~~Take a little time to be amazed by something you won't enjoy unless you consciously choose to focus on it. See the things you can't se when you're rushing. Hear the things you can't hear when you're stressing. Get so caught up in your senses that everything else seems to stop for a moment---because things don't actually stop. So we have to be the ones to do it.~~ Lori Deschene
So I try to not make my day about any one particular 'thing'. Even in the early days of my quit. That was never my entire focus. The moods I was in because I 'couldn't smoke'...the cravings....the jitteriness....the missing it....the thoughts....well, you get the picture.
Sometimes the more I thought about it, the bigger it got until I 'slipped' once again. It's kinda like I was creating my reality. In actuality, I wanted to smoke so much I set myself up for failure.
This time I did things differently. I went on about my business. If I was doing something with my kids, I focused on them. If I was working, I focused on that. And I found myself spending a lot of time outdoors watching the grass grow (yes, really!). I listened to the birds talk to each other. I watched the clouds float by. I felt the breeze on my face. And I focused on nature.
Life doesn't stop. Nothing does, really. So I learned to stop instead. To feel my body as I did yoga. To hear the joy in my daughter's voice. To feel my grandson's arms around my neck as he hugged me.
It's those moments that I remember now. Not the smoking and definitely not the 'missing' it part!! I got on with life the best I could, and when I needed to talk about it, I came here and talked. Talking gets it out of my head and once it's out, it's workable. Truthfully, that's how I am about everything. If something bothers me, I don't sit and stew in it because then it gets ridiculously large and hard to control. So I let it out.
I am amazed now at least several times daily. I allow myself to be and give myself permission to stop and get caught up in my senses. It's marvelous!! The aromas...the sights...the feelings...the sounds...the tastes of life. Simply magical sometimes!! And I don't want to miss a thing
Please try to take time to be amazed by something you have to consciously stop and focus on. It's a good habit to form and a wonderful reminder that it's the small things in life that are actually the big things!