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Where's The Rub?

JonesCarpeDiem
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‎10-29-2019 05:14 PM

Rub "a difficulty, obstacle or objection"

In quitting, the rub is whatever allows you to give up your quit.

See, the rub is actually just an excuse.

Nothing that I know of requires smoking.

Have you considered the rub?

Is it losing a pet or loved one?

Is it a car wreck?

Losing your job or a friendship you value?

A hurricane? Tornado? Fire? Flood?

What's it going to take for you to give up on your quit and smoke?

If you think about these things in advance, perhaps it is a way to prepare your response if they happen.

The only one on my list was if I suddenly  lost my wife and daughter in an accident.

Thankfully, that never happened.

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.