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I can be abrupt but it's not out of meaness

JonesCarpeDiem
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      When I was on tour right out of high school, they put two of us in a room and rotated the schedule weekly.

      There was one guy that nobody could stand. No one wanted to have anything to do with him let alone share a space for a week.

He Was A Whiner. He Whined About Everything.

The End Of Every Sentence Was A Whine.

      When it came time for us to room together, we were in Manila.

      After about two days of this I told him, we needed to talk. And we sat down and I asked him if he knew why people avoided him?

      I explained that everything he said was said in a whine.

      You know what? He never whined again and everyone liked him because of it.

      That honesty CHANGED HIS LIFE.

      He is a very successful and happy person in Los Angeles.

      If You Can Be This Honest With Yourself, You Will Succeed.

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Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.