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What If There Was No Battle In The First Place?

JonesCarpeDiem
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      The following is a short portion of an article reviewing a new psychological study on self control written by a professional reviewing the study.

 

      “Our prototypical model of self-control is angel on one side and devil on the other, and they battle it out,” Fujita says. “We tend to think of people with strong willpower as people who are able to fight this battle effectively. Actually, the people who are really good at self-control never have these battles in the first place.”

      Wouldn't it help to be willing to have self control?

After all, how does self control come about?

There are only two ways I can discern. It's either by willpower or acceptance.

Willpower is resistance.

Resistance in electrical wire heats up the wire and can create a line/voltage drop.

With a musical signal it degrades the quality of the output.

      So, if you didn't want to battle yourself, I believe reaching willingness is deciding and accepting your choices to get to your goal.

here's how I got to that place before I quit 

Where Does It Come From? 

The myth of self-control - Vox - Pocket 

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.