allen Carr's EasyWay (free pdf format). Finally I found someone who actually thought like me about smoking sickorettes. I thought I was "unique", but I am not. We all are drug addicts with our addiction of choice being nicotine.

If you are having a strong craving to smoke, blog here first. The troops will come rallying to your support. Read, post, learn, make new friends. Just DO NOT smoke no matter what.

I am a born-again Christian also, and I will pray for your health issues. There are many people on here with smoke related health issues. You will meet them and identify with them.

Everyone told me it would get easier. I had to hang on to their promises because that is all I had. Now I can tell you.....this will get easier.

Visit whyquit.com and watch Joel's videos.

http://digg.com/newsbar/topnews/Allen_Carr_s_Easy_Way_To_Stop_Smoking_Download_free_PDF

100 things to do instead of smoke (written by an EXpert here, Aztec):

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/aztec-blog/2012/10/16/things-to-do-instead-of-smoke

Always remember, we are here for you! We practice N.O.P.E.

Not one puff ever
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Thomas3.20.2010 Dec 4, 2012 9:01 AM
Our Creator did not make us in His Image so that we can destroy ourselves with Addiction! Quitting increased my Spirituality just as it improved every other aspect of my LIFE! You're still new at this though I Congratulate you for staying Smoke FREE for your First Month! Keep at it One Day at a Time! Prayer definitely helped/helps me Protect my QUIT!
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marciewhosoever Dec 4, 2012 9:09 AM
good job on 30 days. Like Ima Deer said, give it another 100 days. ( you are in no mans land right now) I will try to put a link up about no mans land.

I am also a born again Christian, keep praying. You CAN do this. Whatever happens do not give up. Please read the free book (pdf) by Allen Carr that Newfound joy gave you the link to. It will help greatly! It helps to change your attitude about your quit. When that changes, it WILL become much easier :)

Protect your quit Deb! Keep coming here to this site for excellent support and friendship.

Marcie ~ Not one hit since the day I quit! 607 days and feelin' fine ♥
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aztec Dec 4, 2012 9:13 AM
Every day there is a freedom train that runs with a virtual party and people post their milestones.

Be sure and reward yourself for them, it will make a big difference when you see or use stuff that you got for certain milestones. for my 3rd year i got a puppy. his pic is on my page. His name is Sam, He lost his blue eye but hes still a doll.

I will send you a copy of the no mans land writing by George, its a good one.

get some mantras,

I have a favorite , "i would rather breathe than smoke"

I don't have to do that to myself anymore.

smoking isn't an option.

well welcome again.

keep posting, I joined after I had some time too,

don't look back, there is a ton of support and love here.

G-d bless you

aztec
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SarahP Dec 4, 2012 9:15 AM
Here's the original No Man's Land Blog from Dale's page:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2011/05/24/no-mans-land-days-30-to130-approximate

I host a blog every Wednesday afternoon with a different topic related to NML. You can find those blogs on my page if you don't want to wait!

You're right on track, keep moving forward!
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reneenc1 Dec 4, 2012 9:24 AM
You are in No man's land & doing a fantastic job considering all you are goin gthrough!!! I agree with the above comment~ who said it hould be easy at this point?? No one who knows what they are talking about. I am also in No Man's Land and it is not easy at times. You CAN do this~ You ARE doing it! Reward yourself, ride the freedom train & congratulate yourself every day- every minute- you are not smoking!!
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marciewhosoever Dec 4, 2012 9:32 AM
oops forgot to put the no mans land blog like I said I would! Thanks Aztec and Sarah!

LOL
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Patty-cake Dec 4, 2012 9:37 AM
Hi DebR,

Even though you may think you understand everything about quitting, there is so much more to know. Keep educating yourself on nicotiine addiction, it will help strengthen your commitment.

You are going through so much healthwise. So now you have some heavy stressors to deal with on top of the newness of quitting. Please understand that smoking again will not help your health. Smoking again would only put you back where you started and you will still have to deal with these same health issues plus addiction.

Now that you have quit, you are learning a new normal. A new way of dealing with happiness, sadness, stress, boredom, etc. Like Sarah said, you are on the right track, keep moving forward.

((Lot of Hugs for you))
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joyeuxencore Dec 4, 2012 9:40 AM
Morning Deb,

We have been together in this journey as I am in 30 days as well...I will contiune to hold you in my thoughts and prayers...I had hoped to feel better physically by now but I don't..What I do know for sure is that whatever we are going through it would not be better if we smoked...This was a hard fought month for both of us and we need to stick together in our quit NO MATTER WHAT!!! Love you Deb...thanks for always being there for me...xo.
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smokedout041412 Dec 4, 2012 9:55 AM
Good morning Deb. You have a lot on your plate with those health scares. We both know your prognosis is much better being a non smoker. Smoking very possibly contributed to the blockage. Stay strong---Don't let go of what you have worked so hard for. Take care of you. (((Hugs)))
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jojo_2-24-11 Dec 4, 2012 10:01 AM
Hi Deb, I'm very sorry to hear of your health issues. Smoking will not make any situation in life better. You have a great quit going, Congratulations on 30 days! NML is a place we all have to go through to get where we are going. You can do it! Being over it by now, is a very insensitive comment. We are addicts and I know that I for one am just one cigarette away from being a full blown smoker again. This is not where I want to be and I think I can safely say, none of us want this! Each quit is different, just as we are! The things we have in common are the desire to stay smoke-free and sharing what we have learned along the way. Take what you need and leave the rest. I am very glad you are here with us.
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ShawnP Dec 4, 2012 11:57 AM
Welcome Deb and congratulations on 30 days! We are all here for you!
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virgolady2 Dec 4, 2012 5:38 PM
bless you deb your travelling an awesome journey the one to help you breathe easier stay strong as we are all travelling along side you pitfalls they maybe but theres enough of us to help each other over any hurdle stay strong and never look back
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Danno_11-10-12 Dec 4, 2012 10:35 PM
Thoughts and prayers to you during this time Deb. God will carry you through. Congrats on 30 days and entering nml. I'm at 25 and right behind you
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