I had eight failed quits under my belt by the time I signed up at EX. Eight. I didn't know how in the world I was going to win against smoking this time around, but I sure knew how I was going to fail. After all, I was already an expert at sabotaging myself. I was a master at caving in.
But, wait...what if knowing how you're your own worst enemy is actually a valuable asset? On our way to learning how to win, what if we also simply refused to lose - yet again?!
I could win by refusing to lose!
If I first refused to take a single puff ever again, then I could focus on learning how to work my way through anything and everything else that happened - by any means necessary!
"Whoa, wait. Anything? Everything? Come on, now."
Think about these potent triggers we face: isolation, anger, loneliness, disappointment, fatigue, stress, anxiety, boredom, sadness, sickness, depression. Guilt trips, peer pressure. Arguments, break-ups. Tough-talking bullies, crazy drivers, misfit coworkers, pushy friends, unsupportive family members. No matter how nerve-wracking the situation, no matter how obnoxious the antagonist, everything can be handled and managed - in so many smart ways! - if you also just dig in your heels, use your head and heart, and refuse to lose!
So, from this day on, I'm asking you to refuse to lose. I'm asking you to let this program and community train you how to refuse to repeat every heartbreaking failure that brought you here in the first place.
You just have to refuse to lose.