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Yes, it CAN be too late

Blog Post created by elvan on Jul 11, 2017

I hesitate to say this because the last thing I want to do is to discourage anyone but you really CAN wait too long to quit smoking.  You really CAN do too much damage to survive.  I hate saying that, I hate THINKING it.  I have certainly impacted whatever life I have left so that the quality is significantly less than it could have been if I quit earlier or better yet, if I never started.

My daughter’s EX boss is turning 60 this year, he sold his business in January and was planning to stop working 50+ hours a week and being tethered to work.  He smoked since he was 7, yes you read that right, he was SEVEN.  I have no idea how that happened or where his parents were, I know they were very educated and wealthy people but I have no idea what kind of parents they were.  He stopped smoking cigarettes about 7 years ago and then about 6 years ago, he started smoking those little cigars. He had been having severe back pain and then hip pain and finally went to the doctor because it was impacting his life.  He had no cough, no shortness of breath.  He was diagnosed a couple of months ago with lung cancer that has metastasized to his spine and his hip, there is also an area on his pancreas. They have been treating him aggressively with chemotherapy.  It has not done anything to slow the progress.  They want to try one more round and then switch to radiation but they have been very honest with him that it does not look like there will be a positive outcome.

It MAY have been too late for him to quit.  He and his wife have only been married for about 7 years, she is 20 years younger than he is.  It is a second marriage for both.  I have never liked him, not that I would wish this on anyone.  My daughter is devastated, she was very close to him and cares very deeply about him despite the fact that he was not always a kind or caring boss, let alone friend.  I spoke with her last night and she sounds desperate, she does not understand why they cannot do a lung transplant, why they cannot save him.  He will leave behind two daughters, one is pregnant and due in September, and two stepsons who he has never embraced or included in his life any more than he absolutely HAD to. I am sorry that this is happening, sorry for his wife and kids, for his daughters, for his friends, for MY daughter who did quit smoking over a year and a half ago, thank God.

Don’t wait until it is too late.  Oh, I know, you could get hit by a bus tomorrow.  Would you stand in front of the bus as it barreled toward you?  That’s what it is like to smoke.

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