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Redraycraft
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Redraycraft's Status Update on 07/12/2019

Day 3 and I really want to buy some cigs  Deliberately not food shopping so I can't buy them
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gregp136
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Stay on this site.  We are here for you!  You have control over your quit.  Remember why you are quitting!
avian3
Member

Do whatever it takes these first few days. Your post reminded me of my first week or so when I would avoid eating because after eating was when I wanted a cigarette the most. At least it kept the weight off, for a while.
Redraycraft
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What is the average time for cravings to subside. I have been smoking at least 2 packs/day for 58 years.
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avian3
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Everyone is different. All I remember is that it was a gradual process. Some days you will crave more other days less. I just carried on with life the best I could, telling myself no matter what happens, smoking is not an option. One night I just remember going to bed and thinking "Wow I never thought of smoking the entire day!"
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Redraycraft
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Unfortunately, I live with a man who likes to anger me, argue with me, and moving is not an option. The only relief I get is to go out in the backyard for a smoke or two. He's too lazy to follow me out there but he starts up the minute I come back in. It's too hot for yardwork or to stay out very long with my two bull terriers. My life is ONE BIG BUCKET OF STRESS! So naturally I chose now to try quitting.
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indingrl
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Cravings 1-2 minutes - please take what HELPS and let go of the rest to be HELPFUL is MY only aim - thank you - Serenity Prayer HELPED ME - with cravings and personality clashes and just plain bad mood -  bad day - the prayer is - God grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change Courage to change the things I can and the WISDOM to know the difference
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elvan
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Welcome to EX, I really cannot tell you the average time for cravings to subside because we really are all different.  Smoking really never helped with stress even if the addiction told you that it did.  What it did was to feed the addiction until the next time and then it just keeps that merry go round going.  I never smoked in the house so outside was my refuge for smoking too...I found that if I still went outside and just took some deep breaths or blew some bubbles, that it distracted me and didn't hurt me.  I did not keep any smoking paraphernalia in the house so I would have HAD to go out to get cigarettes and that would involve making that decision to give up my quit and get in the car and drive to a store.  I had so many failed quits before this one that I cannot possibly even count them, I don't think I could even give you an estimate.  I can tell you that once I learned more about this addiction, I had the tools I needed to go on this journey to being smoke free.  I read everything I could find about nicotine addiction and I made a virtual "tool kit" to help me deal with my cravings.  I identified what my triggers were and how strong they were.  I made plans for what to do INSTEAD of smoking when they occurred...I used the My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX plan from here.  I understood that I smoked to deal with my feelings, whether they were anger or fear or stress or physical pain...you name it, I smoked over it.  That stopped me from FEELING, it stuffed my feelings down and left me emotionally stunted, like most addicts.  Stuffing is not a good thing because nothing ever changes, once you accept that smoking does nothing FOR you, only TO you, it becomes a whole new world.  You can accept that it is okay to feel sad, it is okay to feel angry or stressed and smoking never REALLY did anything for physical pain...it was the addiction convincing me that it did.  I smoked for 47 years and have now been smoke free for over five years.  I will not tell you that it has all been easy but I will tell you that as I built time away from smoking, I could feel myself getting stronger.  I have pretty severe COPD, I am on oxygen at night, I didn't quit until I got so sick that I really did not expect to live.  I came to this site every day after I was well enough to sit up and participate.  I cannot tell you how much it helped me.  I came here every morning and every evening and I read blogs and commented and took any advice I got very seriously.  I knew that the people here had been where I was and that they KNEW what I was going through.  I made a commitment to myself that I would not smoke again, no matter what, that I would get through things one day at a time, sometimes one FEELING at a time.  Each day, you get stronger and you begin to recognize that strength.  You do not have to accept abuse from anyone, remember that.  You are an adult and you are worthy of respect and consideration ALL the time.

​We are here and we all want you to succeed, you CAN succeed and it WILL get easier, it takes time.

​Again, welcome.
​Ellen
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Redraycraft
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Day 4 and I slipped up. I've had 4 today bc the guy I live with has been miserable to me all day. It's hard to live with someone who keeps saying he just wants to die bc life is so bad with me, and no moving out is no an option for either of us. I'll be start again tomorrow.
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elvan
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So sorry to hear that.  Start as soon as possible and don't think smoking is going to help anything, it certainly isn't going to make this person stop saying he wants to die because life is so bad...it isn't going to help ANYONE.
​Ellen
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