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Share your quitting journey

"When you stop learning, you are a slave to what you know."

JonesCarpeDiem
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‎10-15-2018 08:43 AM

"Your brain wants your life to be predictable.

Your emotions want your life to be stable.

But stability and predictability are, interestingly, how you stay stuck and in survival-mode.

You can only have freedom in your life when you leave stability and predictability behind you.

You cannot be free unless you step into the unknown.

If you’re not willing to step into the unknown, then you’re a hostage to what you know. You’re a slave to your current circumstances.

You’re a slave to your emotions.

You’re a slave to your story.

You’re a slave to the fixed-mindset you have about what you think you are."

"people inflate or exaggerate reality by 5–7X when they fear avoiding loss.

Interestingly, people stay in even terrible addictions because, at least while in the addiction, their life is predictable. Even when they know their life is being destroyed, the fear of the unknown keeps them from changing their lives."

https://medium.com/@benjaminhardy/to-have-freedom-in-your-life-you-must-stop-avoiding-this-one-thing... 

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.