This is a personal story. I realize we are all different and that every quit is also different. However, maybe, my story can help one of you.
I quit for a very long time at one point in my life----13 years. Now, there are those on this site who don’t think you should share this information. Their feeling is that it will be depressing and demoralizing for new people to hear of such a long quit going down the drain. While I don’t concede the point….I understand the line of thinking. I am choosing to ignore it with this blog.
That long quit of mine failed because it was doomed to fail right from the start. And this is why I want to share the story. If this is your “quit thinking”…….do everything you can to change that thinking right now…..or, sad to say, your quit will also not be forever.
The quit I am in now is forever. Yes….that sounds over confident…..but it’s true. The reason I can say that is I do not in any way, shape or form “want” to smoke a cigarette……ever. Not when work is at its most stressful, not when I am seriously worried about my kids, not when my Mother died. During my first long but unsuccessful quit……I constantly “wanted” a cigarette. I talked about them, I acted like a martyr, I envied smokers….and I eventually became one again.
FULL DISCLOSURE--- I do, occasionally, think about smoking….a very fleeting thought that makes me smile and sometimes laugh…..such a ridiculous thing to do. I don’t ever “want” a cigarette…..I don’t ever “want” to smoke.
In my opinion……your thinking HAS to be that cigarettes are nothing. Your thinking HAS to be that smoking was a mistake…….a mistake you wish you had never made. A mistake which you are SO HAPPY you are no longer making.
You have to enjoy being a non smoker…..not feeling sorry for yourself that you ”can’t smoke”. You cannot just “mouth” the words…….you have to internalize the feeling…….people who smoke don’t “get” to smoke….they “have” to smoke.
Once you realize how foolishly ridiculous smoking is……no excuse will ever have any weight with you. Your quit will be safe in your keeping……because you will have DIFFERENT QUIT THINKING.